Mar 08, 2011
Ok, well, all... Here is the game plan... I am proud to announce : )
(sorry in advance that it is so long, it has seriously taken me 4 days to write this!)
My DH and I have been very blessed to have a Wonderful, Amazing person on this site, offer us her 10 remaining blast embryos. Her family is complete, and wanted to make sure they went to a good loving home. Her selflessness, and gesture has humbled my husband and I beyond words.
After many hours of discussions between my husband and I, and tons of emails,messages on medhelp, and phone calls with the family that has offered, not to mention a ton of soul searching, we have decided to accept this wonderful blessing, this amazing ~amazing gift! And one of the most amazing parts of it is.... I also believe we have also found life long friends in each other.
Is it going to be a easy road? No, to say the least.
Do we know how to handle things as the children get older? No, I can't say we do 100%.
We are working on that.
And, I am sure things will change throughout the years, how could they not?
I do know my hubby and I will 100% be the parents. Of that, I have no doubt!
My husband and I are so excited and hopeful at this chance. My heart is telling me that it will work, and that my husband and I will become the parents we have longed to be for so long. For many years.
We have had so much disappointment and shed so many tears starting with our m/c, and then several failed cycles. Only to find out our RE should have Never frozen our embryos on day 2. We were both so niiave back then. Never Again! We had already started to consider adoption, along with the refund donor program with a new RE.
My husband and I have already retained a lawyer and have begun the legal paperwork to make this all possible, and should be completed within the next 20-25 days.
On a side note... I will hopefully be cleared to try again, from my surgery this past January, within the next few weeks (certainly by the end of March), and be able to do a transfer at the end of April or in May.
The donatee and I have already been in contact with the clinic my hubby and I will be going to, and they have already received my hubby and my paperwork and records, and are in the process of getting us set up for what needs to be done before the transfer (testing ect.)
My hubby and I will be traveling to the clinic where the embryos are to transfer. I have a phone consultation today, Tues. March 8th with the doctor that we will be seeing.
Again, I cannot express enough the gratitude my husband and I have in our hearts for this person. It makes me tear up as I type this. I am simply humbled.
Ladies, I know that I have said this before a hundred times, but there are such amazing amazing women on this site! Do you know how hard it must be for someone to give up their remaining embryos to a complete stranger that was "ran across" on a chat forum on the internet? We all know that embryos become your "children" as soon as that person on the phone calls and tells you how many fertilized and then how many were frozen. We are attached to them from the very first second of their existance. How could we not be?
I laid in bed and thought about it last night, and I thought how wonderful it would be if it started someone else to start thinking? I know there must be several ladies on here who have snow babies sitting in storage, and are done building their families. And have no idea what to do with them. What if there is 1 person on here that stands out to you above everyone else? Someone you have smiled with and shared tears with and trust 100% even though you have never met them in person, or even spoke to them on the phone?... What if you have seen them fail at attempts of their own, either with their own eggs through IUI or IVF, or even donor IVF? Or maybe they can't afford IVF, and are at a loss. Afraid they will never be able to complete their family. What if you could help them complete their familes? You know that anyone on this site would feel so blessed to be given the chance to become parents either for the first time or again. Would it be an easy decision? NO! HELL NO! But, if it was something you had considered in the past, it might be worth thinking about.
Another Huge blessing is, we are doing Donated Embryos. The cost is very minimal for the lawyer/paperwork, and then we just have to pay the cost of the transfer. It is not like an embryo adoption or an adoption of an existing child, and doesn't cost thousands. Such a blessing. I really so sure that God is behind this opportunity. and again, I am very,very thankful!
And, if this all goes the way I am thinking it will, every time I look into my child's eyes, I will think of the miracle chance my husband and I were given. And on the off chance that we fail at every attempt with these embryos (I know we WON'T though (: ) I will be forever grateful to the kindness of a new friend.
Anyway, this is our game plan. One that I am so excited about! One that I Know beyond a doubt we will be successful with. Thank you for your continued support through the infertility journey we all have traveled or are still traveling on. I know I would have given up a long time ago if I hadn't found MH, I would have never been strong enough emotionally, or had enough knowledge to know that there is still a chance for me. I would have walked away from my 1st RE thinking that I was broken (due to him telling me so), and that I was just never meant to have children.
It was through the inspirational words and superior wisdom, not to mention the show of strength of each and every women on this site, that I have found the strength to not give up. So many kind words and messages. Shoulders to cry on when I have been so far down, I seriously thought I might never get up.
Please continue to pray for my husband and me. I really do believe we will be successful, but I must admit... I am scared beyond words to try again!