6 year old male behavior problems

[lilboysmom]

This discussion is related to 6 year old boy school behavior problems.


My 6 year old is constantly (it seems) staying in trouble at school. He is in kindergarten and is the trouble maker of the class. He is not violent or aggressive, but at school, and also at home, he has a very difficult time listening and exhibiting self control. I am at a loss for how to handle this. We have tried rewards, punishments, etc. Nothing seems to work permanently. If anything does work, it is merely on a temporary basis.
His father and I are divorced, i know that doesn't help the situation, but we can't go back to being married, so where do we go from here? How can i get my son to obey the rules? I guess there's no easy answer for this, but i'm looking for suggestions.
Thanks.

[Sandman2]

First, you need to create a separate post so others will read and respond.  I only noticed cause I wondered why somebody was answering an old post.
Second, you need to know why your doctor took him off of the medication.  And what kind of a doctor is he.  general md, psychiatrist, psychologist?
Third, if he has ADHD, you need to request (if you haven't already done so) that the school test for special ed.  He won't qualify, but he will get a 504, which will make the teachers aware of this learning difficulties and also help with the suspensions.  Even though I been in Education for a long time - never heard of a may class.  Is he in the class all day?  How many kids in the class?  What are the grade levels in the class?  Have you ever gone in and observed the class?  If so how did you feel about the class.   Frankly, if you can work with him at home, the school should also be able to.
Start a new post and get back to us.  Thanks

[christynjamie]

wow!!! I have a 6 year old son that every day the teachers call us to come get him from school he has been suspended 4 times already and in the 1st grade we have been going to parenting classes learned the 123 time out it works at home great... but at school not so well he is in a class they call a (may) class for kids with behavoir problems the only thing is its older kids then him so he is getting bully and taking out on the teachers because they not doing the other kid anything...what I gathered from him..they say he needs meds...he was on meds for adhd but his doctor took him off itwe just dont know what else to do??? he is only 6.. we also have 2 other kids one 14 and 18 my 18 when he was younger gave me hell in school but just his mouth...dont know what to do??

[Freshforsale]

I am also having lot of trouble handling my 6 year old,who would just not listen. For every single task I have to remind him atleast 20 times before he gets to it. Like brush your teeth ,finish drinking milk,eating food...
I am not sure what is he thinking when I am repeatedly asking him to do his daily chores.
He is quite smart and would remember things from 3 yrs back but any decipilnary thing I talk to him,he forgets imeediately.
He talks back to his dad,grandmother or any elderly person in very indecent manner.
He always has to get his way in anything he does.
PLEASE HELP!!! how to correct his behaviour

[hummus40]

My experience with my 6 year old son is similar to the other experiences that I am reading.

I must start off by saying (and I do not know if this has ANY relevance, but I cannot help but wonder)...I breastfed my son ON DEMAND until he was 3 1/2 yrs and his father and I are together but have a BLENDED family...the other children are much older and his father and I are of course, much older...

With that having been said, Joey is so emotional this year...so much so that it is affecting my marriage.  He explodes at the smallest of issues and is now punching me when he is upset and cry's at the drop of a hat.  He is a healthy boy and has a wonderful personality but has so many emotions that I do not know how to handle them.  If I ask the simplest of questions he gets so upset!  Just today when I took him to school he started to cry when I asked him about his pencil pouch!  I just don't know if I should address this with him or really HOW to address it with him...when I did this weekend he got MAD again.  I feel like he is the parent and I am the child...I do not know if there is something more going on with him.  There have been no big changes in his life so I cannot say that this would even be a factor!

HELP

[Njsweetnlight]

Hello, I too was going through a very hard time with my step son who is 6 years old. Unfortunately the behavior has destroyed our marriage and we were unable to handle the stress through this time of difficulty. My step son was also having problems in school and at home. At school he didn't listen, would throw toys at other kids and didn't get along with other kids due to his impulsive behavior. Dealing with a difficult child is a very hard and stressful situation and my advice to anyone who is going through this should seek help immediately before it gets more out of control.  Start with the pediatrician and then counseling and let the professionals help you from there, but most important parents need to firm and stick together when correcting the child and don't let the child come between the parents because that will break the family up.

[daydreamer35]

I am relieved to know that someone out there is going through the same difficulty I am dealing with as well.  I wish I had some answer but instead I can only offer support to let you know that you are not the only one with this problem.  My 6 year old boy is in kindergarten in the mornings and the rest of the day, he is in daycare.  He seems to be having problems at school.  There is about 24 kids in that class room and the teacher only gets help from parent volunteers.  I think that is absurd and may be contributing to my son's behavior.  I feel as though he has to have constant supervision.  Up until recently, we have been thinking of having to take him to a psychologist or some sort of counseling.  I love my son with all my heart and want to give him the best as any mom would but this is tearing me up inside.  The social worker at his school recently called me and made me feel like such a bad parent by giving me a number to help me out and also mentioned parenting classes.  I was so upset.  When a first incident happened, I asked for her help and she refused because she stated he was only there 1/2 of the time. (Because of kindergarten being 1/2 day.)  His father and I have tried the reward sticker/coupon system and it's not working.