Oct 08, 2011
I am not going to be surprised if we have another girl. We have 3 beautiful girls. I know some people in the family are going to be shocked. When I told my cousins wife I was pregnant with #3 she said something along the lines of you have more balls than I do, good luck. She spoke like she was never going to have anymore. Yet, here she is now with a 4 month old. She got lucky though. Their 1st was a girl, second was a boy. So either way they had 1 of each. They had another girl. I do not think having 3 children has been that bad?? She is 1 of those people that posts on facebook ALL the time. She is constantly complaining about how hard it is and how she needs help. She is ALWAYS getting help and sending her children to her sisters and grandma and grandpas(even neighbors or friends at times). I barely ever get help. First of all, I don't let the younger one go with anyone else really. My children never really stayed the night with anyone else until they were close to a year old. I liked bonding with my children. Right now they go see my stepmother maybe once a month for the weekend. My 22 month old stays with me. My In-laws have been seeing less of my kids because of school. My husband and I lost most of our friends after having a baby. His highschool friends live too far away. The closest friends we have just got married last year and do not have any kids. They work a lot so we barely see them.
My whole point is that I have been the main person in my kids lives. Not that I have a problem with that. I am just saying that I really don't think it's that hard raising 3 kids. Yes, it is super CRAZY at times, but that's the way it's supposed to be. Your children brighten your life. So I can only imagine how my cousins wife is going to react when we do finally get pregnant and tell them.
I should add. When we got pregnant the second time, my stepmother had a negative response. The 1st time was unplanned but #2 and #3 were planned pregnancies. My stepmothers response was that "We better not think she's going to be watching 2 kids" or close to that(At this time our WEDDING was about 2 weeks away). It was enough to offend me. Needless to say she barely saw the 1 kid and then kids for about a year AFTER the baby was born. Seeing grandchildren should be a blessing not a burden. And I thought she didn't deserve to see my kids if she was going to have a reaction like that. But at some point I ended up forgiving that because my mother lives far away and my in-laws moved 7 hrs away. They need to see some sort of family. She has been fine. She didn't react the same way when we told her we were having #3. So I don't know.
Either way, what goes on in our lives is our business. It's our decision if we want more and if someone doesn't want to see our kids they don't have to. I quit my job to become a stay at mom(after #3). I have no problem keeping my kids with me. They enrich my life and they really do say the darndest things.