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Am I at a risk of HIV ?

I am bisexual male ,multiple exposures with male/female . All my exposures limited to frottage (penile- penile/anal/vagina) dry humping (with towel as barrier) , oral &anal (receiving/giving but protected condom  never failed)
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If you are having a lot of 'what if' scenarios and do understand that what you describe is not a risk for HIV, then the issue is really anxiety.  It would be best you work on that.  Do they have therapists where you reside?  Anxiety can make you question things that you know the answer to and prevent you from enjoying life so it is important to treat it like its own health condition to recover from.  
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Than you for your reply .
You  are right on this matter . Since I try to be vigilant once on bed that I even ensure the light is on and everything is within my visibility . But few days or months after the incident I reconnect back if I am down  (cold/fever/rash etc ) or have something on the body “what if “ thoughts keep alarming .
That post is not understandable. You don't have hiv and this is not a therapy forum, so it is time to move on --- but if you can't then see a therapist. No one here can provide therapy.
Sorry for the misunderstanding and inconvenience as I mentioned I had concerns and doubts over the above incidents raised by the doctor I visited . Genuinely wanted to get an clear idea on the actual risk of infection from anything other than (vaginal/anal penetration ) sorry for being open.
I'm not sure what you mean by "open". On October 23 I fully explained all you need to know about hiv prevention - in 40 years of hiv history there are only 3 ways to get hiv so all else that happens are non-events. Perhaps the problem is the doctor since you said he doesn't understand hiv prevention and led you astray.
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None of them are a risk for hiv. Move on back to your happy life instead of worrying about hiv.
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Thank you for your reply !! I really want to mover on but “what if “ scenario keep bringing me down . As far as the exposure concern i am sure i be very vigilant but 2 thing scares me off  1-when I tried anal bled a bit but was protected and not damaged so had discontinued that happened twice so both the times didn’t have actual insertion .. it was like knocking the door .
2- Anal frottage with ejaculation on the back .
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (mouth, lips, hands, blood, vagina and penis without penetration, ejaculation, etc.). No hiv worries, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. Next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this question. Did I do any of the 3? Then after you say "No, I didn't" then it's time to move on back to your happy life.
Thank you once again for clarifying . Its more or less superficial or clinically theoretical risk i am referring to I guess . As you have mentioned the “3scenarios “ non apply to me . But once have been to dermatologist for a rash I got mix answers one doc was chilled out asked me to relax and stay protected for penetration enjoying normal life, where as the other dr was like protection  is not 100% even if its intact . So this increases worry and makes one to stop living normally .
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