Jun 12, 2011
So me and DH rarely fight, and I mean rarely!!! Well since the miscarriage he seems to be more distant and angry. He seems to change his mood from happy to mad in a matter of seconds. I have tried to talk to him, and he says there is nothing wrong. Well our 1st DS who is 11 is not biologically his. It is from a relationship when I was young and dumb. Anyways me and DS biological father don't talk. He has been in and out of prison my Son's entire life, my son hardly knows the Douche bag!!! Well lately it seems like he is picking on my Son. He does not praise him for his good work, but seems always have negative things to say about him. His report card came out and he had a d in math and he had it the previous semester and we told him to bring it up but the end of the semester which obviously he did not. But we knew from the beginning he was having problems with this class it is honors math so it was not like it was a new problem. Then he had 2 b's which he brought up to a's, well DH did not mention anything to him about bringing those grades up all he could focus on was the bad grade. Then my Son plays football and we were talking about it with out neighbors who just put their son in it, and my DH said out of nowhere he (our DS) should not even play, he *****!!!! WTH!!!! I honestly felt so hurt that he would say such a thing, i mean he is 11 he is not a professional football player come on!! I am torn, this is not the 1st time we have had this fight. He knew what he was stepping into when he met me, I told him from the get go I am a package deal you get me you get my little guy. He loves him, but it seems like he has a hard time expressing theses feelings. I know this for a fact because he is the same with me too. I just don't know what to think or how to approach him to talk to him about this. I have heard of a lot of couples who divorce because of this. I love him to death and divorce is not even a thought, but what if this continues to happen???? My Son also sometimes feels like he is to tough on him. My DH had a bad child hood and I did not, so it seems like he is doing the same to my Son. Our 2nd DS is his and there is a difference, but that could be because he is only 4. His Mom messed him up big time. She was never around so he was independent when he was 11, well I am around!!!!!! How independent should an 11 yr old be? he picks up dog poop, cleans his room, separates and puts away his laundry. What else should he be doing??? Please help, I am going to talk to DH tonight but want to make sure I dont come off wrong, because honestly I would love to tell him to f**k off right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!