Aug 08, 2008
Okay people, I know that I am very irritable because I am hurting and I feel really bad, but if something doesn't change with my mother in law soon, I am really tempted to leave my husband. I love this man more than life itself, but when it comes to his mother, he refuses to put me before her. I have begged him numerous times to help me set boundaries for her coming to our house without an invitation. I understand she is his mother and shouldn't have to have an invitation, but when a person comes 4-5 times a day at all times, enough is enough. This morning, she was here before 7 (to see how I was feeling). If I had come in someone's home and the lights were off and no television, etc was on, I would leave. Not her, she walked into my bedroom and said, "Sue, (several times until I woke up) how are you feeling this morning. Then she comes everytime she sees my husband come home. If she sees his truck pull in the driveway, she literally runs (and this woman has arthritis) to get over here. Tonight I was all but rude to her and he fussed at me about the way I acted.
I am seriously to the point of it is either her or me. He is going to have to make a choice. I don't want to do this, but I have talked with him rationally about it and he does nothing. It drives my daughters crazy because she just comes into their bedrooms and rearranges their things. When they tell her they liked it their way, she puts it back the way she had it and tells them to leave it like that and see if they like it.
I know you people are so tired of hearing me talk about this woman, but since my hubby won't help, I have to vent somewhere. I would lock the door so she couldn't come in, but she has her own d a m n key.