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WHAT ARE THE EFFECTS OF BLEEDING AFTER FINGERING?
I HAVE FINGERED MYSELF JUST BECAUSE MY BF SAID ME TO DOO IT AS EARLY AS IT POSSIBLE.... JUST WANT TO KNOW THAT ... NOW ITS BEEN BLEEDING .... IS IT HARMFUL? .... IS THERE ANY SYMPTOM FOR ANY DISEASE LIKE STI OR HIV?
COMMUNITY LEADER
Sweetheart, there are no medical risks if your hymen tissue is broken. It happens to women all the time, and not necessarily from sexual things. If you live in a very strict society with restrictive rules about women, it might be that your hymen would be taken as proof of your virginity, and you might get into trouble with patriarchial men for having a broken hymen. But (depending on where you live), if you were to be asked about this in a challenging way by some male, you could explain that you did it yourself (if your hymen really is broken and the bleeding was not just from you scratching yourself, or from your period). How old are you, and do you live in a society with extremely strict rules about women's bodies?
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i am 19 years old ...... from which society i belong too, is another issue .... the fact is that ... after doing it ... i am not happy with myself .... i am not believing that i have done it ...... i was not aware of fingering n all things related to it .... but when it got bleed ,it makes me tensed .... because i never ever wanted to do anything like this ..... what i am doing and what i have to doo .... i think...i am not making any right decision....... but thank you for ur concern
after knowing about it ... now i have decided that i will not ever do it again ...... really thankuu
before this i was not familiar with anything....... but now much of things are clear to me
Well, as I said before, your boyfriend is not the best advisor on things like this, because he has his own self-interested reasons to tell you to do things. There is nothing wrong with taking charge of your own sexuality, but as I said, depending on the culture, there can be a pretty strong double standard that is enforced by men, and can actually make various sexual things dangerous for a woman. Good luck to you, just keep your horndog boyfriend out of the equation when you make decisions about what you do or don't want sexually.
yup for sure i will take stand for myself
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Absolutely, sweetheart. When a man advises a woman about something sexual, usually his "little man" is doing the thinking, and does not have the woman's best interests at heart if it conflicts with what the "little man" wants. You take care of you. :)
can i ask u something more ????......... because i think the situation with which i am passing ..... it is making me some how mad ....... i am losing myself ..... i want to talk to some one .... but i am not finding any such person around me ..... because in my society i cannot talk about sexual issues like here i am talking to u
i am in trouble ....... because the person whom i love ...... i cannot ever think negative about him ..... even most of the things are against him.... i am the person who want love but not just for having sex but also for care tooo ..... make ensure that the person next to u ur love , what he/she makes feel happy and calm ....... but the problem is that .... the person whom i love by my soul always and just demands for body , sex ans thats it ...... whenever i say i dont want to do it he will angry on me saying that what if i die ... :(..... that always makes me hurt .....
AND JUST BECAUSE OF THE FEAR OF LOSING HIM ,.... I ALWAYS URGE MYSELF TO DO WHAT I DON'T WANT AND WHAT HE DEMANDS FOR ,....... WHAT CAN I DO???
He is blaming you for not pleasing him sexually and claiming he will die? What a manipulator he is.
There is some ridiculous folklore that a certain class of men pass around to each other, mostly in order to justify sex with prostitutes. They pretend to themselves that unless they have sex (not just an orgasm by their own hand but real sex with a woman), they will become infertile or explode or something. It is foolish but obviously they are glad to (pretend to) believe this myth, because it gives them an excuse to pressure their girlfriends for sex, or to buy sex.
In fact, men can go for long periods of time without having sex without it being unhealthy, and men can masturbate if they feel like it, and nothing bad will happen. It is NOT the girlfriend's fault if she is not interested in having sex with a man to whom she is not married, his horniness is not her problem. Saying no is particularly not the girlfriend's fault if there are heavy societal penalties that will fall only on her, should she give in to the man's pressure for sex. She is only being sensible. She is not killing the man. Any man that claims that is being a jerk.
I would gather from all of your questions that you live in a place where men can do what they want sexually but if they manage to talk a woman into doing it with them and she is caught, she will be criticized, penalized, or worse. If this is the case, no man (even if he is your "boyfriend") should pester a woman for sex that would be high risk to her. A man who loves a woman will care about the risks to her more than he will care about the satisfaction of his physical desire. The higher the risk to you, the more he should care, if he loves you.
In your shoes, I would not fear losing a man who urges me to do things I would pay a penalty for doing. I would understand that he does not have my best interests at heart, and is only interested in himself, and intends to use me as a receptacle for, basically, satisfying lust. It is not a flattering thing to be asked for sex for such a purpose.
Go to school, get trained in an area where you can find a good job, and stand on your own two feet. Pay attention only to men who are respectful of you and of your body. Let this self-interested idiot go on to some poor fool who will fall for his manipulation. It does not have to be you.
There is some ridiculous folklore that a certain class of men pass around to each other, mostly in order to justify sex with prostitutes. They pretend to themselves that unless they have sex (not just an orgasm by their own hand but real sex with a woman), they will become infertile or explode or something. It is foolish but obviously they are glad to (pretend to) believe this myth, because it gives them an excuse to pressure their girlfriends for sex, or to buy sex.
In fact, men can go for long periods of time without having sex without it being unhealthy, and men can masturbate if they feel like it, and nothing bad will happen. It is NOT the girlfriend's fault if she is not interested in having sex with a man to whom she is not married, his horniness is not her problem. Saying no is particularly not the girlfriend's fault if there are heavy societal penalties that will fall only on her, should she give in to the man's pressure for sex. She is only being sensible. She is not killing the man. Any man that claims that is being a jerk.
I would gather from all of your questions that you live in a place where men can do what they want sexually but if they manage to talk a woman into doing it with them and she is caught, she will be criticized, penalized, or worse. If this is the case, no man (even if he is your "boyfriend") should pester a woman for sex that would be high risk to her. A man who loves a woman will care about the risks to her more than he will care about the satisfaction of his physical desire. The higher the risk to you, the more he should care, if he loves you.
In your shoes, I would not fear losing a man who urges me to do things I would pay a penalty for doing. I would understand that he does not have my best interests at heart, and is only interested in himself, and intends to use me as a receptacle for, basically, satisfying lust. It is not a flattering thing to be asked for sex for such a purpose.
Go to school, get trained in an area where you can find a good job, and stand on your own two feet. Pay attention only to men who are respectful of you and of your body. Let this self-interested idiot go on to some poor fool who will fall for his manipulation. It does not have to be you.
DO U KNOWN WHAT HAVE HE ASKED TO ME TODAY WHEN I SAID NO TO HIS DEMAND OF SENDING SOME SHAMELESS PICTURES ..... HE SAID U HAVE SUCH A CHEAP THINKING . U DONT HAVE TRUST ON ME.... HE ALWAYS , ALWAYS , ALWAYS WANTED TO GET TO MUCH PERSONAL .... AND I AM SHOCKED TOO THAT HOW CAN A MAN KNOW THINGS TOO MUCH DEEP WITHOUT DOING ANY THING .... ..... ..... REALLY I HAVE LOVED HIM MORE THAN MY SELF ... AND HE IS AGAIN AND AGAIN HURTING ME ..... I CAN NOT STOP LOVING HIM .... BUT IF I DONE THIS .... I WILL NOT EVER MAKE LOVE FEELINGS FOR ANY MEN EVER .....
I THINK I AM JUST WASTING MY TIME .... AND MYSELF TOO .. :(........
He wants shameless pictures so he can post them online, either to show off to his buddies or to post them on some site available to other men. Do not do this, things online never go away. He is lying and manipulating when he pretends he thinks you have "cheap thinking" -- he is the one with the impure intentions. Do not even send him a clothed photo of yourself, you never know but that he will Photoshop it onto the body of someone in porn and send it out on the Internet.
hi...... i am 19 years old............. i am losing my hairs from almost 4_5 years ........... now i am soo worried about it
....... 4 years ago i had an issue of polysists .... but now my ultrasound reports are clear..........my reports shows that i have deficiency of vitamin d badly and midly low hb.............. plzzz help me ........ i am feeling like i am giving up my life with this hair loss ............ plzz help me :(
....... 4 years ago i had an issue of polysists .... but now my ultrasound reports are clear..........my reports shows that i have deficiency of vitamin d badly and midly low hb.............. plzzz help me ........ i am feeling like i am giving up my life with this hair loss ............ plzz help me :(
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Hi, your boyfriend is not the best advisor, as he is not a disinterested party. He wants to have you finger yourself so you will be amenable to having sex, and when his self-interest gets in there, his advice does not have your good in mind. Have sex when you feel like it for your own reasons, not when your boyfriend feels like it is time.
Anyway, no you did not give yourself any kind of sexually transmitted infection. If you are bleeding, it is possible that you scratched yourself, or bothered your hymen (I would be a little surprised if you tore it, but it's possible if it was thin in the first place). Or, maybe you're bleeding because your period is here.
Any time you put your fingers in your vagina, you are introducing the kind of bacteria that fingers get (which is a lot) into a place that is perfect and clean. The vagina is a self-cleaning organ, and if left alone stays in a good balance. If you decide to put something in there, always, always be sure it is clean. Wash your hands well, and if you someday use a device, keep it perfectly clean. Don't douche, don't insert creams or gels (unless told to by a doctor).
Take care of yourself, don't believe everything your boyfriend tells you to do, and stand up for your own right to your own sexual autonomy.
Anyway, no you did not give yourself any kind of sexually transmitted infection. If you are bleeding, it is possible that you scratched yourself, or bothered your hymen (I would be a little surprised if you tore it, but it's possible if it was thin in the first place). Or, maybe you're bleeding because your period is here.
Any time you put your fingers in your vagina, you are introducing the kind of bacteria that fingers get (which is a lot) into a place that is perfect and clean. The vagina is a self-cleaning organ, and if left alone stays in a good balance. If you decide to put something in there, always, always be sure it is clean. Wash your hands well, and if you someday use a device, keep it perfectly clean. Don't douche, don't insert creams or gels (unless told to by a doctor).
Take care of yourself, don't believe everything your boyfriend tells you to do, and stand up for your own right to your own sexual autonomy.
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thank you for helping me ....
want to know one thing more ...... if hymen layer breaks than what are the riskss??? i don't know how i can ask my question ....... plz inform me that is it fine or not? is there any problem in my future ? ... understand my question n guide me plzz
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