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Jul 01, 2010 - 14 comments

Well I was experiencing some unpleasant cramping yesterday while shopping at Walmart.  I spent about an hour walking around the store.  Came home and just took it easy but cramps didnt really subside.  When i woke up this morning my breasts didnt hurt much like they normally do.  We went to the lake.  Used the facilities and noticed I am spotting.  Had a freakout and even showed DH the TP.  He had to agree that the spotting was there - no matter how much he wants to deny that anything may be going wrong. (This spotting was not the same as what i had earlier in the pregnancy. First time around it was just some tiny bits in CM - this time it was pinkish beige CM) When i was panicking DH said some things to me that werent very nice.   i am scared sh!tless right now, and he thinks its a good time to lecture me about being pessimistic.  He even had the nerve to compare me to his crazy mom and sister for whom he has very little regard.

I am NOT feeling very optimistic.  i dont know what to do.  Who do I call?  The RE released me to my family Dr.  My family Dr knows nothing about this stuff - didnt even know what an IUI was.  I havent had my first OBGYN appt yet - thats not till monday.  What on earth do I do?  I have a very bad feeling about this, and i have no one who will listen to my fears.  

I guess i will just try to keep it together until Monday.

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by mhv, Jul 01, 2010
Don't panic!  Please call your RE tomorrow, they will help you.  It doesn't matter if they released you... they can give you guidance!  I understand how scared you must be!  I wish I could give you comfort, but I've never been as far along as you are, so I do not know what is "normal".  Just rest, keep your legs up, and call your RE first thing in the a.m.  I will listen to your fears, because you better believe... If I EVER get preggers again... you and everyone on this board will be listening to mine!  I will pray for you, and I do believe everything is and will be fine.  


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by Ecologic, Jul 01, 2010
You can go to the ER now and pretend you had a lot of blood and a lot of cramping: you'll get an ultrasound right away. Yeah that's lying but if you need to be reassured, that's the best way. Good luck!

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by jennlaurin80, Jul 01, 2010
If i were in your situation, i would go to the ER. They will give you an ultrasound and let you know if there is something wrong. OR, call first thing in the morning. I am so sorry you are going through this, and especially that DH is not making things any easier for you. Will be thinking about you, and praying for your baby

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by jennlaurin80, Jul 01, 2010
I forgot to add, i had a scare when i was released to the OB but had not had my first visit there, so i called the fertility clinic, and they had me come in there & they gave me an ultrasound in their office. If you dont want to go to the ER, either your new OB or your fertility specialist should get you in right away. Generally with concerns where there is spotting they have you come in pronto

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by GiGiGiGi, Jul 01, 2010
Unfortunately, it is a holiday here and emergency rooms will be swamped.  Even on good days there is often a 3 hour wait - i can only imagine what the wait would be today.  

I will call the RE tomorrow.  Maybe they can fit me in for a scan.  if things are good, then that's awesome.  If they arent good then at least i can get myself back on their list pronto!  I may as well find out whats going on.  i dont have many sympoms and am definitely starting to think the worst.

Geez - i told DH im gonna try to get into the REs for a US tomorrow and DH told me not to ruin the weekend.  Hows that for nice!  

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by jennlaurin80, Jul 01, 2010
That is SO insensitive of your DH, i hope he comes to his senses and realizes how hurtful comments like that to you are.
I hope your able to get in 1st thing. I think ALL fertility clinics are open every day of the week & holidays...i know all of the ones near me are.

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by peg2red, Jul 01, 2010
I'm sorry to hear that ur going to these. But keep ur faith in God and he will take of u. As for ur DH give him to God because he has issues that needs to dealt with. Take care of u and I will be lifting u up on prayer. God bless.

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by GiGiGiGi, Jul 01, 2010
Unfortunately, I live in Canada and thats not the case here.  There is only 1 RE in the city I live in.  They are open on Saturdays only when they have IVF's planned, and never on Sundays.

As for DH - i dont even know what to say.  he is convinced that there is nothing wrong because last time i had some spotting the RE said everything was AOK.  


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by adgal, Jul 01, 2010
Ok hon, I had this too remember?  And all turned out great.  If it is just spotting, you need to get off your feet, have a nice cup of tea and try your hardest to not stress (I know, much easier said then done, I was a wreck when this happened as well).  Unfortunately there isn't much that can be done until that OB app. monday.  You could go to the ER, but take if from experience..the only thing they can do is an ultrasound, and getting that done through ER can be a very lengthy process.  Just take it easy, and don't exert yourself.  There are about 100 reasons this could happen, and only one is bad.  It could be from BD'ing, or just exertion.  It doesn't hurt the baby, it's just scary.  Chances are everything is fine.  Once you have seen a heartbeat, your chance of a loss drops dramatically.  Most first trimester losses happen prior to ever seeing a h/b, they just aren't always caught until a bit later, know what I mean?  There is a very very good chance everything is ok.  My DH used to sometimes get upset with me as well.  I think they are as stressed as we are, and this is just how they deal with it.  Not very sensitive, but fear does weird things to people.  Hang in there, I would bet anything that all is just fine with that little bean.  XOXO

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by borboleta, Jul 02, 2010
I hope you can contact your last doctor and let him know what is happening with you right now... maybe he can advice you  what to do. Try to stay calm, and keep your feets up,  yohave a bed rest untilu can see your doctor... I will be praying for you! big hug...


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by mhv, Jul 02, 2010
Please let us know what the RE says this am!  I thought about you first thing this a.m. and was just checking in to make sure everything is ok.  Try and take it easy while your a work.  We're thinking about you! : )

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by seattleview, Jul 02, 2010
I'm so sorry you're so stressed and worried and that your husband is being a royal [email protected] I pinched my husband's leg really hard last night during dinner when he was annoying me. Sounds like yours could use a good pinch, too, or maybe even a punch! I agree with the ladies who have said to call your RE. Have you done that yet? I'm actually considering calling my RE to ask if they'll do a 10 or 12 week ultrasound for me since my OB isn't planning to do one until 18-20 weeks. I can't wait that long after being constantly monitored for the past two months! As someone else mentioned, I've never been as far along as you either so I have no idea what's normal...but I agree that the odds are in your favor at this point. I hope you can get to a doctor today and get some reassurance. Please let us all know how it goes - we're all here rooting for you and your little one.

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by GiGiGiGi, Jul 02, 2010
Good news at the RE!!!!

I went for a US and all is well!  The baby measured at 10 weeks 4 days and was moving all over the place.  Thank you, God, for listening to my prayers, and thank you to anyone who prayed for my little sprout.

The RE said that there is no explanation for this cramping and spotting and that some women just have this.  He told me to talk to the OB about it on Monday, but that everything looks good - no evidence of bleeding.  He also told me to take it easy this weekend - no heavy lifting or anything strenuous... I will try my best to do nothing at all!

Thank you again to everyone for your support and advice!  You helped me to maintain my sanity... and i'm close to the edge, believe me!


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by adgal, Jul 02, 2010
Yay, Yay and triple yay!!!  I am so happy for you.  Now, you listen to him and let yourself be pampered girlfriend, you deserve it.  From my experiences with loss, I learned an awful lot, and I can tell you that at this stage, with a healthy heartbeat and fetus, your chances of loss are almost 0!!  So enjoy that little person growing inside of will meet him/her soon enough...and your going to be a Mommy!!!!!!   I get so emotional when I see someone who has been through so much finally achieve her dream.  I am just so darned happy for you!!!!  (((((((hugs)))) and hug that tummy for me.

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