Jul 02, 2010
I would like to hear from other mothers on how they handle meltdowns from their children. I'm getting to the point where I want to rip my hair out and never leave my house with my child. Jayden is 2 1/2 and is very stubborn, very strong willed and very out of control. He's not horrendous, he listens some what but he's just been on this bad streak and I don't know how to handle it without going ballistic on him. He talks back, he tells me no all the time, he runs from me, he is now hitting me. I never thought I would be in this position. I'm a very balanced parent, I think. I allow him to have his feelings by giving him room to do a lot of things, so I'm lenient in a way with what I feel I should be lenient with, but I'm also very strict when I feel it's necessary. I don't let him talk loud in an elevator or a restaurant, I don't let him run around places that are inappropriate, I let him play in the kitchen sink and make a mess but when I say ok that's enough, well I feel like I should only have to say it once. Anyway, these are just mini examples. So here is where I reached my breaking point yesterday. We went to our favorite playground yesterday. It was quite chilly here in NY...maybe 75 degrees. For July, that's chilly. So I was surprised when the sprinklers were on. Of course there were only a couple kids in there, but for the most part, kids weren't going near the water. It was cold. I usually have Jay dressed in his bathing suit but not yesterday because there were no intentions of going near the water. So of course he wants to go in and I tell him no not today because it's cold. So I distract him by having him go on the slide and climb and stuff. So once again he wants to go in, and once again my answer is no. So I distract again, and then he gets away from me and goes to the sprinklers, I say fine but just put your hands in for a few and that's it. So he does, so then I tell him that it was enough and he turns and says "no", I walk up to him and what does he do....he runs right through the sprinklers away from me. I finally catch him and I bend down and talk directly into his face and say "Jay, I said that's enough. I let you put your hands in and when I say no, it's no and do not run from me, if you can't listen to me then we will leave and go home." Well he walks away, turns to me, points his finger at me and starts scolding me. So I take his hand and I say, it's time to go home. Mind you we've only been there for 20 minutes. So my wonderful child decides to drop to his knees and he's there dangling because I have his hand. I'm telling him to stand up, he won't. I then pick him up and he starts screaming and hitting me, pulling my hair, pinching my skin. I pull him away from people because I'm totally embarassed at this point, we get to a corner and I sit him down and walk away from him and sit about 5 feet from him. He's crying and I just let him sit there and cry for about 2 minutes. Then I go up to him and I tell him that I do not like being hit or him throwing a fit, because he can't behave we are going home. So I pick him up and we go home. So I'm sure this is typical of every 2 1/2 year old but I want to know, did I handle that appropriately? What else can I do, I'm so frustrated and drained. I don't want to be one of those moms that can't control their child. I didn't want to leave the park but I feel like he needs consequences, you act up we leave and go home. I need to be tough or else he will continue to misbehave in public. I'm so sad about this, maybe it's normal...I just don't know what to do.