Mar 28, 2014
So we've had a few stressful situations within the last week. One of my friends son, also my sons best friend, had his tonsils out at 3, ever since then he keeps getting reoccurent abscesses in his throat, he's had 6 surgeries to have it drained and it keeps coming back. He is now being tested for lymphoma, and we are all extremely worried. Praying this sweet litte 5 year old doesn't have to face that.
Then, my mom has been dating a guy for a few years, about 3 I believe. Well, to put it blunt, he's an ***. A crazy ***, my mom has a habit of settling and that's exactly what she's doing in this case. She's only been in two serious relationships, ever. My dad for 25 years, now her boyfriend of 3. He treats her like crap, is rude, she's always wondering if she should leave him, he sleeps on the couch and her in bed, despite how much this bothers her, he won't try to change it. She was telling me last week she had to talk with him about he always talks about killing and shooting people - he's crazy. His daughters are crazy and soooo selfish its unreal, both over 23 with kids and boyfriends and he pays EVERYTHING for them. Everything, house, bills, cars, groceries, etc, and doesn't help my mom out at all with money although he moved in to her house. Well he's always said he would never get married, ever, not an option, but being boyh over 50 it wasn't abig deal. My mom called me at 9 pm Tuesday and told me they were getting married this summer, and I was like what?! I just said congratulations and I will support you if you're truly happy. So the next day I asked her what brought about the change of heart in him and she said well I haven't been feeling good so he was worried and asked me to marry him. RED FLAG!! I said what do you mean you haven't felt good? You've said nothing to me. She said I didn't want to worry you, but I've been throwing up all week, my doctor put me on bacterial meds and I got some blood tests, my sugar is high (she's diabetic), cholesterol is high, I have to get a colonoscopy and a ct scan of my stomach. So I'm like are you kidding me - and this is just coming out!!? My concern is that he's marrying her because he wants the house and her retirement, but she's too naive to see the red flags. My sisters are also very concerned, how to bring this up without making her feel cornered, I don't know. But this would be for all the wrong reasons and it worries me. My sisters and I are going to try talking with her this weekend, hopefully it goes well.