I'm guilty of this at times myself, but I wanted to call attention to something I've noticed and that I want to personally work on.......
There are new members coming to the forum every day. Some lurk without the nerve to "post a question" for some time. When we ignore their posts and continue to post on the same thread over and over and over to help someone else, what they see from that is that we don't care about them or want to help. I know that some members come on here like me. They read the first few from the top and answer a few and then take off to the next thing going on in our lives. We don't realize what we just did to their confidence. It makes them even more afraid to post anything else and at the very worst, they feel that no one wants them here, so they end up keeping on using. We don't want that, do we? Don't we want to help everybody that we can?
If someone doesn't feel like they have any important help for that person, how about just some comfort and encouragement for them until someone else comes along who can help more.
I think that leaving them all alone without a single comment on their thread is tough to take, We can at least take the time to write some encouraging words for everyone that we can! I'm as guilty as anyone to ignore a thread, thinking that someone who knows more about it will come along and bail me out!!! I just think that new people are so important here and they're vulnerable and need immediate attention if possible.
We ALL have something in common and something to offer. The common thread is addiction, regardless of drug of choice! I'm just asking that everyone take the time to look for those threads that don't have any comments, and jump in there and give them a nice word or even say, "I don't know for sure, but how are you doing today?" Or whatever.
I hope no one thinks I'm being bossy, but some feelings may get hurt and they may never come back. I don't want that responsibility to be on me!!! And I want to see as many people get clean as I can possibly help!!! I remember very well how scared that I was when I first posted, and I got lots of support. It was my lifeline. I'd like to give that back especially with new folks whose confidence and fear issues may keep them from ever posting again because they're afraid no one will post back to them. It takes a LOT of nerve to do this! We don't need to forget that!
Most of you know I'm bossy anyway! : ) BUT......let's all just work a little harder to include everyone. I think that will be my new goal! I owe this forum and my friends on it a lot for me staying clean this long! Personally, I would like to pay that forward as much as I can!!!
Thanks for reading!!
Love to you all!