Oct 04, 2010
Before I start this, let me say that the vast majority of women that are able to nurse up to the recommended year or two do NOT behave in the way I am about to talk about. But there are a few who seem to immediately judge in a very negative way those of us who have chosen to or had to move to formula. So, before they judge..
I am sort of sick of having to justify the fact that I have my son on formula instead of breast milk. I am tired of some assuming that I am lazy, or just don't care about his health and well being. I am tired of that "holier then though" attitude, and people that make assumptions without having any facts.
Lazy - really? Do you honestly think that feeding formula is somehow easier? Between sterilizing bottles, etc., washing them, boiling water and mixing, trust me, this is not easier. It was far far easier when I was still nursing. With my cape, I could nurse anywhere...I didn't have to pack any extra supplies or even really think ahead. If he was hungry, I could feed no matter where I was. Now I have to make sure I have planned enough bottles, run around trying to find hot water to heat them, etc. Trust me, it is NOT easier.
Not caring - The majority of moms do put their children and their needs first. And unless you live in a box, you KNOW that nursing is better. We do not need to be regularly reminded of this fact. Perhaps think about some of our reasons...in my case I had to go onto medication that is not good for him. The medication was a necessity as I felt having a sane mother was equally as important as having a nursing one. Some women I know just do not produce enough, or get infections, or whatever. There are many reasons, and if you don't think that most of us who go to formula do not agonize over the decision, you would be incorrect. However, whatever the reason, it truly is none of your business. So skip the lectures and the "you know what's best" attitude. You know what's best for your child, but you do not know what's best for mine.
I have yet to meet someone who has switched to formula because it was what was best for them! So please think before you judge, skip the looks and the lectures, and perhaps assume the best instead of the worse.
That felt good!! I have wanted to get that out of my system for awhile.
As I said, the majority of nursing moms do not behave this way, but I have come across a few and that is what prompted this.