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Is it time for me to find a new ob/gyn???

Feb 06, 2012 - 8 comments

This morning we went to have the fetal echocardiogram for the boys.  The dr. said they are both perfect, thank God!  I didn't sleep very well last night because I was so anxious about this.  I have to say the boys are getting so big! We did get new ultrasound pics, I know I've been bad about getting them posted, but I will try to do that this week.  

The only thing bothering me right now is my ob/gyn office.  I've been going to them since I was 15 years old.  My mother and my sister went there as well until they both had it with the office staff and just their experience overall - many years ago they both went somewhere else.  I didn't bother changing because I just felt like I only go there once a year for a check up and I can put up with the bs.  I guess i've just been more laid back about this.  

Today I think I change my mind.  It wasn't that is was such a awful horrific experience but for some reason they all started to get on my nerves.  First the staff, she has replaced the staff numerous times, to the point where I never know any of them every time I go.  Maybe this is my own fault for letting this stuff go but I like I said I thought it was something I could deal with since I only went once a year.  

Ok well first of all, she continually takes new patients, you can literally wait an hour before getting in the examining room (however, I haven't experienced this since I became pregnant ) then once you get into the room, you can be sure you will sit there maybe for a half hour or more.  Again, I haven't experience that since going to her as a pregnant patient.  

So the nurse takes my weight, the urine test, blood pressure.  The dr. who is not my main dr, the covering dr. comes in to see me.  First she looks at my chart and says how come you haven't been here since December?  You need to be here once a month.  I said Yes, I know that but your staff gave me this appt.  Second, she looks at me and asked me if I found out if the donor was tested for cystic fibrosis?  This is something that we cleared up (or I thought) at my very first visit.  So I just said to her yes and she was tested negative.  Then she looks at my weight and says oh my you've gained a lot a weight since the last time you were here.  So I look at my husband like is she ok?  Anyway, she says lets go to the scale so I can weigh you.  So she weighs me and some how she gets it to read 2 lbs lower.  Honestly I don't know what the big deal is because It wasn't that much weight and the last time she told me try to put 11 pounds on.  Ugh so I know you are probably saying when is she going to get to the part where things are out of control? lol Sorry - as I'm writing this I feel kind of ridiculous but let me continue.  

So now my husband who just had dental work looks like he just had dental work lol.  He is just sitting there being quiet - unusual for him lol.  So she gets her doppler and only listens to one of the boys hearbeat and puts it away.  So at first I was thinking wth?  I honestly don't think she realized or bothered to read my chart to see I was having twins.  She said ok you're all done.  So I asked her about when we would know the csection date, just curious I know its early but if she had any idea.  She says oh you will be schedule 1 week before your due date.  I thought that was strange.  She said I can't even call labor and delivery until then something about board of medicine rules.  

Ok so maybe tis just me but I just was really annoyed by all of them today.  Her staff was out of control and literally yelling to me from the back of the office if Wednesday, March 8th was good for my next appt??  I said are you sure its a wednesday?I think you're wrong and she was but I didn't notice until after I left they she actually scheduled me for this Wednesday the 8th.  Are they ok?  

So I'm feeling kind of unsure about them all now.  I don't know how easy it would be to find a new ob/gyn for a 5 month pregnant woman?  What do you ladies think I should do? Just continue and then get a new one after the boys are born? Am I being ridiculous?

Thank you!!

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by sisi2399, Feb 06, 2012
I would definetely change.  We wanna feel special, not just like a number.  Look around, must of the time ob/gyns are very sweet and personal.  U need to feel happy everytime u go there.  Good luck and let us know

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by retta483, Feb 06, 2012
I changed my ob five weeks before delivary . Its up to you make sure you are comfy with who is going to be delivaring you . lo'ts of luck :)

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by rmmoye, Feb 07, 2012
I changed obs because of the wait and misdiagnosis. I would change. they should have checked both babies. that alone would have done it for me.  then u add the wait.  

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by Keep_alive_kicking, Feb 07, 2012
So happy that the twins look perfect!
Make sure that you choose the ob/gym you feel most comfortable with and dont compromise with this one just because you have been using them for years.
You should always look forward to your ob appointment and the whole pregnancy experience should be a very good one for you. Take care xxx

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by mhv, Feb 07, 2012
I would wonder why she didn't check both babies??  I find that strange.  I would think of changing just do to that....the staff just may be "over relaxed" but that can be better then way to stuffy......just depends on the atmosphere you prefer.

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by Kricket212, Feb 07, 2012
Hi there,  I am sorry you are unhappy with the OB.  I do have to say though that my OB did the same thing with the fetal monitor.  THey would check for one baby & that's it.  They claim too hard to find both & how do you know that you are really finding the 2nd one when maybe #1 moved.  It's a tough call.  I had rented my own doppler & would check on my own.
As far as the C section goes. I found out like 3 weeks prior to the date.  They would not schedule prior to that time. I did have to do paperwork though.  Ask your office for the hospital paperwork so you can get in asap.

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by journey2motherhood, Feb 07, 2012
Thank you ladies.  I appreciate your input.  
Kricket - you know I was thinking that was maybe why she didn't check the other one too.  She was kind of weird when we told her we had our own doppler (at the last visit) she made a comment oh what are you Tom Cruise? Are you going to buy your own ultrasound machine too?  I like my other dr better but she told us from the beginning that we would have to see both because she cant guarantee she will be available all the time.  I'm still up in the air about the whole thing.  My husband said when we go back next time, we are meeting with my regular obgyn and we will talk to her more about it.  So I go back March 10th so we will see.  

Thank you all very much, I really appreciate your thoughts on this one.  xoxo Joann

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by globetrot, Feb 07, 2012
I would change- it is important you feel good.  The good thing- she was just treating you like a normal pregnant woman!  With that comes some changes- they just are not as concerned.  It was disappointing to go from sonograms to just listening to heart beats!  I will tell you- it was a bit of an adjustment going from RE to ob/gyn for me.  Then I went high-risk - but that is another story! lol  So happy for you!

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