Nov 01, 2011
I had a friend in college, my sophomore year. We were best friends- but I regret the whole friendship and our time together. She was wild and I was a follower. My grades suffered and I ended up sitting out of school, I was constantly in trouble with my sorority and ended up quitting it too. I am not blaming her. I out grew our friendship once I realized hanging out with her was a bad idea and what it cost me.
SO we lost touch. This was fine with me. About 8 years later she tracked me down- via my parents and asked me to be in her wedding- I was her maid of honor. It was sad to me she had not made a better friend since our college days. She was living in the small town she grew up in. She was marrying a man whose wife had commited suicide the year before. This was a small town scandal. Honestly, she was telling me about the woman's suicide and it turns out I was sitting in the very car where she had done it. WTH? What really upset me was they had children- so those poor kids were having to ride around in the car where their mother killed herself. It was sickening to me.
SO we lost touch again. Again she tracks me down through my parents. She is divorcing the guy and they have had a couple of kids. She really needed a friend so I was there for her. We are casually in touch and I go see her on occasion. She seems to be drinking too much and seems to enjoy causing scandal in her little town. I think being in the little town under a microscope is part of her problem. She was working in the closest bigger town and I tried to encourage her to move. Anyway, she ended up in a car accident and the other driver died. She had alcohol in her system- but they did not store the blood correctly so I am not sure by how much. They also found something in the other drivers system. SAD. I was supportive- but I really have wanted to distance myself from her.
OH, when ever she gets in touch with me she calls all hours of the night. She has called and texted me She leaves a bunch of messages. She cusses at me. I really am not excited about calling her because I know she is going to b*tch at me for not being in touch. If I do not call her- she will keep bugging my dad- who is a caregiver for my ill mother. I just do not want to talk with her. I just wish she would go away- I do not like the kind of drama she brings. More than anything- I feel sorry for her but that is not a healthy friendship.