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Oct 23, 2012 - 6 comments

Well the visit went okay.... pretty much what I expected. They held him, played with him, kissed on him.. said how much he looks like the other, they took pictures of him and I took a picture of them both holding him and I'll post it soon. I was prepared for the jealous emotions but my hubby was not! After they left he was really emotional about it and still is. I don't know where we'll go from here.. I have a happy baby naturally and he was giggling with them and I think that was the hardest.. a part of me didn't want him to like them and me have to go in and do a rescue mission... but he smiled and played. They stayed about an hour and half, then it was time to get Sol ready for bed so they left.. I dunno.. at least it's over.. It just felt weird after they left, it was a reminder that I didn't give birth to him.. a reminder that biologically he's someone else's.. Now this does NOT change how I feel towards him I love him now more then I did yesterday.. but it does make me more Protective of him because he is MINE. and it's up to me as his mother to preserve our emotional bond if that makes sense.. I dunno now I'm rambling.. I need a nap lol

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by retta483, Oct 23, 2012
I'm glad it went ok . Well maybe now they wont bother you for awhile  about seeing him . Maybe do a blog with pictures so that when ever they want they can read it and see picts ? I dont know sounds better than seeing them . Do you plan on telling Sol he was adopted early ?  well its over and he is yours :)

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by Babyiish, Oct 23, 2012
Your a strong women...
You also have a kind heart... Its okay to feel jealous and emotional ...
Sol is your baby and don't ever forget that ... Even tho you didn't give birth to this baby you have gone thro alot...
I seen yor past pregnancy pics and follow the long and difficult process of the adoption...
Congrats your now a mom of a beautiful beautiful boy don't ever forget that....x

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by Wits777, Oct 23, 2012
Thanks ladies, to go through verything I have just to get him was a lot, emotionally, physically, and financially. But he is mine and they have absolutely no rights to him legally what so ever. It was a very difficult process, many ups and downs, many days of waking up wondering if today would be the day she would decide to change her mind, but I'm very blessed that she didn't. And this is one reason I feel that obligation to let her see him. She gave me a healthy son so I'm forever grateful... But I think I'm beginning to feel like I may close contact here soon.. I think I'm ready to know they won't be around or popping up here and their.

I plan on telling Sol at a very very early age he's adopted .. they have story time books that will talk about the characters having been adopted and that's how I'll begin with the process, probably about 2 years old.. I never want it to be a shock to him, he will know due to the fact of our races.

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by renny320, Oct 23, 2012
I'm glad it went ok and now it is over. I can understand why that would be so hard for you. Hopefully they will realize this too and not contact you any more. It sound like they enjoyed their visit but I would think it would be easier on them emotionally to move on now. I think that is a great plan to let Sol know very young. I am also glad that everything is finalized so that you know he will always be yours.

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by renae176, Dec 23, 2012
what way did u go to adopt

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by Wits777, Dec 26, 2012
The birth parents found us.. if you're wanting to adopt contact your local adoption attorney (each state has different laws).. he can tell you what your state requires. Are you considering adoption?

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