Jan 22, 2015
It is my belief that within a couple, or two people you need to have one person that can be the peacemaker. Of course in a perfect world, no one would have a bad temper, but its not always the case. My son, who is 44, diagnosed himself when he called himself "a snap case". He is not violent, never has been, never will be, but he does get mad quickly. I am happy to say that he also "recovers" quickly and then he is nice again. Let me explain please that when I say snap case I don't mean that his like a man who would ever burn his house down or go shoot up the post office, he is very bright, personable and has a great sense of humor. We are laughing all the time in our house. I describe it as needing a "chill pill" only I mean literally. High strung, wound too tight. You get the idea. His father did not have this problem at all and I do not either. His doctor gave his Lorazapam and that helps so hasn't taken the problem away. Now Michael's fiancée, they are supposed to be married in May, she has the same problem times two. She talks to herself in the bathroom, and I don't mean just a phrase or two. She non-stop goes in there and talks the entire time shes in there. My room is on the other side of the wall, that's why I know. I can't make out what she is saying (I wish I could). They fight (argue) every day. In loud voices. Enough to upset me and my dog. It is so loud!! I wish I could say "Look you two change your behavior or get out. But we are all renting this house. When they are fighting (arguing) she will come to their bedroom and SLAM the door as hard as she can and then stand there and SCREAM. I know she takes Cymbalta & Tramadol but I don't know the reason for the Cymbalta. She sure does NOT act depressed. If I were a doctor I would probably DX her as bi-polar and personality disorder, but I am not a doctor and I really don't know. I just know she has some personal demons shall we say. I am not making light or fun of mental illness because I know it is real and anyone can suffer from it. They are both recovering addicts that have well my son has 12 yrs and they are both very active in NA/ so they try to get better, and I really do believe they love each other, but.......I know deep in my heart that I can't change anyone, heck maybe I need a doctor to figure out how to cope with it. I can't afford to move out and go get another older lady to be roomie's with, been there done that and there is a lot of weird people out there too!! I don't know I guess I'm just venting, I am relatively happy everyday, and we acknowledge the Lord and know we have blessing in our home. I'm just wondering if maybe they are not the best match, ya know?? Why set yourself up for heartache? Or
chaos everyday. I enjoy quiet and peace and always say "Don't sweat the little stuff" Anyway, just sayin'.