Jan 13, 2011
I've been having issues concerning money (I gave up my job to move to Germany, but it turned out my ex didn't really want me there so I'm stuck without a job) and asked my ex about two weeks ago if he could help me out. Since I've paid for everything up till now -healthcare, babyclothes, basically everything the baby needs- and he's not contributed anything, it would be nice of him to help me out at least a little moneywise. He promised me to send some my way, along with some belated christmas presents. Since he has a history of not really keeping his word I was a little skeptical about it all, but to my surprise the box actually arrived within a week of him saying he send it. It contained one of those feeding pillows, a cute feeding bottle and a photo album, all wrapped in a gorgeous baby blue box. I was totally stunned that he put so much effort in it and I saw it as something positive, it created some goodwill in me for sure. The only thing that was missing was the one thing I had really needed and waited for; the money. I searched the whole box, seeing if I had maybe missed it somehow. It really wasn't there. I send him a text, asking what had happened. Perhaps he had forgotten to put it in there? No, he answered, he send it in a separate letter which would maybe arrive a little later. Someone at the postoffice had told him that that could happen.
So I waited another 4 days before suspecting something was up. I had figured out a while ago that he has debts (I don't know how much, and I don't know where) so I texted him again, asking that if he didn't send the money to please tell me, because I was very low on money and couldn't wait for that letter to arrive. It took him over a day to respond that, no, he didn't send it yet but intended to do so soon as possible. He had talked to his mom about it and she would help him out a little. At that point I didn't care about the money any more. I was fuming with anger about his constant lying to me and called him crying hot tears of anger. I yelled at him a while, asking 'how stupid do you think I am' and 'why do you make me look like some money hungry ***** when all I need is money to buy some GD food!'. I was so pissed off and told him I would never ever ask him for anything again.
All in all, I decided that this was the final straw. I can't take any more of this kind of behavior. Yes, I made the promise to never tell him that he couldn't see his kid, but if this is how he's going to treat us then he leaves me no choice. I need to distance myself from him, otherwise I won't have the strength to fight for the things that are really important.