Jul 09, 2015
Here goes nothing,
I stumbled across this site by googling "How to take a mean mom down" and here I am. I recently seen another post that was posted about 7 years ago talking about how her mother is horrible, bitter, and jealous of her. Well lets just say I can relate...BIG TIME! I have now recently started calling my mother "mommie dearest" or "shedevil" either one fits her. anyways, lets take this story to about 3 weeks ago at my college graduation in San Francisco, CA. Everything was going smoothly, I walked across stage, the ceremony was beautiful, everything was great until; I saw my family (includes my dad, my half sister, my niece, nephew, boyfriend, and "shedevil") They came down from the seating area to meet up with me to take pictures and celebrate. Everyone was down there except "shedevil" I asked my dad where she was and he shrugged his shoulders and had a look on his face like he didn't care at that point, my sister was like your dad and her got into an argument and took off somewhere. I have a very caring personality and decided to go looking for her, I found her sitting on a bench just pouting like a 3 year old. I asked her what's wrong and what happened? She responded by saying "Your F*cking dad told me to shut up when I was rooting for you and that I was acting like an idiot" (Now if you know anything about my dad he would never ever say anything like that to her) I told her okay mom can you please get over it, this night is about me and right now your making it about you. My dad and the rest of the family walked up and then she started to cuss him out in front of EVERYBODY, I mean EVERYBODY. I was so embarrassed and I kept trying to get her to calm down, but she didn't care, she cussed him out and then tried to leave the building. I followed her out and tried to tell her to stop an then again she flipped out on me and started cussing at everyone that was looking, she even tried to walk into on coming traffic when she was "running away" from us. Luckily there was a cop and saw how distraught I was and how evil and mean she was getting and called us a taxi. The taxi driver had to drive my sister, my niece my dad and "shedevil" to Berkley back to the hotel. My nephew, boyfriend, and I decided to find our own way back to Oakland. From what my dad and sister told me was that "shedevil" tried multiple times to jump out of the car and the taxi driver had to pull over cause she was making a scene again. My dad finally calmed her down and back into the taxi and they were back at the hotel. MY graduation night was ruined, I wanted to have a nice dinner in the city and finally enjoy my family because its been months since I seen them. BUT NO, once again "shedevil" had to make MY night about her, not even caring that I worked hard or even congratulated me. NOTHING. Lets just say we tried to make the best of the rest of their trip here, but it was awkward. I know some of you who are reading this may think this just happened and she's fine, but this is one of many stories from my 25 years of living. She is selfish, jealous, bitter, nasty, she hates everyone, and is a total *****. For the last 10 years all she does with her life is watch reality junk TV and is very materialistic. My dad who is a caring, sweet, veteran and is about to retire soon, takes care of this woman. She doesn't even appreciate him, she doesn't acknowledge him, she just spends his money on stupid *** ****. She has ZERO friends and her side of the family won't have anything to do with her. She's miserable and is jealous that I'm living my life and getting an education and while she barely graduated HS. Since then I have cut all ties with her, but still talk to my dad. I'm a daddy's girl and will always continue to be one. I just wish my dad can divorce her, but "its cheaper to keep her"
Please if anyone has any comments, suggestions, books on dealing with "shedevil" mothers please let me know!
Thanks for reading!