Oct 21, 2010
Ok, I'm not a Dr or scientist or anything like that. But I am a mom who has been on both sides of this fence and I have seen so many debates on this topic and it drives me crazy how everyone seems to think it has to be one way or the other. Here is what I have discovered in my own personal experience... .despite what Dr.s or anyone else says.....
First off I have 2 teens who are 15 and 16 and 1 infant who is 9 months. My teens were formula fed and my infant is being breast fed.
The older two started sleeping through the night at 2 months. My 1st born was way ahead of her game, walking at 9 months, talking at 8 months....ect. My 2nd child took his time. We later learned he was taking it all in. He even learned at 3 how to tie his shoes simply by watching me teach his sister, it took her another 2 years. They are both A students, extremly involved in their school clubs and debate and even theater arts. They are both very healthy and have no major illnesses and hardly ever get sick (and we don't do flu shots either) They are well rounded and well behaved around others as well. I would GIVE my life for them! Yes, I did get post pardum depression after my 2nd child and it lasted a year. But in the end I would not have changed a thing.
Now, my infant who is breast fed is a little behind in development. (not slow, just takes her time) She is healthy and has not been sick. Her weight is alittle low but the Dr says it's fine. She is NOT sleeping through the night even at 9 months. And I have been battling post pardum for 9 months now. I love her dearly and would give my life for her as well, but I would not say I love her anymore than I love my other children. The rest we will have to wait to see how she turns out.
Now, I am not a Dr but if they were to do a study I would say my family would be a perfect family to study.
I understand wanting to do what is best for your baby and wanting to control what we give our children. And really breast feeding is the best way to control what they eat. However, I do not think a mother who does not breast feed will love her child less, or that her child will be dumb in anyway. And to be honest, at this point it is just easier when I'm stumbling in the dark at 3 AM to go right into her room, lift my shirt and pop a boob in her mouth than to stumble into the kitchen, find a bottle, find the formula, and mix it all while 1/2 asleep. We all want to think we know what is best, and the truth is, you do know what is best for YOUR child. However, we don't know what is best for someone else's child, and who do we think we are to act as if we do? Do what is best for you, I will do what is best for me and let's not judge eachother for it. After all, we all have the same goal in the end and that is to have happy healthy children. And I don't not think that my breasts hold the key to my children's happiness.