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Hey bro. Do u know what, you've just expressed the same thoughts and the problem that I face in my daily life due to this dirty porn industry. I also have vision problem and I also feel confusion and clouds wondering in my head, even if I try to concentrate on my task, my mind ends up getting confused. It's left a psychological problem and it's just disgusting and due to this illness, I can't work because I'm tired most of the time and my eyes feel drowsy and strained due to years of sitting in front of a computer and tv and getting up to no good. I also feel suicidal because it's effected my emotions, my emotions r quite crazy, I would laugh at things which arn't even but inside I know this ain't real laughter. I've been heart broken by my girlfriend which has almost tooken my life away. Everyday I'm depressed and sad and feel lonely, nothing goes right for me and coz of my depression, it's effected my love ones such as my parents coz when they see me like this they also get depressed. Deep inside myself I know I'm quite intellectual and could achieve soo many things in life if only I cud get rid of these sexual, emotional problems. Any good advice? Please don't tell me to go yoga or any meditation coz I've tried nearly everything. I know this story of mine sounds depressing and boring but seeing as this is the page for these kind of stories then I feel happy to share my problem.
I completely understand where your coming from, and what your going through. I'm failing at my IT classes and can't stay focused when porn is on my mind. I myself have been masturbating since I was 15. Let me tell u I am addicted to masturbation, at first it was just curiosity, no porn just my hand and my soldier :P...later I found porn, first it was just some playboy magazines, by the way the masturbation was maybe about once or twice a week at that point, as I grew up and as time passed, it only got worse. From magazines went to late night channels on tv and from there the internet, the masturbation was part of my daily schedule by then. I'm 21 now bout to be 22 and I regret that I ever started watching porn. It got so bad that I have porn on my phone and I will masturbate in the most unbelievable places and times.
Now I have the same problems as you, and more, five months ago I lost a girl I loved to the bottom of my heart. When it comes to sex I can only do it if it's special with a close partner. I can just get any girl and have a one night stand. About a month ago my friend introduced me to a girl, they had just started going out or were about to, there was a strong connection on the spot. We started talking, and hanging out on daily basis. Keep in mind through out all that time I kept masturbating everyday to porn (just about everyday). recently we decided it was time to take the next step, we started making out, went onto foreplay, and I just couldn't get it up. I was so mad, embarrassed, and felt horrible. The next day I found out there's so many people that suffer from the same problem.
What happened was I was so used to getting aroused by my fantasies which I got from porn. The good side? Time cures. All I have to do is do my best to stay away from porn and masturbating (which I know will not be an easy task) and focus on her as well as be ale to talk to her and explain what is going on.
In the grand scheme of things, keep your chin up, drop the porn and tell yourself its time to move on. Well this got a bit long but I hope it helps u or anyone else, good luck :D
Hey i have got the same problem just not as severe but im a smart 14 year old and my studies are going down the drain. Could i get an email address so i can get help. I wanna stop so bad but i need someone to talk to. Thanks.
I have the same problem and feelings. I was introduced to porn at a young age because someone left up a porn site on the computer. Since i was young i was curious and started looking up ''free pron''. I understabd the desperation that you feel of wanting to quit. Apart from all of that in your article it seemed you really wanted to change and i respect you for that. And i thank everyone else for the helpful advice. I hope i can change my ways sooner or later
Mate you really can articulate yourself and you should definitly be proud of that. I was reading about your masturbation issues and I found last year, I had the same issue. What really helped me to quit was to do it gradually. You can try to masturbate once in a week then once in 2 weeks and keep increasing the time in between and eventually stop. I know its basic but to try and turn your body off from masturbating instantly will hardly ever work. Like scalple said, a lot of people care about you. I was really sad to hear your story but I believe you can and will overcome it. Also what really helped me was getting much more sleep. Masturbation was keeping me up to all hours of the night. I'd sit there looking over porn for hours on end well past when I should've gone to bed. Because I wasn't getting enough sleep I'd just be a ghost of my self, just a zombie it's a horrible feeling. Once you set a regular and reasonable bed time you will think so much clearer. You can set goals, get involved in the community and maybe find God if that is what you want to do. I really hope you overcome your problem and then help others with their's and start contributing to everyday life (even washing and cooking), contribution is a wonderful feeling and really helps others out. I'm not trying to force you to do anything or dictate your life, I just hope you take out of what I wrote, things that you can implement into your life/lifestyle, obviously everything that worked for me may not work for you but I hope you try them and they work! All the best Mate.
Hello...I stumbled onto your chat and felt the urge to throw down my 2 cents...its not very specific, but it applies to most problems we face in our private moments in our minds. Time changes everything...often we dont allow enough time to pass for the changes we want to take place to occur. We can feel dissapointed with our "seeming" lack of progress. True change takes time. Also you are human. Expecting to change your thoughts and behaviours without making mistakes and "relapsing" is naive and unrealistic. People do care...I hope for your peace
Once you did write that you have become busy and now you do not have any problem. so how come you are again in the same situation. Your antidote is simple, get busy and be free from these habits.
Hey me and you are going through the same problem at the same time. I really need to stop doing porn and masturbation as a whole. If you want we could check up on each other and keep each other on track and update on how each one of us is doing. Heres my email: david.roadrunner.***@****
You can beat this. After several years of trying to cure myself, I was able to do it. It takes extreme discipline. This is how I did it:
Rules:
1. Don't look at any pictures of women on your computer. None that are nude, non-nude, or in any sexual situations. Nothing, nada. If you see a naked woman in a movie, shut your eyes. Think of it as poison for your penis. Make sure the next nude girl you see is in real life.
2. Only masturbate once every two days. No more. You have to re-sensitize your mind.
3. When you do masturbate, only think of real women in real sexual situations. Think of women that you like or ex-girlfriends. Put any porn situations or fetishes out of your mind. It's very difficult, but you have to bring yourself into reality.
4. Buy a calendar and put it on your bedroom wall to track your progress. Mark an "X" for every day that you follow the rules. Your goal should be an X for every day on the calendar. No exceptions. It sounds simple but it worked for me.
This is how my experience went while trying out this plan:
Stage 1: (weeks 1 and 2)
This is the toughest stage. It is extremely frustrating to not have the stimulus you are used to having. I would get cranky and moody. I was also depressed because I literally could not get it up at times I wanted to masturbate. I would often relapse into porn in this stage because I wanted to check to see if my penis worked at all. Of course, then I would be stimulated but I would have to start from scratch again. After I stuck with the rules for several days though, it slowly got easier to masturbate with only my imagination and real life situations.
Stage 2 (weeks 3 and 4)
I noticed that I could masturbate easier without porn. I started having good dreams and even some semi night erections. I started noticing more women in real life and staring at them more. I would use those images for masturbation and it felt good. Confidence started going up.
Stage 3 (weeks 5 and 6)
Confidence went way up. Sometimes I was able to get an erection during the day with simple day time fantasies. Dreams at night got real good. Night erections and erections when masturbating reminded me of teenage years.
But here is the problem. I got so much confidence that I thought I was cured. I relapsed back into porn for a few days thinking it was ok and threw it all away. Unfortunately, I am now back at stage 1. But, I know I can get back to normal functioning if I stick with it this time.
Hopefully this brings you some hope. It is the porn that is causing your problems. You have to stay away from it forever. It is extemely difficult but it is worth it. Porn can de-masculate you. You have to re-masculate yourself
Yeah man. I can't stop watching porn. Even with the countless times my mum forbids me to, I still can't help it. It's a terrible addiction.
I have heard of something like this before, when you are feeling urges you should attempt to do something to occupy yourself.
Execise has been a scientificly proven solution for issues such as yours. Running, weight lifting, swimming, things such as the previous stated.
Staying away from women seems to cause a more powerful urge, so possibly attempt to socialize with them to settle these feelings.
Hi, I struggle with porn and alcohol addiction and the two seem to stem from the same place, lust. I understand that there are two aspects to who I am. There is the spiritual man who wants to be good and do right and then there is the flesh that requires constant feeding, stimulation and gratification. Have you tried fasting? When you fast you deny your physical impulse to eat. This denial of the flesh builds the strength of your will and empowers you in the moment. I have found it to be an extremely effective tool. Be specific, set a specific time period, 12 hours to start with and then increase the time incrementally so that you can build your will power up over time.
Thanx...though at present I am feeling terribly depressed.
I wonde whether anybody has ever told you that you can grasp thing easily and express yourself beutifully. two replies to me provethat.
People are rare who understand and express the understanding understndigly in brief .Develop this talent.
Hi you are giving out good suggestions...Positive affirmations, yoga,Mulbandh, Uddyanbandh, and jalandarband, Kegel exercises, pengym website, writing.
Thank you for trying so much. I liked the ideas. The tough part is implementation. In the last few days things are going well. There has been no opportunity of thinking. In fact I realise now that I am the happiest when I am busy with not a single second to spare. I destroy myself when alone or not working.
All these stupid thoughts just go on rotating inside the head and make me dumb when not working.
A lazy mind is a devil's workshop. Same is the case with me. Being lazy causes problems. Our problems are as big or small as we think them to be.
After sending two messages i was just thinking and a thouht crept up. your writing is wonderful. you have complete depth os the subject.why not wrtite a daily journal? You can write your dreams as well. this can give you clue to your life's problem and opportunity as well/ Think about it.
Reading your narration,it becomes apparent that you have a genuine urge to improve.Behind there multiple problem the root cause can only be one.If your surmount one issur, other issues will fade ultimatily.
Masturbation is a natural habit.It does not do any permenant damage.Constant worry about the it ratjer than the act is much more harmful. Enjoy your masterbation when there is an natural urge.Try to avoid or cut down viewing blue films.Take care ot other problems like vision, asthma etc.Take help from doctors
Sexual urge is powerfu energy.In yoga,Mulbandh, Uddyanbandh, and jalandarband can help you to convert this energy into positive mental energy.Search Kegel exercises, pengym website to learn more about sexual problem Accept a challange to convert this weakness into your strong point.Most of the people encounter this dilema and come out successfully. To day only I was reading on positive affirmation and why they fail. If possible I will pate it in this posting..I will post it sperately as i could not get the saved materioal.Don't lose corage. there are number of ways to transform ourselves. I understand you must have felt better after writing your post.