Jan 10, 2009
Ok, so I have this sister who is 4 years younger than I am. As kids I was always trying to be a good big sis. Standing up for her and all, but somehow it always came back as me being the bad guy. Then when I was PG w/ my now 14 yr old daughter I remember her threatening to kill my baby because I accidentaly hit her w/ the door. I blew it off, after all she was a hormonal teen. Anyway, we were never realy close until she got PG herself 6 years ago. I found a truck and spent all day helping her to move in w/ the father of her baby, only for her to move back out 2 days later. Then when she didn't feel she could live w/ my mother any longer I let her take over the apt I was living in. I was moving in w/ my now husband anyway. I continued to pay the rent and all the bills while she "got on her feet" Well, that never happened and when the lease came up I told her she needed to take over all the bills, she moved out. Now I have a $200 phone bill. When she had her baby I bought everything the child needed. A nice expensive stroller, clothes, anything she needed. I always made sure my sis and her daughter were ok. Even watched the baby anytime she needed. Even while she went on a week long trip to New York. When the baby was about 2-3 I found out my sis was PG and was planning an abortion. I offered to raise the baby for her, but no she would rather have her abortion, despite all my begging and pleading. She even did it on my Bday. I was so depressed I had to go on pills. I eventualy realised it wasn't about me, it was about her. I prayed for her soul and again started doing everything for her. Then a few months after her abortion she came to me and told me she was PG again. This time she was moving in w/ the father and they were getting married. Again, I did everything for her and even her now husband. He beat her a few times and I would go help her, then would later hear through the grape vine she was back w/ him. When the baby came I even bought their annoucements and pics as they had no money. I never got so much as a pic by the way. The baby is now turning two. I could go on and on about everything I've done for her. Even missed my Grandmotehr's Funeral so I could wait for her and give her a ride there. I love my sister very much, but last year I had 2 MCs and she knew both times I was having trouble but didn't call to check on me until after the fact. And both times her reaction was "Oh, I'm so sorry. Well, I hate to do this but I was calling to see if you could babysit." And yes, I did babysit. The final straw was this Xmas when she stood my dying father up and then stood me up. We were supposed to go to their house for gift exchange and my mom called and told me my sis had just dropped our gifts off at her house. When I called and asked why she hadn't told me she was changing our plans she cussed me out and told me I needed to relax. I have not spoken to her since, and she hasn't even tried to call .She has left a few messages on MySpace like "Some Poeple just need to grow up" and "Good Freinds are all the family I need" SO, blocked her. I know I did this to myself by giving in so much. All I was ever trying to do was make her life easier and in the proccess made mine more difficult. I miss my niece and nephew terribly but I'm not quite sure if it's worth letting her back in my life. Evidently she has no desire to make things right and I realy don't even think she realizes how she treats people.
Anyway, I just had to vent. Thank You for listening.....