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What should your 4 year old know...?

Aug 04, 2008 - 4 comments

"She should know that she is loved wholly and unconditionally, all of the time... She should know that it is always okay to paint the sky orange and give cats 6 legs... He should know his own interests and be encouraged to follow them... "



Its a part of an article I didnt read all the way through but I came across in more research of homeshooling. There was a situation in which a group of mothers wondering about homeschool (like me!) was questioning other mothers of preschoolers and teachers of preschoolers what their child should know at the ages 2,3,4... The mothers gave their opinions that your child should have an understanding of numbers, know their letters, etc. The teachers replied the above quotation, in so many words. They stressed, genuine interest in learning, communication, compassion. I found myself wondering, how many times had I felt threatened hearing about mothers who were already halfway through with teaching their children all the names of the planets, presidents, etc. While my child knew a very cute version of the abc's ( L, N, Minnow, P!) and different songs we made up about various things like bathtime, going to the grocery store, and other things. Why were these teachers so much more aware of these childrens foundational needs than their own parents, and why do we as parents sometimes feel that pushing a child is more effective than holding their hand? And besides, every child learns at their own pace, usually at a faster one when they are well adjusted and have a healthy view on learning. Childhood is not a race, and neither should motherhood be. Its no doubt I have been enjoying their preschool years but as a parent have I not put enough value into what they already know about who they are and what interests them? surely its not something they can take a test on, but I cant help but think its a wonderful, powerful and strong foundation to build on. One that gives them confidence! Every experience is a learning experience, I had taken for granted all of the play things we do, zoo trips, letting them help cook and clean, taking care of one another and different animals, communication with each other, hygeine, times of day, letting them pick out their own outfits! And I had my own self overwhelmed at the prospect of holding their education in my hands, sure that I was so far behind in my efforts, marking them for failure. So many things to consider when you are a mother, so many dreams you have for them, that it is SO easy to let the time slip from your fingers worrying about the future, and your own success THROUGH your children. And the whole time they are sitting there just enjoying life, loving you and themselves, learning something brand new every day, and not having a thought in their head but when snack time is while your head and heart is in knots over whether they will be ok because of you or not! I think we will be ok, homeschooling starts soon, I have to stock up on some books and my first meeting with my group will be in september. I just wanted to again thank all the people who gave me information on the subject, it was very helpful. And if you are reading this, Agomez or any other experienced homeschooler, I had a question on the age difference in my girls (5&3) and how to go about time management with both the children because I know one or the other will need my full focus for at least a few hours out of the day with their lessons any advice, activities, methods, would be appreciated!

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by saniya408, Aug 04, 2008
i think that a 4 year old should now whatever it is that you want them to know .well they should know the basic abc 123 etc but if you feel the need to teach them somthing else then do so my 4year know more then he should he know about a womens cycle but he says mom you got bleeds,he know about pads.breastfeeding were a baby comes from etc. he know about where he comes from his race he says mommy i am puerto rico instead of i am puerto rican lol but hes 4 so what i am saying is its your child not anyone elses so you decide what you want them to know and not know. there are kids now a days that are6 and 7 that dont know anything because there parents dont care. but you sound like a good mother that onlt wants the best for her kids good luck with everything

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by luv2bmommy, Aug 04, 2008
thank you! lol that reminds me, my 5 year old has a deep understanding of a womans cycle too! LOL its so funny because sometimes you are surprised by how much they remember and when you think they aren't paying attention, they are! so Ill go into detail about something like that and she will be able to recite it word to word later on. lol about the puerto rico instead of puerto rican! Is he bilingual?

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by saniya408, Aug 04, 2008
no hes not bilingual b/c his dad is not teaching him my dad never taught me i can understand it but i dont speak it i told his father to teach all the kids but he dosent. my boyfriend whole family speaks spanish and a litle bit of english and its kinda hard for my kids to talk to them,but hopely he will start to teach them i think that my dauaghter is going to pick it up faster b/c her aunt watches her and she olny speaks spanish to her

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by luv2bmommy, Aug 04, 2008
aww yeah she will learn quickly that way! much easier for them than adults. My dad is from panama and he never taught me either, his side can speak very little english actually so when we all get together its very hard for me! i only catch bits and pieces. i saw pics of your babies cute cute! especially little blue eyes! how gorgeous!

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