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I hate when people steal my baby names .. argh!

Jul 30, 2009 - 34 comments

So both of my good friends are pregnant... they are all due after I am about a month to two months...  I told them what I was planning to name our baby girl we had it narrowed down to two names

Hadley Catherine / Hadley Rose
Presley Catherine

And I told them we were leaning towards Hadley Catherine and Ash ( my friend) said well then if we have a girl I want to name her presley.. i've never heard that name before and I love it! I was like okay..  It just irritates me.. same thing with Aubree.. when we told everyone we were naming our baby Aubree everyone was like wow thats a unique name.. and what a cute way to spell it..  Now I find out my brother's girlfriends sister just named her baby girl Aubree.. ugh! I mean I know I don't own the name Aubree or any other names but it just irritates me.. Dh and I put a lot of time and thought in to coming up with Aubree's name.. we wanted it to be unique and we wanted it to fit her ( which it does)  Maybe I'm just hormonal  I dunno but when i heard that it really upset me.   Is it just me or does this irritate you ladies too?

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by msniki412, Jul 30, 2009
Well, Im not pregnant but I would have to say if my friends did that I would be somewhat annoyed. Understanding that there is no copywrite against the names, but still it would be annoying. So I'm with you to be annoyed at your friends. I would never do that to one of my friends even if I loved the name to death. Everyone should try and come up with their own unique baby names. My mom was a little annoyed when one of our cousins named her daughter Nicole too. Nobody eles in our family was named Nicole, and my mom fell in love with that name when I was born. It was either Nicole or Michelle. I kinda like Michelle better. But Mom was right. The company where I work for, I'm the only Nicole there! There is already a Michelle and thank god we don't share the same name!!

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by lovethebops, Jul 30, 2009
When I was pregnant, I was a little defensive over names too. Must be hormonal.

I found the best way to avoid that was to not mention our ideas. Or say I don't know yet. Or make up a horrible name like Helga or Mildred or Gladys....(ok, they aren't that horrible, just remind me of the elderly)

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by pinkbelle, Jul 30, 2009
my grams name is actually gladys.. lol.. : ) but yea they are old ladies names.. it just makes me mad because I put a lot of thought into our names.. i imagined our baby girl has having those names yeah know... i dunno im a hormonal crazy pregnant woman so what do i know =)

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by adgal, Jul 30, 2009
I agree, that would drive me nuts.  It's a respect thing.  I love the name Caleb for a boy, but one of my close girlfriends has said for a couple of years that would be the name she would choose for a boy.  So, I am not going with it. She isn't even pregnant (or in a relationship for that matter), but still, I wouldn't feel right about it.  There are lot's of great names out there.  Hadley is a great name by the way!  Love it. You and RDH come up with the best names, I swear!

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by tatorbug40, Jul 30, 2009
I stole names for both of my kids from people I know-  not close friends though, and I asked them before we proceeded-  When we decided to name Taylor, Taylor-  one of my DH's best friends from college had a little girl a year older then Taylor-  her name is Jaylyn Elyse-  I loved her name, and Taylor was due on Jaylyn's birthday---  so we asked if we could name Taylor- Taylor Elise.  They were actually thrilled-  then with Colten-  DH picked the name (University of Texas quarterback-  Colt McCoy)---  anyway...  my old co-worker who I still see about once a year at a ladies lunch-  her sons name is Colten- we are not close, and I didn't even pick the name-  but I e-mailed her anyway to ask if she minded-  she said she didn't....  

I think they should have at least asked you-  esp. your friend Ash-  what if you decided to go with Presley instead of Hadley-  which I like Hadley better,  but....  she could have at least asked instead of just announcing it to you...  I was afraid one of my old close friends was going to do that-  I just loved the name Avery for a girl, and we started trying to get pregnant around the same time as this other couple we were close with-  it took us 6 months to get pregnant and them 1!  then I miscarried--- and they found out they were having another girl-  their first is named Abby-  so I was SO afraid they would take Avery for their second, because it sounded good with Abby....  but they didn't....  I don't even know if she considered it, but that would have crushed me,  as we were having so many problems getting pregnant as it is!  so I can totally understand where you are coming from!  

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by pinkbelle, Jul 30, 2009
Thanks Amanda..   Hadley is such a unique name and i just love it... soon as I heard it I fell in love =)  Its a really important decision what you name your kids.. I think that people should put alot of thought into it... And I do.. I put lots and lots of thought into it and i think thats why I get so mad

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by lovethebops, Jul 30, 2009
I really like Hadley. 4 years ago when I was pregnant with my 1st, I offered that as a middle dame for our dd. Dh shot it down right away -guess it reminded him too much or Haley or Harley? I still like it a lot. Great choice. Very english-regal sounding!

I did learn a lot from my first pregnancy though. I got upset when people offered 'opinions' or flat our disagreed with some names I was kicking around. I felt like it was non of there business, and I was not asking for opinions. They ask, and I told them some of our ideas. The second time,  I learned to just keep my mouth shut, and be non specific.

PS No offense to your Grams :)

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by pinkbelle, Jul 30, 2009
Tator - when i got pregnant right after having Aubree ... I was set on the the name Addison then i ended up miscarrying and a good friend of mine mentioned that name to a friend of hers and she named her daughter addison and that really upset me because it made me think of my miscarriage.. I know i don't own names but i think if i tell someone i want to name my kid this or that and then they go and use it .. that is just disrespectful. Now if they would ask me that might have been a totally different story yeah know.

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by rdh1981, Jul 30, 2009
I really like Hadley too!!! You know just think of it like a complement. That you did such a good job, now people just can't help but steal your names!  I am sure it is frustrating though!!

Thanks Amanda, for the "good naming" shout out!!!!!!!!

Hey Bops, Mildred is my grandmothers name! : )

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by tatorbug40, Jul 30, 2009
My brother (4 years younger brother) and his then girlfriend, now wife, got pregnant within a month of my first pregnancy- mine ended in a miscarriage and theirs did not-  DH and I had discussed Madison for a grils name and calling her Maddie-  I don't think I ever mentioned this to my brother-  I miscaried at 7 weeks-  weird thing-  my brother named their second baby Madison....  they don't call her Maddie-  but I thought it was kinda strange-  at first I was bothered, but didn't know why, as I never told him that is what we were going to call our baby-  but the name does fit his Madison!  And because of the miscarriage, I don't think I would have used it anyway-  I think in my heart the baby we lost was named Madison anyway-  so....  

naming your children is very important-  you know-  Corrina is a lovely name, and not very common at all-  never has been actually!  seriously-  you should consider it!  :)

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by lmc2132, Jul 30, 2009
It's inconsiderate of your friends, but on the bright side, it could be worse: after my cousin told everyone what she planned to name her daughter, our aunt bought a DOG and named her the EXACT same thing!  It was awful, my cousin was heartbroken but decided to go with the name anyway.

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by lovethebops, Jul 30, 2009
rdh1981- No offense to your Grandma either ;)

My Grandma's names are Edith and Virginia- fairly common. But my grandfather's name is Ernie--EWW! Can you imagine naming your baby that? His middle name could be Elmo or Grover, lol!


pink- It can be hard to not share your names, especially when you are are really excited or proud of the names you have found. I would just say $crew it and name your little girl whatever you want. Who knows, your friend may have a boy or she could steal someone else's idea down the road!

From what I read though, she is not taking the name Hadley, correct? Just the idea of Presley? I'd say you are in the clear if you have already decided on Hadley anyway. Thats what you have in your profile, so sounds like your mind is made up anyway, right? It should be fine...

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by rubyolivia, Jul 30, 2009
Ohhhhhhhhhh I love both of those names! We were actually strongly considering Presley if this baby was a girl. :) That is annoying though. I love the name Riley for a boy, and it is a family name---but it's one of my good friend's daugther's name, so there is no way I'd even consider using it!

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by lovethebops, Jul 30, 2009
I love the name Riley. However, there is a guy dh and I know who's last name is Riley, and that is all I could think of when I hear that name...

So, for Jordana's middle name we went with Rylyn, which is just a form or Riley. I love it and it is different enough that I don't think of that guy. I love Irish names.

I just looked up Hadley in my baby name book, and it means: 'field or heather'  I think that is beautiful!

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by lovethebops, Jul 30, 2009
Sorry, 'field of heather' not OR...ahh, this heat is melting my brain!

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by maybebaby29, Jul 30, 2009
I was defensive over "Ava" when a friend (not really close to us) named their daughter Ava (3 years before us). But you know, unless you're super, super close to that person or a brother, then it doesn't matter. However, you can also just stick with what you love and go with it.

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by tatorbug40, Jul 30, 2009
I got a dog years ago, we named her Hailey-  my cousin was pregnant at the time, but i had no clue that she was going to name her baby girl Hailey-  I felt so bad when I found out!!  Our Hailey got hit by a car about a year later :(  I was so sad,. crushed-  she was my baby at the time-  but I guess the name thing was cleared up then.....  

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by kellym, Jul 30, 2009
Well, I have to mention some of my names because 2 of my sisters and 1 sister in law is preggo too! 2 find out the sex 2 don't.  My sister announced Luke James would be her baby name, UGH, Luke has always been one of my names.  SO, her baby is due in Dec, MINE COMES IN NOV.  I told my mom in the event I have another boy and I want LUKE, we may have 2 in the family, hee, hee!!HA HA, HO HO!!

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by rubyolivia, Jul 30, 2009
bahahahahaha kelly, you're evil. I always LOVED the name Chloe, but dh's niece is named that. I hate it when stuff like that happens.

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by kellym, Jul 30, 2009
ha ha ha, Ruby, Let her know my bassets are Chloe & Clyde, hee, hee....

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by jenstam, Jul 30, 2009
That's why I don't like to share my baby names! I hate it when people do that, too! I'm protective of the name I picked out and haven't told a whole lot of people. So, if you're one of the ones who know reading this journal. HUSH! ;)

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by rubyolivia, Jul 30, 2009
lol My big thing is, MOST people you can trust. So, if you don't tell and they do end up using "your" name--there is no one to blame but yourself. Ya know? Not you, inparticular, Jen--just the super super secretive people!

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by bluebaby1976, Jul 30, 2009
OMG....I was just via-email talking to chantal21 about this cause a girl in my hometown got my future baby name and my 1st cousin told her friend that was also prego at the time her girl name and she took it.... It is a shame that you really should not tell other prego names that YOU are thinking...

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by chantal21, Jul 30, 2009
I always wanted to be pregnant with someone close to me, but now that this whole name thing can come up, maybe I'm glad I'm alone and pregnant! lol. (that probably sounded really harsh) But I would hate to have to go through that. Someone else stealing a name that I came up with! Plus, anytime we share names with certain family members, we always get shot down. I don't care if 'you' don't like the name that 'I' came up with. It's my child, get over it!!! ;)  When I think of a name it has meaning to me and took a lot of thought. I would be crushed if someone I knew did that.

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by ladybug82, Jul 30, 2009
i think if you are scared of someone taking your babys name dont tell no one and surprise them ... the dh and i already have nams picked out .. i am not preggos but i am TTC.. i would be so annoyed if some one took my names specially if i added "i really like this name " Well my question is if someone else steals your baby name would you be a REBEL and still name your baby your plnned name ..shhhhhi WOULD and  i would put in a explanaion mark at the end lol ...hugs.. and shhhhhhh dont tell no one your name # 2 lol *:O) erika

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by alikat1205, Jul 30, 2009
this is why we didn't reveal the name until the birth announcement!

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by montie2, Jul 30, 2009
Same for me.  I never would tell then name until the baby was born and named. First of all, I didn't want to hear if you liked it or not, and second, I didn't want anyone to steal it before I got to use it!!  

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by lovethebops, Jul 30, 2009
Montie- same here! I kept my mouth shut during my second pregnancy!

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by alikat1205, Jul 30, 2009
i know there was not only the "stealing" but the "why don't i buy you a baby name book" (from MIL who clearly didn't like the name for #1, and was ticked that we didn't share the name for #2!)

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by prevatt77, Jul 30, 2009
It's going to be a boy - you can go ahead and name him Gavin if you like LOL!!!

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by gokuangel, Jul 30, 2009
I don't think its hormonal!! I just hate when people can't get their own ideas and have 2 steal them!! GGGRR!! like me im not PG yet but i made a remark 2 my SIL that i loved Hello Kitty and when i went to her youngest one's first bday party what was the theme? MY Hello Kitty EVERYWHERE!!  and shes doesn't even like it or know about it i was very ticked off!!So i totally know how u feel and not meaning it bad just dont tell any1 else until the time comes tell every1 the name is a surprise!! I'm learning this the hard way! cus people never stop!!
I also made the mistake of telling my in laws where i wanted 2 for vacation well their next vacation was 2 where i wanted 2 go and i didnt get invited!! So now im planning something big and im not telling any1 till the day im leaving!!

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by melimeli, Jul 30, 2009
we named our girl parissa lynn... and I told a friend of mine and he loved the name and named his baby the exact same.. parissa lynn.. haha... my dh was irritated but I took it as a complement.. but if he would of had his baby first.. that would have irritated me

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by SoCalTricia, Jul 30, 2009
Aubrey was my grandfather's name, is my uncle's name, my cousin's middle name, and his daughter's middle name. I love the name...but it IS actually a very old English name. Hadley is a very cute name...but near where I live there's a fruit stand called Hadley's Fruit Orchard and I'd always think of an orchard. LOL. You know, I can sympathize with you, though...it's frustrating to have your heart set on a name then have someone copy it. But, like Rachel said, think of it as a compliment. And name your kids what you WANT to name them. Honestly, chances are, the people copying you will probably not ALWAYS be in yours or your child's lives...so name your child what YOU like and don't worry about anyone else!

Tricia

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by wanabb, Jul 30, 2009
Im ttc, not even pregnant yet but two of my friends are and i won't tell them the names we picked for fear of them stealing them.  maybe it is hormonal i am on a lot of hormones...lol..

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