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Nov 21, 2012 - 5 comments

my MIL is VERY pushy . she doesnt understand the meaning of no. well the hospital im delivering at doesnt have a limit on the number of people that can be in the birthing room and shes DETERMINDED to be in there. My df has told her that ive said no but she keeps acting as if what i said doesnt matter . after my baby shower as i was leaving the last thing she said was 'ill see you in the birthing room' and that upset me because this was after i had already saod no. me and his mother have never had a good relationship, nor does she even try . she makes me very uncomfertable and i dont want to be put in the position while im giving birth to my son. from the begining she has been very unsupportive of the baby and pushed me to get an abortion . i dont feel like she has the right to witness such a blessing when she was so against it in the first place. and what makes it worse to me is that its not only his mom that already claimed her place but numerous people in his family. its sad that im literally dreading the day that i have my baby because i know im going to have to deal with her. i just wish she would accept no as an answer and let me enjoy the big day .

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by Jen1st_time_ivf, Nov 21, 2012
I'm sorry that you have to deal with this and it isn't fair that you are dreading d-day. This is a day that you and df have to share with one another. I know at my hospital they do limit the number, and if the dr and nurses see that you are upset and it's causing stress they may limit your number. I would just ask df to have a heart to heart with his mom and tell her she and others have to wait. It really comes down to a respect thing and your preference. I wish you all the very best and hope everything works out. I would talk with your dr at next visit about the number of people in the room and how you are feeling stressed already about it. Maybe the dr can set guidelines. It's definately worth a shot.

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by qunkieee, Nov 21, 2012
thank you . i know if i dont want them in there my dr will definatelly make them leave. and my df wont allow her to stress me that day about it but as of now shes not taking no for an answer at all and its frustrating because id rather be able to just look forward to they day instead of stressing how its all going to play out. im youbg so she treats me like a child and pays no regards to my wishes.

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by retta483, Nov 21, 2012
I can't stand  my mil  but when I had my DD in 96 She was the same way insistant of beaing in the room when I delivered . It was her first grandkid anyways she kept running her yap saying my contractions were nothing I had my DD with no epidural needless to say  after that I always got one hee hee  but she was my first and well I was dumb . But anyways I told the nurse She was irratating me and she made her leave until after I delivered :) I did let her come in for my 2nd but she Wasnt irratating me that much with him . I think you should tell the nurse to say no one in the delivery room but your DF  Good luck hun Hope you have a speedy safe delivery !

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by butterflybabies, Nov 21, 2012
I don't like my mil either. You should just not tell them when you go into labor. Call everyone after the baby arrives. If you have a scheduled d-day just tell them it's changed to another date. Stinks you gotta lie. But your right if you tell your doc you don't want anyone but df in there they will make them leave

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by qunkieee, Nov 21, 2012
I was so considering lieing, i just dont know how DF will feel about it. Im trying so hard not to worry about it but i know how she is and even though my doc will make her leave she'll still make me miserable over it. DF tells me just let him handel it.. so we'll see.

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