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Sep 11, 2009 - 8 comments

So with everything that is going on in my life i feel like i just want to shut down mentally and take a break from the world..  my dad is ill so we decided to move our wedding date up which is fine and everything is coming together.. now dhs pap has a stroke. this just happened yesterday.. his whole right side is paralized.. dh is all upset.. and all of this just has to happen 3 weeks before the dang wedding..  Aubree is going through the terrible twos at just 16mths old.. she kicks my belly and hits quite often.. she purposely defies matt and I. and she wants nothing to do with the potty.. im 23 weeks pregnant having a tough time with BHs and just my hormones in general.. DH is working practically 15 hr days.. he leaves at 3 am and doesn't get home until 6 or 7 .. leaving me to do everything ( including all the wedding stuff) on my own.. ugh i know it sounds like im just being b itchy.. i guess im just having a bad day... : (

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by have 2 kids, Sep 11, 2009
Sorry you are having a rough day.   I hope it gets better.   Try to remember some good things today.   Like Aubree, you, Matt and the baby are healthy.  You are getting married in a few weeks.   Matt works hard so you can stay home.  
I know it is hard not to feel so down when things keep happening but it will get better.

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by AHP84, Sep 11, 2009
You don't sound at all like you're being b!tchy. I can't imagine the stress you have, but I can relate somewhat. Wedding planning while pregnant is about 5 times as stressful with the added hormones, body changes, and feeling sick one moment and totally fine the next. I got so stressed two weeks before my wedding that I went to the ER because I thought I was having pre-term labor symptoms.
I don't have a toddler anymore, but I do have a 4½ year old BOY...who is nothing but a ball of perpetual energy and all he does some days is make me crazy. He's testing the boundaries with defiance and backtalk lately. Some days it seems like he destroys anything he touches. I think we got a damage fee tacked onto his tux rental when we returned it...
On top of that, my mom is going through chemo treatments, so I know how it feels to have a parent with an illness and limited abilities. It's heartbreaking some days. But as long as you have each other, even through the worst of it, enjoy those moments if you can. Make all you can out of life; it's so fragile.
I work regular full time hours and my husband works odd hours because he's still in college and working a co-op job. So he leaves at 6 in the morning and some days he's home when we get home, other days he's in class until 10 pm. Then he has homework. Next semester he won't even have a job because it's an alternate semester co-op job, so I'll be the only one working and that's the semester when the baby is due.
So don't be too hard on yourself if you feel like you're being b!tchy, because you're not. We all have overwhelming stressful days. Vent all you need to, I know it helps to find encouragement in friends.
I'll be praying that your FIL recovers as well as he can and you all can get through the wedding and have a perfect day.

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by mami1323, Sep 11, 2009
Jayden has been going through the terrible two's for as long as I can remember and he's just now almost 2.  As for the potty training at 16 months, that is really soon to be starting.  Most kids don't pick it up until they are between 2 and 3 years old.  Aubree most likely acts out because when they are this age they want what they want and can't understand why they can't have it and they have a tough time communicating so they get easily frustrated.  Jayden this morning was asking me why I was leaving the room when I was getting ready for work.  I told him I had to iron...he began to point his finger at me and yell or babble but I could tell he was not happy with  It is funny to see them grow and to start to develop communication skills.  You will see, Aubree will begin to listen, you just have to find the right type of discipline that will work.  Just now even though I hitting the terrible two's, I found that telling him he's going to go to bed if he doesn't listen, is now working and he's listening a lot better.  I'm also very sorry for what is happening with your family.  I wish you the best and hopefully once the wedding is over, things will start looking up.  Its stressful to plan those types of events.  Big hugs to you.

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by tatorbug40, Sep 11, 2009
sometimes life just builds up....  this is an overwhelming time for you, in general, and the failing health of both of your dad's can be a stressful time all on its own....   hang in there,  you will get through this, and it sounds like there is a lot of love in your family-  so that will get you through this time!  hugs!

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by tatorbug40, Sep 11, 2009
Colten too is going through the terrible twos-  but he is my second, and so for the most part I am just ignoring it---  :)  it seems less stressful the second time around, and being able to just let him cry and work out his emotions-  then when he's done-  he just wants a hug!  :)

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by Cheyenne_08, Sep 11, 2009
I am so sorry that everything seems to be building up around you :-( However,, hopefully things will get better. You are going to be getting married in a few weeks, have a baby in a few months, and you have a loving family :-) Try to stay positive, I know it is hard sometimes!

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by pinkbelle, Sep 11, 2009
it doesn't help that my hormones are making my emotions all over the place.. i can go from laughing to crying at the blink of an eye..

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by surromommy, Sep 12, 2009
I wouldn't worry about your little one and the potty, she is so young yet!

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