Oh if it was passed through intercourse and not oral, then yes, it is most likely type 2. Unless you have a burning need to confirm, I think you're safe to think type 2.
When you talk to your partner, remember that he has things he won't be all that jazzed about telling you, too. This is a discussion, not a confessional. You have an infection that does it's biological thing, sheds, recurs and outbreaks, and yes, transmits. Other things transmit, too - colds, flu, strep. The only difference with herpes is the mode of transmission and that it's incurable.
You've done nothing to put him at risk, so there is no need to have told him before, and that may be a good opener for you. I assume that since you are seeing him again, at some point, further sexual activity will be happening. Just say that - "Since I like you, and the sex stuff so far has been great, we should have a talk about protection, birth control, and STDs. Nothing we've done so far is risky, but since this is going forward, I'd like to know if you may have anything that could concern me, and I'd like to share with you the same info."
Be ready to answer his questions - he will have some, most likely. Have the handbook ready to refer to if you want.
And don't forget that he may tell you about his STD history, but he may also tell you that he has a poor credit history, a criminal record of violence, or that his mother still buys his undies. You still get to decide if he's right for you, too.
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Oh hon, you are not a walking biohazard. If you get nothing else from this, please remember that.
First, do you know what type of herpes you have? Genital herpes can be type 1 or 2, and the transmission rates are different for each. For now, I'll assume you have type 2, but if you don't know, you should ask your doctor for a type specific IgG blood test to find out.
So you are on meds (I'm assuming valtrex or acyclovir), which means that you are suppressing the virus. If this is all you do, along with avoiding sexual contact when you have symptoms, your male partner would only have about a 2-3% chance of getting this from you a year. This assumes "normal" sexual activity, like intercourse 2-3x a week, etc.
If you use condoms AND the meds, it drops it to about a 1-2% chance.
(For reference, you have a better chance of getting pregnant on the pill with typical pill usage than of transmitting herpes to a partner.)
Fingering and licking fingers is not a risk for transmitting herpes. Even if he had performed oral sex on you, it is highly unlikely you'd have transmitted anything to his mouth. Herpes doesn't typically go from the genitals to the mouth, and oral hsv2 is RARE. Oral hsv1 is very common, but it originates there, doesn't get transmitted to the mouth.
It can't spread to your mouth since you already have antibodies to it which will protect you from getting it in another location on your body.
Have you told your partner about having herpes? I've had it for 10+ years, and haven't ever had anyone turn me down. I've tried to use it as a deterrent when men won't leave me alone, like, "yeah, no you don't want me, I have herpes", and it doesn't even work. Trust me that I am not a supermodel. A few have even said they have it, too.
Some may turn you down. That's within their rights. You can turn a man down for any reason - he's too tall, too short, too broke, has a criminal record, lives with his mother, lets his mother do his laundry - whatever. Some of those things he can't change, but we are all gifted with the right to say no for any reason. It will FEEL personal, but it isn't. This just means you are free to find a man more suited for you.
Also, don't forget that your partners may have something they can transmit to you. That's just as important, and you should be having an STD talk before things get too much further with your man, if you are going to continue this with him. (I have no idea if this is someone you are interested in or it was a one time thing.)
You should read the Herpes Handbook, which is written by Terri Warren. She is one of the world's leading experts. It's also free. :) https://westoverheights.com/herpes/the-updated-herpes-handbook/
And don't forget - you are not a walking biohazard. :)