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What's wrong with my MIL

Oct 06, 2008 - 7 comments

It just seems that all she cares about is her daughter's kids.  My hubby has an older brother who has 2 kids and a yoounger bro and sis.  His younger sis has 2 daughters.  My MIL works in a local university, this is the 2nd year she only takes her daughter's kids to the homecoming parade.  She never asked us to go over (we live 2 miles away) and she babysits her kids every weekend.  I can careless about seeing them but my gosh doesn't she want to see my kids?  She is the same way with my hubby's older brother's kids but they live 4 hours away.  She will buy my kids anything we want but I do not want that, all I want is for them to get to know and spend time with my kids.  I am so sad for my kids about them.  
My hubby's feeling is that he had written them off.  I just can't help but get my feelings hurt every time.

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by mamaofonetrying42, Oct 06, 2008
Oh, I am so sorry to hear this! I really dont know what to say. Have you tryed talking to your MIL about this? Maybe you should ask her to watch gavin and hayden (even know you might not need her too). So she can see what great kids they are!

toni

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by DollChina, Oct 06, 2008
Don't get me wrong, we still see them 2-3 times a month but we have to call to see if they are free.  I have asked them to watch Gavin and she said she was sick or busy the last couple times.  My hubby doesn't want tme tosay anything.  We did tell them they don't spend enough time with the kids.  I am just upset for them.  At least they have my parents.  I will never trat my kids and grandkids that differently.

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by mamaofonetrying42, Oct 06, 2008
Im sorry!!! Thats not right!

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by kitty51, Oct 07, 2008
Its upsetting to you,but your kids have your parents and the old MIL is missing out on all the good things that little kids do,and when they are older the MIL will want them then.the boot will be on the other foot,when your kids are too busy for the MIL.As the saying goes ,what goes round comes round.Shes not being far to her own son either.Anyone can give you a gift,but the tue gift is someones time.

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by DollChina, Oct 07, 2008
Kitty, yay to that.  I rather them spend an hour with my kids a week then contributing to their college funds.
But my question is why the unfairness?  They daugher's girls go there all the time.  My MIL babysit them almost every weekend.  
I don't know, my hubby just told me to get over it because they will never change.  It's so sad.  When they get older and we won't go visit, thy might regret it.


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by kitty51, Oct 07, 2008
Unfotunately some mothers prefer their daughters children than their sons,to me it shouldnt make any difference,grandchildren are exactly that grandchildren.I know people who do this and they are losers,my kids were very lucky as they had had 4 loving grandparents,and they were taken away too soon,and all that is left is my mum and still adores them even though they are in their 20's.OOps thats a give away! Im only 30 LOL I wish!


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by DollChina, Oct 07, 2008
Kitty, haha, thanks for the insight.  I guess I will just have to get over the fact that they will never change and that at least my kids have my parents who love them unconditionally.

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