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Father taking away SON from Mother

Mar 16, 2009 - 8 comments

Okay so this is my friends situation.

Which I think is ridiculous and horrible for the child!

My friend has a boy who is 6 months old now! She was living with the father who is 30 and still living at home! She had a place of her own before she has her baby, but because she lost her job and the father didn't want to move there for whatever reason she had no choice but to go there.
The house is the dirtiest place ever! She then finally had enough in January and tried leaving! She went to a shelter then that had a fire (no one was harmed) so she went back! Then after she went and stayed at a friends but this guy thought he could "get some" from her so she left, I don't know why she didn't ask me if she could stay at my house, probably because she didn't want to ask too much and I had a baby of my own.

So this is the scoop, he didn't treat her very good at the beginning and all through out anyways, he didn't give her money to do anything. He would change his mind all the time about the relationship, first he would treat her like a bag of dirt than others he would act like the sweetest person in the world.
I do think she may have pushed thinks a little bit too much because when she did leave and he didn't answer her phone calls she just kept insisting....not for her sake but for her sons........I can understand but I don't think she should have bugged him so much. His parents are fat and dirty and they will agree on anything when it comes to the father having there son!
When she lived there she would try and clean and they would tell her not too!! Its pathetic..........

Now just yesturday she was downstairs doing her own thing taking care of her son and all of a sudden the police were there!!
The father called the police saying he wanted her to leave and she could not take her son with her. 1st she was breastfeeding, and the father lied and said she wasn't and they believed him!! And then they called children aid because the place is a dirt ball (she stays in the basement and she tries her hardest to keep that clean for her sons sake and try as hard as possible to not go to any other parts of the house)!!
I feel for her, because he is being so disrespectful and honestly he is not a good person and he does not deserve his son!
He needs his mother....the bond you get when you breastfeed is nothing you could imagine unless you experienced it yourself, and I was crying for her.
It is terrible........when she told the cops she could go to a shelter they were like that isn't a good place for your son!! Well it is better than that place....and all she thought is that they opened up there home for her and there son to be safe and okay!!

Now today she went for emergency custody and the judge wouldn't grant it all because of the fathers WORDS saying she is a threat to her self!!! He doesn't even have custody!!

Like this is terrible!! OMG, I know her!!!! She has never been that way nor would ever do such a thing to there son!!!

Now her boobs are hurting like you cant believe unless you know!! And all of a sudden switching to fomula I don't think is good at all!!

She told me when she went to pick up her stuff her son was crying and they weren't doing anything, and then she asked if they gave him the medication they have for him and hes like NO!!

Why is this happening, I don't understand it isn't far.....its funny when someone is already in a shelter it is okay because they do get help and then eventually get on there feet and get on assistance until they can get a job (here in Ontario) but why!!! If they say that because she isn't working and wouldn't have any income without the father, so what she has to stay with the father, put up with the mental abuse, put up with all of his **** all because he has the income......it doesn't make seance, even though the help is there if she could of left with him....

Why is this happening, honestly someone needs to do something about it.....and I feel like and *** kicking or worse....that is how angry this makes me....it breaks my heart

And oh today also they said to her (the father and his parents) they don't need her and her SON doesn't need her!!

He will not let her see her son :'(


My Baby

Dec 21, 2008 - 0 comments

my baby girl is starting to sleep through the night, it is so great. for about 4.5 hours, but still I always feel tired, it *****!

Feel Good but Feel Bad

Aug 20, 2008 - 1 comments

Today I got my baby shower favors!! I am so happy about them. And I got two little gifts given to me a "proud mom" pink mug with a teddy bear in it so0o0o cute and a pink photo album. Monday I got my 3D ultrasound done it was so awesome I was impressed! Now I just have to go to the store and grab my pics to put in my shower favors (the one with the frame) I have photos!!
But other than that I am feeling pretty upset. So many of my friends say oh I have to work so I cant make it. Like what the hell!! I told them a month ago, I sent out invitations and they couldn't even be bothered to book the day off? I don't feel cared for from anyone!! Not even my boyfriend. I think I am depressed or something!! I cry a lot. I can never get Dylan to do things for me!! Its been harder on my back to clean the bath tub even thought people keep saying I shouldn't be using the cleaning products anyways but I have been the one who always does all the cleaning and I asked him like almost 2 weeks ago to clean the bath tub for me!! I have been trying to support him with going back to court to get a proper agreement done for his rights to his daughter (and to benifet her of course) and I was still here basically supporting him while he has been on and off of jobs for the past year when I was the one who was working full time until about 3 months and now on E.I/Maternity!!
He doesn't do anything for me, he gets mad every time I tell him to do something around the house, well what do u expect. For the past year it's always been his job to take out the garbage, he can never come home without throwing his stuff all over the place. I ask him to keep his clothes where they go but he never does and even when I ask him to get something for me hes like where is it!! Are you kidding me hes been living with me for a year now if he pays more attention he would know where stuff is!! I just don't get it.
And since I am pregnant and him not doing the easiest stuff and I have been asking him for a year its been so much harder for me. Like I don't have any one else, and I kind of feel like a loser for it!! But you see what I just said about my soo called friends and my family they never call. My step-dad all he does is criticizes and looks at life about the worst of it and so negative when you bring up anything, he wouldn't even give my boyfriend some slack about getting me pregnant all because he didn't ask me to marry him. And my mom she has enough problems of her own. Depression runs in the family and my mom has had it so if I go to her yeah like she will help all she will end up doing is get depressed because I'm depressed.
I keep telling myself to go to a few programs but I keep holding them off then when I want to I end up having a appointment on that day and I keep saying I will call for the free counseling for mothers etc. at the hospital but I keep holding it off.
I have felt alone since I have been in high school. I don't know how to work things out, push myself. Because Dylan isn't really helping me much.
But I feel like I am just letting this happen because I just wont go and do these things. I don't want my baby to see me in this state, I want to be better when she comes into this world.
I have no SUPPORT from my friends well if you wanna call them that or my family!! My Aunt is the one who lives in Toronto and she cant even pick up the phone. My real dad he works just downtown (but lives in Oshawa) and I NEVER here from him.
I finally told him I was pregnant and he didn't even ask me how I feel. He replies like I am some whiled child and says I hope your not around smokers or drinking while I am pregnant. It is like he thinks he knows me, like how dare him even say that to me!!! He cant just never be nice and happy for me. It breaks my heart I haven't seen my brother or sister that is with him since 2004 and really I don't think I will :( I am not even going to bother communicating with him anymore.
The good thing is Dylan finally realized last night how much I am hurting. I need him the most he is my boyfriend I need him here with me and he is suppose to be. I help him out so much so he needs to do the same.
If someone just be here for me then it wouldn't be so bad I will feel better about going to these groups and calling up a counselor.
Like I don't know anyone else who is pregnant except this one girl but she basically shut me out doing god knows what, I'm sure she wouldn't say that, but I guess she has enough problems as it is and her excuse is I don't have money, well I told her what to do I told her and tried to be there for her but she didn't want to make things better and easier for herself and I just feel like no one cares about my friendship.
Well enough for now.

Baby Stages & Feeding

Aug 10, 2008 - 0 comments

Stages of Baby Feeding

3 Months
Supports head
-> Breast milk and/or Formula
6 Months
Sits up with support
-> Breast milk and/or formula
-> Baby cereal
-> 1st foods
8 Months
Sits up alone
-> Breast milk and/or formula
-> Baby cereal
-> 1st and 2nd Foods
-> Baby Juice
10 Months
Crawling
-> Breast milk and/or formula
-> Baby cereal
-> 1st, 2nd & 3rd Foods
-> Baby Juice
-> Graduates cereal
12-15 Months
Beginner Walking
-> Breast milk and/or formula (ending)
-> Graduates cereal
-> Baby Juices
-> 2nd & 3rd Foods
-> Graduates dies, cookies, crackers, cereal bars
-> Graduates meat sticks, meals, lil entrees, little flakes, mini fruits and mini veggies, garden mashers,      tub meals
18 Months
Walking
-> Graduate cereal
-> Baby Juices
-> Graduates dies, cookies, crackers, cereal bars
-> Graduates meat stick, meals, lil entrees, little flakes, mini fruits mini veggies, garden mashers, tub meals
-> Table Meals