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Hey Dad..

Aug 09, 2010 - 6 comments

Hey Dad, I’m writing to you not to tell you that I still hate you, just to ask you how you feel, and how we fell apart. How this fell apart. Are you happy out there in this great wide world? Do you think about your sons? Do you miss your little girl? When you lay your head down how do you sleep at night? Do you even wonder if we’re alright? But we’re alright. We’re alright. - Emotionless, Good Charlotte.


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by ammanda, Sep 06, 2010
I have sang this secretly to my father since I was 14 years old, he left me and my sisters when I was 9 years old.  I hate dead beat fathers..... I absolutly love this song though!!!!

im the youngest of three girls, and i used to get so emotional at the part "do you miss your lil girl".. lol

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by iwouldbdanielle, Sep 06, 2010
Oh my gosh, same.

My dad hasn't left, not physically anyway. He's always been abusive- emotionally and physically. He started making fun of me when I was in the 3rd grade, so I became really easily depressed and self-conscious. Then he stopped directly talking to me altogether.

Whenever I hear songs about fathers, I get so emotional. They remind me of the good times.

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by iMazed, Sep 07, 2010
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ey3JfQYaVjA

I always listened to this song. It's from a Dutch singer (but sung in English) and it's amazing! Worth a listen when you're talking about fathers leaving.

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by ammanda, Sep 07, 2010
MY DAD WAS A DRUNK AND ABUSED MY MOTHER.  I HATED HIM FOR THAT.  BUT WHEN THEY DIVORCED, I WAS LIKE 6 AND HE STILL TOOK ME AND MY 2 SISTERS EVERY OTHER WEEKEND, AND I WAS HIS FAVORITE HE ALWAYS DID MORE FOR ME.  THEN ONE DAY HE SHOWED UP AT MY SISTERS 12THE BDAY PARTY AT THE SKATING RINK GAVE HER SOME CHEAP LAME GIFT AND GAVE US ALL A KISS AND WE NEVER SEEN HIM AGAIN, ITS BEEN ABOUT 12 YEARS SINCE WEVE SEEN HIM, HE OWES MY MOM OVER 70,000 DOLLARS IN CHILD SUPPORT, AND HE HAS SO MANY WARRENTS OUT FOR HIM, ONLY ONE PERSON KNOWS WHERE HE IS AND SHE WONT TELL US (MY AUNT, HIS SISTER) BUT SHE WILL SAY SHE DONT KNOW, WHEN EVERYONE KNOWS SHE DOES.  I GAVE UP ON EVER SEEING HIM AGAIN, HE MISSED OUT ON A LOT, ME AND MY SISTERS GRADUATION, FIRST TIME FALLING IN LOVE, BROKEN HEARTS, THE BIRTH OF OUR CHILDREN, HE HAS 4 GRANDCHILDREN HE WILL NEVER MEET.  I HAD A STEP SISTER, WHO HE HAD AFTER HE LEFT MY MOM WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, AND SHE DIED IN A CAR ACCIDENT BACK IN 01.  HE LEFT HER TOO, AND HE DIDNT EVEN SHOW UP AT HER FUNERAL, THAT WAS THE ONE THING THAT MADE ME GIVE UP AND BEABLE TO SAY THAT I NO LONGER LOVE HIM ANYMORE.  

IM SO SORRY YOU HAD TO GO THROUGH THAT, THAT IS HORRIBLE, WHERE WAS YOUR MOTHER WHEN HE WAS DOING THIS TO YOU? DID SHE NOT STICK UP FOR YOU?  YOUR FATHER SOUNDS SO WORTHLESS JUST LIKE MINE.   I KNOW HOW THAT IS, THERES BEEN TIMES WHERE I JUST STARTED BAWLING TO A TV SHOW WITH A FATHER AND A DAUGHTER ON IT.  

EVERYTIME ME AND MY BOYFRIEND FIGHT, I ALWAYS PRAY AND HOPE HE DONT LEAVE OUR SON, I COULDNT IMAGINE OUR SON GOING THROUGH WHAT I WENT THROUGH.  I WANT MY SON TO HAVE A FAMILY. A FAMILY HE CAN ALWAYS DEPEND ON EVEN IF HIS PARENTS ARE TOGETHER.  IVE KNOWN MY BOYFRIEND AND WEVE BEEN OFF AND ON FOR 10 YEARS.  I LOVE HIM SOO MUCH, HIM AND MY SON ARE MY WORLD, IT JUST MAKES ME WONDER, DID MY DAD EVER LOVE MY MOM. CAUSE IF HE DID AND IT WAS ANYTHING LIKE THE WAY I FEEL FOR MY BOYFRIEND, HOW COULD HE JUST UP AND LEAVE, HOW COULD HE HAVE HIT MY MOM, OR CHEATED ON HER.  YOU KNOW, ITS JUST SOO ****** UP.  BUT NOW IM ALMOST 21 AND HAVE A LIL FAMILY OF MY OWN, I DONT THINK ABOUT HIM AS MUCH, EXCPET FOR WHEN CERTAIN SONGS COME ON OF COURSE LOL

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by sunshine1976, Sep 07, 2010
Oh, that just broke my heart.  I had never heard that song before.  Love You Danielle.
The one that always got to me was EverClear's Father of Mine.

I will never be safe
I will never be sane
I will always be weird inside
I will always be lame
Now I am a grown man
With a child of my own
And I swear I'm not going to let her know
All the pain I have known
Then he walked away
Daddy gave me a name
Then he walked away

My Dad is a good man.  But became very distant in my teenage years.  I think because he was molested as a child and had some strange fear he would mess me up.  He never did.  He never would. But scars run deep and make you act irrationally sometimes. I think it hurt him as much as me to have the distance between us.  But neither of us knew really how to handle it.

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by iwouldbdanielle, Sep 07, 2010
iMazed, I love that song! Her voice is stunning and the song has great lyrics. :]

My mom's never been too keen on sticking up for herself, or her children for that matter. She acts super tough and cool, but it's pretty much an act.

I cry when I go to my friend's house. Her dad is amazing. He doesn't go one night without saying he loves her and hugging her goodnight. Neither of my parents have ever done that. But I guess I can only benefit... when I have my own kids, they'll have so much love they won't know what to do with it.

I've heard that song before, it's a good one. <3
I'm sorry about what happened to your dad, but like you said: scars run deep.


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