Help with my 9 year old

[pammy21]

My nine year old is always unhappy.  She never seems to smile.  We try everything with her - if fact she really rules the house.  


This discussion is related to Unhappy 9yr old Daughter/Very frustrated Mom.

[sunshine5019]

My children are all grown up, but I have run into similar problems.  Dont do the drugs, try changing what she eats first.  Believe it or not, food can alter your well being.  If she really is ADHD and OCD you need to provide structure.  From what I understand they can handle life better if they know what to expect.  I think you need to be patient, empathic and understanding.  Dont get angry (I know easy to say), this will only feed her frustration.  Find a help group, exchange ideas...
Best of luck.

[margypops]

She is perhaps feeling left out and only needs some more attention and more activitys,Perhaps you should just play it down and let her be like that, if you dont react to it it may go away.,Certainly I dont think it a good idea to go the way of evaluations for this ,the Drugs given are very powerful and have side effects,if you ever consider that way look into the search engine first .You dont say anything in that regard but so many feel that is the next way to go it isnt ,you just fix any little behaviors by getting their needs met .Good luck,let us know how she does.

[winterparkmom]

I honestly felt relieved to find this message board...I have a 7 year old daughter with the problems listed in this and the related thread. Her neurologist and pediatrician have both diagnosed her with ADHD and OCD. We are awaiting an appointment with a pediatric pyshciatrist to confirm. Her frustration level is through the roof and it is starting to affect every aspect of her life. We thought these problems would get better with age, but they have only worsened. An example would be today more sunscreen came out of her spray than she anticipated and it led to a 20 minute meltdown with screaming and clenching of her whole body. I really was hoping to not have to medicate her, but we have been advised that this course would be best and it would not get better if left untreated, only worse. I  feel bad for her brother who is usually the victim of her outbursts. Am I not the only one dealing with this? We used to joke that we had a princess/diva on our hands, but now I am scared we are dealing with something far darker. Thank you in advance for reading this and your time spent on replies...

[margypops]

Have you asked her how she is feeling ,had a chat with her,Has she friends and is all well at school,You say she rules the house, do you mean she is Bossy? Has she siblings, and does she get on okay with them, does she have plenty of activitys she likes? Check it all out.