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Nov 13, 2015 - 2 comments

Does anyone have any tips/ideas on how to deal with separation anxiety? Preston is suffering terribly with it.

The first day he went to the babysitter's he was fine. I don't think he realized I was leaving him there for a few hours. Since then, it has progressively gotten worse. Yesterday morning for instance, it took me 15 minutes to put on a pair of pants on Preston. He kicked and screamed the whole time.

He gets so worked up and hyperventilates that he makes himself puke. Once he's there, he's okay. I make it a quick drop off. She gets his coat and shoes off and quickly whisks him off to do a craft or have a snack so it takes his mind off it. She says he has some sad moments like when the other kids are having a nap and he just has quiet time cause he doesn't nap.

I feel bad and hate seeing him like this. It's causing arguments with my hubby. But he needs to get used to doing this. If he was going because I had a job, he would have no choice but to go. And he needs to get used to being dropped off cause he goes to Kindergarten in September.

If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know.

Thanks

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by heather727, Nov 13, 2015
Just keep doing what you're doing - it WILL get easier. Just keep a consistent routine and eventually he'll get used to it - and even look forward to it! He'll make friends at daycare and he'll get to do lots of new stuff, etc. Pretty soon, you won't be able to get him to leave!!

In the mean time, make sure you can devote 20-30 minutes to him one-on-one when you pick him up (or soon there after). This will help remind him that you're still there and will always be, even if he's not with you 24/7.

You're doing the right thing by putting him in some sort of a program before he starts kindergarten. You don't want to have to go through this when he's starting school. Making drop-offs quick is definitely a good move, the longer you take the more worked up they get. As far as getting him dress, try and switch his routine. If you get him dressed and then have him eat breakfast, switch it. Have him eat first and then get dressed. It may give him enough time to calm down and he won't fight you getting dressed.

Good luck mama!! You're doing a great job! :)

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by journey2motherhood, Nov 13, 2015
We gave Alex a picture of me and his dad.  It really seemed to help a great deal! His teacher actually recommended it because she has done it for years.  By the end of the first week, he was much better when we dropped him off.  By the 2nd week he didn't carry the picture around with him very much and by the third, that was it.  He loves it now! Makes it so much easier for me too :-) I felt awful leaving him.  Give it a try and let me know how it goes!

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