Here are the ONLY risks for HIV. To have unprotected (without condom and penetration required) vaginal intercourse or unprotected anal intercourse or to share IV needles to inject drugs. Air and saliva inactivate the virus. So, all of the things you mention in your post are not risks. Air is always present. Cuts on her hand during a hand job will not transmit the virus, hands do not transmit hiv. ONLY the three risks mentioned above. Kissing, touching also do not transmit hiv. Touching secretions will not transmit the virus. ONLY the above three things. So, you had no risk and have nothing to worry about and do not need to test.