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Mar 07, 2014 - 15 comments

Everyday my son has pre-k in the afternoon. All the parents wait in the lobby from 11:30-11:40 when the kids walk themselves to the classroom. Well the last two weeks or so it's been really cold, about 15-30 degrees. I would say probably 3-4 times a week there is a woman that drops off a little girl she babysits, and she always brings her little son with her. She said once that he was 2, I believe. Well she is CONSTANTLY bringing this child in with no shoes and no socks, barefoot, unzipped coat, no hat, and he's always coughing. The other parents and I just kind of look at each other like are you kidding me?! You are bundled up, why are you not doing the same for your small child?!! Well two days ago he came in without her son dropping off the little boy, and walking out she said "I accidentally shut my sons finger in the door, it's pretty bad, I'm sure it's broken." And I walk by her car, and the little boy was in the car, alone for those ten minutes with no socks and shoes, car off, and screaming terribly, and his finger all bloody, I assume crying from pain since she thinks his finger is broke. I was in complete shock!!! I immediately think of Chloe and Dameon and how unimaginable it would be for me to act that way with my kids!! I was so irritated and upset by it I called my sister and she said I would call and do something about it, who knows if she's getting this child treatment, since she had no problem making him wait in the car while she was inside for ten minutes - if it were me, I would be immediately at the ER. So I go home and call the local ER, the only one around for an hour or so and tell them what happened and I would rather remain anonymous and just to be on the look out that she's obviously at least neglecting to take proper care of him, and she said okay no reports of it. And I did the same with the only local ped. and no reports of him coming - I know she didn't go out of town for treatment for him, because we had to pick the kids up less than 2 hours later from pre-k and she was there picking up the little girl. So I called and made an anonymous report to CPS.. and the caseworker I talked to said it's definitely neglect at the least. Well today she comes in and says "I would like to know who called CPS on me for my son" - I obviously wasn't about to say "ME!!" Because I wanted to avoid drama, I just felt so bad for the poor kid!!! I'm afraid she's going to be confrontational with me now because I was the one she said he had a broken finger to, so I think she assumes it was me. What would you ladies do? Avoid the confrontation? I probably could have not stuck my nose in, but at least the kid was wearing socks and shoes today!!! So mission accomplished. I wouldn't have been able to sleep that night had I not said anything!

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by hansen20, Mar 07, 2014
You did the right thing! I would have went to cps too if I saw it. I'm sorry I Dont have no advice hun :(.

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by KTowne, Mar 07, 2014
Thank you, I know in my heart I did the right thing, I just hate confontation, haha!

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by renae176, Mar 07, 2014
I agree with what you did I would have done the same thing. Just Avoid her. Just drop your kids off talk with your kids while your waiting and leave that way u dont even have to deal with her. You did the best you could do, I would have worried all night also wondering how she looks after him at home if she cant even dress him,

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by KTowne, Mar 07, 2014
That's what I was thinking renae, and on top of that she's babysitting other peoples children!

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by Lynniepooh, Mar 07, 2014
You go girl!  I probably would have said something to her face before calling cps.  By that's just me

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by KTowne, Mar 07, 2014
I generally would too lynniepooh, but seeing as its where I take my son to school every day, I really didn't want to bring the drama there, especially around kids and other parents

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by mhv, Mar 07, 2014
I would not admit to her you were the one that called, but you 100% did the right thing.  I cannot believe she is watching other peoples children...all the more reason to call...if she treats her own son that way..who knows what happens with the other kids when no one is around.  That little boy deserves better.  You are a hero in my book.  Just sayin!!!

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by KTowne, Mar 07, 2014
Thank you mhv! I needed to hear that! When she asked today who called I immediately second guessed myself because I don't want drama at my 4 year olds school, but it broke my heart thinking of that little guy, I can't imagine treating a child that way, ever!

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by Mom2boys1980, Mar 07, 2014
You did the right thing... God bless your heart!  That poor heart aches for him. Some parents don't deserve to have kids, those are the type of parents I hate!

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by Sheaby, Mar 07, 2014
You absolutely did the right thing!!!  I understand not wanting confrontation where you take D to school, but at the same time it's hard to watch a defenseless child be neglected by the one person in the world who absolutely should care about his well being.  I agree not to flat out admit it was you, it's none of her business.  Hopefully she cleans up her act for good and not just long enough to pass a CPS check.

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by TTC2006, Mar 07, 2014
I agree you did the right thing.  And I'd probably even go a step further and ask the school to contact the parents of the child whom she babysits for. I'd want my kid out of her care immediately.

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by KTowne, Mar 07, 2014
I hope so too, I was second guessing myself when she said that, then I saw shoes and socks on his feet, still no coat zipped up or hat, but better than bare feet!! So hopefully that poor little guy gets over the terrible cough he has (can't imagine what that's from!!)

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by Godisfaithful, Mar 07, 2014
Because CPS was called, I hope they investigate her babysitting. I pray she gets her self together.

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by melimeli, Mar 07, 2014
Let a teacher know they are mandatory reporters

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by Gardezi, Mar 08, 2014
im just sad for the poor kid....:(...but u did the right thing...hats off to u.

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