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Jan 29, 2016 - 12 comments

Yesterday my hubby drove my inlaws down to the hospital for a check up. I now know that my FIL has thyroid cancer. They were supposed to do a biopsy of his thyroid and then go back in a month to get the results of that biopsy. That would have told us if the radiation worked or not.

Unfortunately they can't and won't do the biopsy. It was not the news we were hoping for. The Dr says because of all the weight he's lost, his thyroid is "falling" and it's sitting too close to his windpipe. If they go in, there's a good chance they could knick it, cut it, or it could collapse. I was thinking to myself and I said to my husband, I've never heard or seen anyone losing so much weight that their organs/parts "fall". What would be the odds that it's "falling" because of the nerve damage he suffered when he had the surgery? I would be more inclined to believe that as that would make more sense.

But I guess the reason why doesn't matter cause it's not gonna change the outcome.

So basically all we can do is make him as comfortable as possible and let him live the rest of his days. How long will that be?! Who knows. Could be 6 months, could be 6 years.

Sad day....

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by Des_a_rae, Jan 29, 2016
Shannon, I'm so sorry you all are going through this and especially for your FIL.  UGH it makes me angry that this could possibly be from THEIR mistake.  So angry!!!  I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.  Sending you all hugs!! <3

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by heather727, Jan 29, 2016
I think it's time for a second opinion. Make sure it's a doctor not affiliated with the same hospital, etc. An outside perspective might give a better answer.

You're in my thoughts and prayers. I hope some good news comes your way soon!!

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by KeeLolo, Jan 29, 2016
My heart and prayers go out to you. We are dealing with my grandmother in and out of hospital right now. Cancer has returned and had been diagnosed with congestive heart failure. With the fluid she is retaining and being so tired she has missed a couple of her chemo/radiation treatments..... So you're really get 6 months or 6 years it's totally all in Gods hands.
Hugs

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by Shannon79, Jan 29, 2016
Thanks ladies. Hugs to you all

I'm not sure we could convince dad to get a second opinion. Hubby said he was okay with this answer. He seems to be at peace with it. He told the Dr, if you can make it past 65, you're doing great. I'm 86 and I've lead a good life.

I know it's in God's hands, but it's still hard as you know. I'm sorry about your Grandmother Kee

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by Belle313, Jan 29, 2016
I'm so sorry, Shannon. It's not an easy thing to deal with. We just lost our friend to CA(brain) remberance is tomorrow. It was awful all that he endured. I know you will make the best of the time you have left with your FIL. Hoping he is kept comfortable and goes peacefully. Sending you a great big hug.

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by Shannon79, Jan 29, 2016
Thank you E. I'm sorry about your friend. Hugs.

I'm hoping he'll start feeling a little better so we can go visit him more often. He doesn't like many people seeing him like this. His face is sagging from the surgery. The skin on his face looks very plastic-y (is that a word?).

All we can hope for him is he makes the most of his days.... That he doesn't stay inside. That he'll at least try and get out to do some of the things he enjoyed doing before being diagnosed.

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by krichar, Jan 29, 2016
So sorry Shannon. .. I guess if he's at peace though that's a good thing. As hard as it is to hear, if he's ok than try to be ok with that. Does that make sense? It would be harder to watch if no one would help him and he was screaming for help

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by krichar, Jan 29, 2016
So sorry Shannon. .. I guess if he's at peace though that's a good thing. As hard as it is to hear, if he's ok than try to be ok with that. Does that make sense? It would be harder to watch if no one would help him and he was screaming for help

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by krichar, Jan 29, 2016
So sorry Shannon. .. I guess if he's at peace though that's a good thing. As hard as it is to hear, if he's ok than try to be ok with that. Does that make sense? It would be harder to watch if no one would help him and he was screaming for help

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by Jewels63, Jan 29, 2016
So sorry to hear this Shandon.  Praying for strength for all of you to help you through this xx

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by Shannon79, Jan 29, 2016
Yes that is true K. He's at peace with it, but I don't think mom is. But I can't say that I blame her. If it were my hubby with the cancer and we were told that, I don't think I would be at peace with it either.

Thank you jewels

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by Hollus, Jan 31, 2016
I am so sad to hear this Shannon. I was praying for a different outcome for him and your family! I am so sorry and sending prayers for peace for all of you and 6+ more years with FIL. Love and hugs my friend!!

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