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Aug 09, 2010 - 69 comments

Strange title right?  Well I just realized that women have evolved into something that I had only expected from men.  I don't know if this is the "modern" woman or they have just no respect for other women nowadays, but it is quite disconcerting.  Let me give you the back story.  Richie and I went out to a nightclub on Friday night.  Granted, he always seems to get some type of attention from other women, maybe looks and stares, but so do I from men, so it's not an uncommon occurrence.  Well one girl in particular was standing and dancing next to us.  Not very attractive, huge boobs but that's all she had going for her.  Not trying to sound conceited but definitely no competition with me.  I'm being harsh here because what she does is completely disgusting my words aren't even enough to get out the anger I felt.  So anyway, she's dancing with her a$$ all out and some random guy comes up behind her and she turns and looks and I guess she's ok with it and just continues to rub her a$$ on the guy.  Richie and I laughed because it was just so stupid and nasty.  So him and I are dancing and its clear that we are a couple and so I decided to go to the bathroom.  When I come back out, the girl is gone.  Not that I was watching her but I can sense when a woman is trying to get my man's attention.  So we left the club and were in the cab ride home.  In the cab he tells me that the big breasted hoebag had the nerve to ask him for his number.  WHAT?????  Like as soon as I walk away she goes and tries to get his phone number.  He says to her "I'm here with my fiance and no you can't have my number."  So her friend goes "come on let's go" and she turns and says "well at least I tried", trying to be cute.  I am so disgusted, is this what women have become?  You knew we were together, it was obvious I wasn't just some girl he was dancing with.  You waited for the perfect time to ask him, so you could care less and have no respect for me as a woman.  You are so pathetic that you have to go after a man who has a girl so what is it, you like the competition?  That's how much self respect you have that you have to go after men who aren't available.  You have enough balls to ask him when I'm not around but not enough to stick around afterward to deal with the aftermath.  I don't understand.  Men aren't even that disrespectful.  I had one guy approach me when Richie was in the bathroom, it was obvious that this guy didn't think I was with anyone and as soon as I said no, he walked away.  Have women switched roles here?  I mean I just don't understand, maybe I'm naive.  It just angered me so much.  

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 09, 2010
I have NEVER set foot into a club and I don't plan too either. Not cause i'm boring, cause its not my thing.
But where I used to live, girls EVERYDAY went and asked for my BF's number.. and when we got bad cause of my paranoia he gave it to them. its not like that now, but EVERYONE in that area knew we was together....
And it got to me everyday...

And it got so bad.. we broke up.
But girls nowadays,, Omgollygoshers... I swear like you put it havee swapped with men. The clothes they wear and things, its like woah, so I take it you left your dignity in the bush you probably slept with someone in. Most of the girls these days lose their Vaginity underage, and also under the influence of alcohol. And dont even remember it the next day. And was a one night stand....

I lost my 'ya know' with my boyfriend on my 16th birthday (Our age limit) and we are still together 2 and a half yrs down the line.. minus a few hiccups... Because of other people and rumours. Which have stopped now we have both moved. I was sober because I dont drink at all..... and I remember it, and it was lovely, cause I was in love, and we had been together six months already...

Its like the girls don't care...

It's not right, because round in England, people dress their babies up like Mini prostitues... (Sorrry) If I have a girl, she will carry around dignity and pride. And her legs shut. I will be strict, I don't care if she hates me, her dad will be strict too... I am keeping her safe.

But seriously, girls HAVE taken over the male persona.. (I think thats the right saying sorry, I mean like Identity).

It's not right...

I am sorry this happened to you as well. Next time you see her, sock her one :)

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by RUBYH, Aug 09, 2010
I don't think its a woman thing. I think it is a class factor. I have been approached before like that. I have had a man ask me so am I gonna be your boyfriend or your sancho (lover aka boy toy). Very disrespectful and low class. Unfortunatly there are people like that everywhere. Looks like your fiance is trust worthy so I wouldnt feel too angry. Really you should pity that Woman. She has very low self esteem and will eventually end up with someone who will not treat her right if she doesnt change her ways.

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by ammanda, Aug 09, 2010
I can totally relate, girls are so very scandalous these days.  One day when me and my ex fiancee were broken up but trying to work through it, I went to a softball game with a friend to watch her boyfriend play. and the town sl*** was there. I didnt know who she was till after this.  so I was being nice she sat next to us and was hanging out talking. and literally listening to me and my friend talking about how me and him were working things out cause we love each other and have a son together that needs us. and she agreed and blah blah and was being nice. well after the game I met up with my ex at the bar I work at, and we decided to go to the the bar in the next town over, well lil did i know she was there. I said hi to her when I got there, and she seen he was with me and she didnt even say hi she gave me a dirty look and turned around. wtf! we were just hanging out and talking.  Well anyway after all that, she invited him to go to the club with her and they were dancing,(it wasnt only her fault, it was his too) but she should have known better, girls arnt supposed to do that crap to others. especially if there pretending to be ur friend.  well he ended up going with her to the club that I couldnt go to cuz u gotta be 21 to get in there.  so i went home and she was supposed to bring him home, they begged me to trust them and they were just friends. so i did, cause im that kinda girl i give everyone a chance. well he never came home. so i got on his facebook, and seen they have been flirting for WEEKS!!!  wth, she was a freaking home wrecker.  

Girls are just so pathetic these days, especially single girls. there so desperate!! I would never take a man away from his girlfriend and his son!  Even if it was to be friends.  he should be at home with his family not at the club u know.  but yea that girl seems to be skanky in my eyes.  When I go to the club i dont dance all nasty i just dance like im dancing to rock music at all times lol..  

I would just be happy that your man pretty much told her to hit the road!!!!!

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by mami1323, Aug 09, 2010
I'm just tired of women being this way.  I mean once you know that he's with someone can't you just go away.  I would never purposely go after a man who is taken.  I think it is a class factor or at least a self esteem factor.  Believe me, my fiance have had infidelity issues before so it's a matter of maturity and respect now.  But in the past he was with a woman who was older, close to 40 and trying to break us up.  At the time we were expecting a baby and she didn't care.  I have no idea why women are this way.  I know men are too but lately I feel like the roles are reversed.  It used to be me getting guys without respecting who I was with and now it's the other way around.

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by specialmom, Aug 09, 2010
I look at it this way----------- some people want what others have.  They see a guy in a relationship and think------- I want that too.  They lose their head and somehow think they have a chance.  So------- big boob mama makes her move when you  leave.  Dumb.  I say pity her as she is pathetic.  A real woman understands that finding a good man does not include stealing him from someone else.  And a real and smart woman knows when she has no chance.  So, pity this chick and be thankful that your rack isn't the only thing going for you!  

And the sleezy chick that came into the picture when you were pregnant . . . well.  Some people have not a conscious or a soul.  And they end up alone.  (smile.)  . . . . yeesh.  I'm grumpy today.  LOL

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by mami1323, Aug 09, 2010
Haha, thanks girlie.  Yes, that's exactly what she thought her big boobs were going to get her some where.  Well sweetie, sorry...you're not cute and that fake flower in your hair was tacky....lol.  We got a good laugh at her expense.  

And the other one, well yeah, she's a disgusting pig.

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by CYW, Aug 09, 2010
jezi i have to say YES this is what women have become...it's sad and unfortunate but ive seen alot of women hit on a man knowing he is with someone...its pathetic..

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by KarenDiane, Aug 09, 2010
I think you are right, it is a new thing and I'm not sure what started it but I see it all the time. I work with a lot of young girls and they talk about the men they are with who have girlfriends, kids, etc. They all use the excuse that all the good ones are taken. These girls have no shame, no dignity and no self-worth. I think their parents are too blame.

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 09, 2010
They say the good ones are taken, but the better ones are gay.
ARGH... But alot of gentlemen are gay, that is a shame LOL... But you would actually rather people lik that (Who will treat you right) as friends, instead of partners, Friends are around forever.. :)
Anyways...

Alot of girls from where I live oh dear. I swear they have a job of just laying on their backs!!
If you get what I mean....? Because I am not one to talk, yes I am 17 and preg, BUT  I have only ever slept with one person and thats the way I wanna stay, we have been together 2 years, I waited till legal age, and when I felt ready and was in love... We were together 6 months. If anything happens with me and my partner (touch wood it doesnt) then Tbf, I wouldnt jump into bed with somone else, and I would wait at least 6 months (If I met someone else before jumping into bed with them, I have pride) BUT... today I saw at least 6 girls my age (From what I could see,) Pregnant...

Okay I cant talk. I dont know their stories either. so I can't judge.

Even at SCHOOL 16 YEARS OLD, girls were after guys who had GF's... It was cool to sleep around, and the in thing to lose 'it' before 16. DO NOT GET ME STARTED on how they wore the skirts.... about 20 CM ABOVE the knee... you could see there freaking a$$ cheeks! No dignity. No shame. Bra stuffing, or wearing bra's too small to push them up....
No thanks. My body is for my boyfriends eyes only, not everyone in the world to see....

They are called Private parts for a reason LOL....

Woah!!!

xx

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by k10road, Aug 09, 2010
Jezi - you knowwwww my feelings here...and if I say exactly how I feel, I will get banned from MH :-)

Stupid &*(# @$$ 403......ugh

I soooo think women are turning into this!  I just heard this week about this woman who moved in on our block, and once I heard her story, I made sure to tell my friend to keep her the he11 away from my house and my family.  She has had 8 - I REPEAT 8 - affairs while married and is now getting divorced as a result.  Word is that if you are not married, you are not on her menu.  I mean, seriously?????  DISGUSTING.

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by angelsrejoice, Aug 09, 2010
Wow It really is a shame how desperate some women (and men too) have become. My husband had a non-serious relationship (it was on and off again for two years during high school and he never took her out on dates or spent money on her...he said she bugged him so much that he just gave in and would hang out with her occasionaly like a total of 2 months over a 2 year period). She didn't mean anything to him and he said she was really annoying and even his friends and family hated her and that when he graduated HS he broke up with her.

So years later and no contact with her he had basically forgotten her. He told me when we met that he is embarrased that he ever went out with her and would just like to not talk about her...ok that was fine. Well we have facebook and myspace and one day I get a friend request from a girl and I just had a feeling that it was this girl from HS. So I asked my husband and he says yea that's her why is she wanting to be your friend? So I wrote to her and said I know who you are, why do you want to be my friend? Well she started making up all this stuff about why am I coming to her like that, she just wants to be my friend and that she hasn't written to my husband or anything...So I ask my hubby to please go check your account (he never gets on it) so he does and sure enough...she had written to him saying how much she missed him and that she wants to get back together and that she so jealous that he had a kid with me and to please write her back! So she had written to him and lied to me about it.  I guess since he never answered her she decided to go to me instead. My hubby said to let it go and ignore her. So we did ignore her but she continued to write and beg him to be her friend and she would even write to me and tell me how much stuff they did together and how good they were together...which was all a lie. I believe my hubby over some idiot! She was trying to make it sound like they had something good. What a loser!  Obviously if it was that good of a relationship they would still be together. The only reason she wanted him back was because he was happy, married and had a family and she was a single mom with no one. We eventually had to report her and block her on both facebook and myspace because she would not stop. The saddest part is that she had a kid with some other guy who left her....so why aren't you caring for your child instead of chasing around people on the interent. I feel really sorry for her kid.

If you really cared about someone you would write just long enough to say "Hey I saw your profile and I am so happy for you. You have a beautiful family. Congrats!" and leave it at that. Not go around begging to be with someone that hasn't seen or talked to you in over 5 years! So silly. It was a big laugh between my hubby and I. Some girls are just so immature!!



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by alaysha, Aug 09, 2010
Girls are SO scandalous these days. This reminds me of a time right before I found out I was pregnant DH and I went out to a night club. It was late (almost close) and some girl was whispering with her girl friends and pointing to Nathan and trying to wave him over. So I went over and was like "that's my husband". Well she just blew it off and was like, "we just have a question for him". I was beginning to find it amusing (and I like to put DH is awkward situations because I find it humorous to see him get out of them) so I went over to Nathan and told him that the girls over there had a question for him. He blows it off and gives me a kiss and I push him away laughing because I'm really not big on PDA. Well right afterwords the girls wave me over and say, "suck for him". WTF. I had just told the girl he was married and she still wanted to talk to him which was amusing but then having the nerve to say that it ***** for him. Ugh. I don't know what is up with girls these days. Does no one respect relationships in general?

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by jamrock1971, Aug 09, 2010
There has definatly been a role reversal nowadays, when i was single i would never dream of approaching a man at a club or anywhere else! girls who throw themselves at men at clubs are lacking  a lot of things respect,morals shall i go on! oh yes! and a man! i wonder why lol!

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 09, 2010
HAHAHAHAHA Sorry. Jamrock, thats pretty damn true.
They wonder why they are missing men, because they have a bad rep because of what they are doing, and how they are throwing themselves at men...

Its all because mainly of the 'Porn star' image that has been set out. Girls feel the need to be like them..??
But I always thought you are more than likely to get a decent guy when you respect yourself.... And have decentcy (Cant spell) and respectfor yourself. And not being a drunken mess with your bits and bob's hanging out for the world to see, hitting on guys who you know have other halves, who are like 1000000.000 times better than them as they have the guy that these people after?

x

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by hopefull613, Aug 09, 2010
you said women they are not women i could go on an on about my experiences but i would they are deffinately worst than men...my hubby and i talk about everything and i mean every thing and there are gurls who hav slept with almost all his friends and stll want to get with him even if they no me and kno we together, once we went clubbing together we were dancig and stuff and then i went upstairs with my frend and he stayed down stairs with his frends and this gurl came up to him and asked him to go hme with her....SKANK....these females dont hav any respect for themselves so im not supprised that they dont hav for othrs

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 09, 2010
That's how STI's are spread! Through those erm.... 'Wo---men'
I think itts because Guys can or could sleep around and not get labelled and girls wanna be the same, because they think its fair.
Im proud to have slept with one person... when I was legal age, and ready!!

Girls have written my boyfriends number all around where we used to live so the other girls could have it.....
In total he changed his number 9 times!! Because they used to get hold of it from his 'mates' and these pathetic girls wrote it EVERYWHERE. So all these other girls could have it.....
Pathetic, respectless, Tramps basically!!!!

x

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by TinaR10, Aug 09, 2010
I Go threw the same thing with my dh girls be all over him and the first thing he says is i am married and I would never mess that up for u but they still be trying so he walks away its so sad women are so pressed for a man they want someone elses man. but as long as our men are strong FORGET THE HOCHIES LOL

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Wow, glad to know I'm not the only one who has gone through this.  Eeewww, angelsrejoice, that girl sounds like a complete nutcase.  

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by HaYnSweetie, Aug 10, 2010
I heard that 67% of females with mess with a taken man & not even care! I think women have gotten worse & they just dont care or respect the woman he is with. Its pretty sad how alot of females are just dirty little wh0res!


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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Maybe less men would cheat if there weren't females ready, willing and able to cheat with them when they have other women.  Perhaps if other women would respect eachother than men wouldn't be able to do what they do.

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by j7653, Aug 10, 2010
Hey, I'm a good one and I'm not gay.  So let's not pile on all of mankind.  Apparently morals and decency have gone out the window.  This type of sh*t is happening all the time.

PS - mami and others, take a look at my recent journal entry!

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
I was wondering if it was the gender or just morals and values that don't exist anymore.

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by Ashelen, Aug 10, 2010
Oh Jez...I would've gone back to that club the next day, hunted her down, and smacked her just for good measure. I'm one of those girls that you DON'T approach my husband....I know he'll turn a girl down, but I'm like a rabid dog guarding a bone and I know it's not healthy LOL. ONe time we were at a friend's party at her house and her slu*ty little friend who was, yes rather attractive and MAY have had boobs as large as mine (this was back when I was skinny and hot stuff lol) walks up to my fiance at the time who HAS HIS ARM AROUND ME, and sidles up to him and goes "hey babe wanna go find a dark corner somewhere?" I'm not kidding, I just doubled over laughing, pushed her back with one hand, and then back-handed slapped her in front of everyone while still laughing. She left the room crying..came back and apologized later! She wasn't too bad of a kid really but I saw her at the grocery store about a week later and her legs started shaking so bad that she had to excuse herself from the line where she was working and go to the break room. Looking back I shouldn't have hit her, of course, but ah the passions of youth LOL .

For future reference I don't REALLY advise handling things the way I did...I was 18 and hot-blooded and had about half a lick of sense in my head.


by the way Jezi I'm sending you a mail I've got some laughs to share with you..

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
HAHAHA!!!!  What a great story....I wish I would've been there to back slap the b!tch.  I don't recommend it either but if they have the nerve to say what they say then they should be able to handle the consequences of that.  That's my feeling about it.

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by Ashelen, Aug 10, 2010
So true. She had to know she was in for SOMEthing. Speaking of females acting poorly, my daughter just stole my pop-tart and ran away WTF

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Haha, see it starts young, always wants to take what isn't hers...lol.

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by Ashelen, Aug 10, 2010
exactly!!!!! But I know what you mean about it being a previously male habit to do something like what the girl in the night club did...(by the way should I be concerned that my MIL told me last night that she's taking me to Harry Potter Universal and plans to go clubbing with me and get **** drunk? I love that woman but I worry because I'm her only friend...she really is awesome tho lol) but when DH and I were at the same party where I hit the girl, earlier we were in a line getting food and my fiance turned away for a second and this guy that I had pursued in high school but nothing ever developed turns to me, puts his arm around me, strokes my hair, and goes "Why was I so blind? you could've been mine..." I told my husband (fiance then) about it later and he laughed but we still run into that guy occasionally (he got fat and works for my dad now LOL)and DH looks at him sideways I know.

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Be happy your MIL isn't crazy and jealous of you.  There are so many like that.  Take her out so she can party like a rockstar.  

Yeah, you know, I feel like he gets hit on more than me lately.  Maybe I'm jealous, I need attention to.

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by Ashelen, Aug 10, 2010
Oh girl I think guys are just intimidated by you...you're freakin' SMOKIN'! Not kidding either...I found that when I was at my hottest guys used to stare and drool but keep their distance....but when i was a little less "perfect" I had them crawling all over me...and then of course I got fat and now I still get attention but it's nowhere near what I used to get....so I honestly do believe the maxim that men get intimidated by beautiful women.

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Thank you...that is sweet.  I felt very insecure at the club because I was like beating the girls off him and I was ignored.  

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by Ashelen, Aug 10, 2010
I wasn't trying to be sweet (it was just a by-product, lol) I'm genuinely serious I think that's why...and especially a beautiful woman who's with a guy, most of them don't have the balls to make an approach. I bet if you had looked you would've noticed a LOT of stares though, just guessing.

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Perhaps, I never look though.  I am more focused on Richie when I go out.  But I am well aware of the hoes that are trying to dig their claws in him.

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by LosingMyMindInGA, Aug 10, 2010
I think its morals and values that no longer exist. Children are raised to expect things and one of the things they expect is to get everything they want.

It does sound to me like this girl deliberately chose a man who was spoken for ...then when she is rejected (as I think it's pretty safe to assume is quite frequently) she can blame it on him being in a relationship rather than her own hideousness

Even with that line of thinking I'm with Ashelen I would be tempted to hunt her down and make it know what I think of her.  

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Haha, her own hideousness...lol.  That is true.  She didn't get it, just with that stupid comment "well at least I tried".  I told him obviously he should've been harder on her...lol.  I told him that he should've told her that he wouldn't lose what he has for a nasty pig like her.  That would've been better.  This way she doesn't think she was only rejected because he was taken but because she was disgusting.  

It's safe to say I don't think we will see her again.  New York is a big city, it's not likely that I will see her again.  

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by Ashelen, Aug 10, 2010
Oh yes I forgot you're a big city gal...GA and I are both from smaller towns so we wouldn't have much trouble hunting her down LOL

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Yeah, probably better that way.  I would get myself into a lot of trouble if I lived in a small town.  New York has a lot of men, so I can't understand the logic of having to go after someone taken as well.  Plenty of fish in this sea.

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by LosingMyMindInGA, Aug 10, 2010
LOL.  Yeah around here it's very likely you'll see the person again.  Regardless of whether or not I would classify as a "knockout" or not...and even if the other woman IS prettier/has a better body than me does NOT mean I would back down like a scolded dog. I have scared off my fair share of women.  And i do mean SCARE becuase they're all afraid I'm gonna beat the crap outta them LOL funny thing is I don't even have to threaten them.. I guess I just LOOK mean...good..keeps everyone in line LOL


I also think it's partly a game for these women.  Ya know..like if they see a guy with a really hot woman they think "If I can get his number it means I'm hotter than her"  It's all just a lame attempt at boosting their pathetic lack of self esteem.

But had it been me and I had seen her eyeballing my man I would have I would have put the breaks on it then and there...with something along the lines of "Don't bother, honey, he likes women with class, somethign you obviously lack" or " I wouldn't waste your time, darlin, he doesn't go for drag queens" ;)  

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
See, I saw her trying to show off, not towards him but in general.  If I had known she would attempt to approach him, well then I wouldn't of gone to pee...lol.

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 10, 2010
You cant not pee LOL....

Your other half has to be a looker :) You're pretty darn lucky... and he blates doesnt go with tramps... :) Cause you seem pretty lovely and fun...

If you ever saw her again and she some how has bagged herself a fella ?? I think pigs will fly before she gets one...
tell DH what you're doing, and go to her fella and do the same? LOL.....

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
We live in NYC there is no way I will ever see her again.

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 10, 2010
Ahh... Maybe not then....

Well your other half sounds like a decent bloke... :)

and she is a tramp :)

x

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by Ashelen, Aug 10, 2010
hum...

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Oh yeah, real descent...lol.  He's come a long way lets say!!!

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by chinesebones, Aug 10, 2010
Twenty years ago I was in a long-term relationship with this guy, and I had to go out of town for school one weekend.  I hated to go because our friend's funeral was that weekend, but I had to go.  The campus "free love"r (I'm being kind) picked up my boyfriend AT THE FUNERAL and took him home with her.  She was just one of many girls who didn't mind fooling around with my boyfriend behind my back, but it being at a funeral really blew my mind... classy.  BTW he was NOTHING to look at; I never could figure out what those other girls saw in him (we had a great rapport which is why I stuck around long after I should have dumped him for good.)  I was always about the sisterhood and never considered a taken man.  Even when I met my now-DH for the first time, he was dating someone else, and although we had a wonderful conversation I wasn't even attracted to him because he was taken.  Only after they broke up and we ran into each other again was I suddenly smitten.  
Of course, I was propositioned at a party by a friend a mere two weeks after I got married.  He was drunk so I tried to let him down easy: "Sorry, but those wedding vows I took are still fresh in my mind" is what I said.
So I don't think it's a new phenomenon or linked to a particular sex- it's just a matter of judgment, self-esteem and belief in the Golden Rule- or lack thereof.  

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Yeah, I think you're correct.  I once wound up in a situation where the guy I was dating happened to have an "ex" girlfriend who wasn't his "ex"...I was unaware they were still together.  When I found out they were, I dumped him.  I'm not going to be the other woman.  What goes around comes around.

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 10, 2010
Well he is being responsibleee and said I am married, even though it was obv... If that was me and my boyf this time last year, he wouldnt care about whether he had a GF or not.. But now its different.... I think me actually giving up on wanting to get back with him made us better LOL.......

It takes a while but they get there....

Bless them.. LOL..

OMG THERE IS A MENTAL ILLNESS CALLED TANOREXIA...?? Woah! sorry to change the subject LOL..

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
It takes a lot longer Cassandra...longer than you think ;)

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by Ashelen, Aug 10, 2010
I'm sorry..what? What is tanorexia? refusing to tan or tanning too much?

Anyway..Cassandra I know you won't like this but remember...you're both really young and just because he's changed to being reliable for now...don't count on him staying that way forever. he has plenty of time to pull another switch, so don't rely on him TOO much...just make sure you're moderately independent that way you can stay with him and be happy if he stays consistent but if he doesn't you won't have the rug pulled out from under you. most relationships that start in the early-mid teen years don't make it past the early twenties, according to statistics...which is sad.

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 10, 2010
Oh, and you didn't know he was with someone else...Sooo the whole what goes around comes around doesnt work because this thing knew your husband was with someone, the way you explained it it ws obvious you was together.....

You didnt know about the other girl n a previous relationshipp :) So it wasnt your fault

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
Tanorexia is when people are addicted to tanning.

I didn't know about her and when I did I backed off.  Because of that saying what goes around comes around.

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 10, 2010
Tanning too much, like being addicted...  I'm watching something on TV and it spoke about it.:S

We have been together 2 yrs already. My paranoia got in the way alot... now its all different, I know its all going to change or well might change... we are happier than what we were... even the honey moon period, because at the moment we have had experience of living together... and we were in eachothers faces ALL the time... but now we are apart and see eachother what used to be once a week sometimes gets more....so we are getting used to it again. We used to argue ALL DAY EVERYDAY... now once a month because I am stressed.... but yeah that can all change, I used to be SO immature, I still am sometimes and that was a huge problem with us. But now I have settled down and we have got away from the people trying to split us up, causing the rumours we are better... I still get paranoid, that isnt going to go away, that is a mental illness linked to eating disorders and BDD. And he has come to understand that. We work as a team, now I have 2 jobs and things.....
We grew up together, yes although he is 23 and I am 17 (if you have comments go ahead :))...we gew up together, I moved away, I moved back a good few years later, and we met and it was like WOW. Literally like a film... aint like that now though... I waited till legal age for stuff.
We are doing better than what we used to be... alot better... but I know things can change, and I am ready for if they do :)

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 10, 2010
And ohh I get it now, I thought you meant this happend to you because of something in the past...

and yeah I know it can take a life time.....

And sometimes they never grow up... neither do we.
But if you wanna be with them you gotta stick with it and go, well I love him for who he is. :)

Woah this woman had to have plastic surgery because she was so addicted to tanning she looked 70 at 40? LOL....

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by Ashelen, Aug 10, 2010
That's wonderful that you're doing better, but 2 years is no time at all...and my husband went through 4 or 5 changes in the 8 years we've been together. heck he's been through 2 just since we got married 3 years ago.

it's not so much the TIME it's the time PERIOD...the age group you guys are in is very volatile and you will both go through a bunch of changes. I'm just saying don't rely on him..make sure you're independent, and then just enjoy your life and it won't matter if he DOES go the wrong way, which hopefully he won't.

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
I have to agree with Ashelen.  Wow, my journal is going way off topic....lol.  Two years is nothing in comparison to other relationships.  We all change throughout a lifetime.  Who I am today is not who I was 10 years ago.  Same for my fiance.  We've gone through things I never thought we would have to go through and we are still a work in progress.  As are most relationships.  I was in a 6 year relationship with my first love from ages 15-21 and we lived together for 3 years.  I thought we would get married and thought we would have a family together.  Boy was I wrong, he dumped me for a girl he worked with and my life changed in that very second.  There are no guarantees in life.  Just be an individual is all she is saying.

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by Cassandrajane, Aug 10, 2010
I know its nothing... well its 3 in December.... changes shouldnt be bad as long as they aint like im going to go out getting P!ssed everynight even though I have a kid... like things. I mean he wants to join the RAF.... well air traffic control at our local airport... when we found out I was  PG he changed his mind he said he CBA to get his tattoo removed...... well thats what he said. And I feel SO guilty like its my fault.... I mean he wouldnt be in the RAF he will be going to this college for Air Traffic Control and be home everyday and things so I dont see why he can't follow his dream and do what he wants. And I feel like that is my fault. But atm he is raising money for a plane to have it flying again. And even though at the start they bored me and I hated them. I am kinda sorting all this out. And im actually enjoying it. But Shhh, dont tell him LOL.
I believe to be independant... very very independant... he is my lovelyy and things... and I hope we last, I have a good feeling this time. (Considering where we used to be with all the rumours and writing the phone number everywhere after like 3 months we would pretty much be over... This time we have lasted a full year without being over and just being togethe even though we hated eachother...) If that makes sense....

For the first time in nearly 3 yrs, we are happy :).. Woohoo.... Because if I get angry I don't tell him... I write him letters (Childish I know... there is a years worth, he hasnt read them, I dont expect him too... Just getting everything out, without getting into an argument) LOL...


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by Cassandrajane, Aug 10, 2010
I'm induvidual alright.....

I've always had the same veiws on life and my life and what I want to be and what I want to achieve in life.
I want to be a Photographer, with my own photography studio... thats who I wanna be.
I have wanted to be that person for about 5 years... I went to college (Dropped out cause of a family thing, but I learnt enough to know what to do, I have met up with a series of photographers and they have helped me alot...)
And John wasnt keen at first... I said tough... it's me, you don't like it, bugger off! :)
You can follow your dream, Im following mine, :)

x

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by BTS1022, Aug 10, 2010
Women and men of the like can be CRUEL! I know that you have a few good ones out there...not many but there are some.

DF would NEVER step on toes. If he likes a woman but she had a man.....he wouldn't even say anything to her. I was married when DF and I met, and became friends, but he only admitted not long ago, that he was falling in love with me during our very long friendship, he just didn't say anything because I was married, granted he knew I was unhappy, but he didn't want to be disrespectful and step over a certain line.

I'm the same way. I will NOT step on toes, definitely not a home-wrecker...even if the man approaches me first. If he is unhappy...get out of the relationship before you try and sweet talk me into a date or relationship. My DF dated my ex best friend for a month and a half. DF broke things off with her, because well...she was a nut case...and thats being nice lol. When the two split up, I waited until she was over it, and asked if she cared that I started a relationship with DF. I know I didn't need her permission, but to be respectful, I asked anyways. Needless to say, she gave me her permission, but wasn't honestly over him, so it caused a lot of grief for me, and her and I are no longer friends.

And honestly....your experience is one of the reasons why I DO NOT go out to clubs or bars anymore. I'd end up killing someone, whether they looked better than me or not, you approach my man, and your likely to get a beer bottle upside your head lol. I would NEVER disrespect anyone like that, and I would be damned if someone did it to me.

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
I know, I wish I had caught her trying to talk to him.  I feel like god makes sure that I don't wind up in jail...lol.

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by BTS1022, Aug 10, 2010
LOL I feel the same way! My dad always said I had a guardian angel to make sure I don't end up in massive trouble.

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by raquelplus2, Aug 10, 2010
wow jezi read your journal entry only and you no what thats how girls are these days its sick sick sick!!! i mean anths gf new he was married with kids and she didnt care and swooped right in an took him from his family. so i mean its women like that deserve theyr karma bad...cause i mean you looked gorgeous that night im sure there was no competition at all.

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by mami1323, Aug 10, 2010
I know women can be horrific. We've determined that they have no moral compass and lack values.

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by penswriter, Aug 10, 2010
Dh and I have been having these problems since we started dating. :o/ It started with his one ex. She would CONSTANTLY message him on myspace saying how much she missed him, loved him and how I was nothing but a s!ut and sleeping around (she didn't and still doesn't know me. She's never even met me.) After we got engaged and he pretty much told her to f off (he'd been nice and what not telling her to just back off and not responding to her emails) she went out and slept with some guy and got pregnant. She emailed my husband (then fiance) saying how she knows that now he'll never ever want her and that it was his fault. He got NASTY. Told her she was the one who spread her legs and it wasn't his fault. A few months later she emails him again saying how he should just leave me and they could be a "family". That they would be great together and he'd be a great father. (Not even his baby!) He says no he's happy with me. Well time goes on and she continues to myspace/facebook creep the both of us. Well I get pregnant. We were so excited. She messages him telling him it's not his baby.  And to get a paternity test o_0. He blows her off and we find out it's twins. She messages him AGAIN telling him that he ruined his life. o_0 I finally go off and FLIP out. Fast forward 2 years and she rerequests him on facebook. She had another kid and is engaged. She sends him a message saying how it should be them who are married and how happy they could be and she just knows that he's not happy with me. That the sex is bad (who has the NERVE to say that?????????) and that the kids aren't his. (They're his mini clones...it's ridiculous how much they look AND act like him. Sometimes I wonder if I even gave birth to them. lol) Needless to say I sent her a LOVELY email.

Of course I've had my fair share of guys hit on me and when I tell them I'm married they hit on me even more. None my exes but yeah.

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by mami1323, Aug 11, 2010
penswriter, WTF???  Are you serious?  That's ridiculous.  I would've threatened her with a restraining order.  She sounds like a complete psycho.

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by Ashelen, Aug 11, 2010
apparently I must rephrase what I originally put.

I'll just say "wow, penswriter...just, wow....I wish some karma on that girl."

and I wish that she is pummeled with cotton balls and teddy bears????? and gumdrop candies from the skies??

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by penswriter, Aug 11, 2010
Yeah she's a real piece of work. So far today has been quiet. I don't want to put a restraining order on her...I know that would be bad for a mom of 2..but ya know if she keeps it up I just might have to.

Some girls are just horrible people.

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by mami1323, Aug 11, 2010
So this was recently that she is contacting him? I'm curious to know what you wrote in that ever so nice email.

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by penswriter, Aug 11, 2010
Oh it's been going on for a few years. She left us alone for about a year and this past week she started emailing him again.

I'd probably be banned from med help if I posted what I wrote to her. lol.

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by mami1323, Aug 11, 2010
Oh oh send me a private message. I am dying to know.

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by penswriter, Aug 11, 2010
LOL Sent.

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