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Jun 20, 2013 - 2 comments
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Another week, another lie. So just like a few days ago I literally broke up with him because he lied. Yes he lied again and he said that he wasn't going to go out. We had both agreed to this rule. And trust me I like to party too so I go out alot with my mates aswell. But after all the crap we have gone through because of his lying and cheating ways we had both agreed to certain rules at times and I had my finals and I didnt wanna be upset or worried. so we spoke on the phone nd I asked him if he was going anywhere and he replied "No waaayyyy" and he even said it the way Its typed. Btw we have been going out for 3 years we broke up for a couple of months but I took him back and when I did he cheated on me with a friend of mine. But I took him back again. and evee since then I hoped things would change but its always the same ******* case. He lives a couple of hours away from me because of work and I'm at Uni. So basically after I broke up with him again a couple of days ago I told myself that this was it! for real i wasnt gonna look back i was ready. he begged for me back saying he wouldn't lie again. I said he would and i said its only a matter of time give it a day or two or even a week he said No it wasnt. He said he wasnt gonna drink anymore. anyways we gt back together. And he a day later he gt drunk. a week later he lied again about what he was doing. His just an impulsive liar I dnt understand him. Whyy! if he just says Babe Im going out having a few or whatver I would be ok with it. Anyways thats that. Im tellin myself I really wanna move on but I know this is gonna be hard. I really see something in him and I feel like his gonna change. I dnt know what to do. I wanna break up with him but my heart hurts just to think of it. Why is my life so hurt. Iv cried so many times for this guy so much!  its crazy. anyone in their righy sense wouldn't do this. But here I am. And truth is 3 years ago I was never this weak. Never. I've let this guy take a hold of my emotions I need this to end. I've even thought about ending my life because of this and I have other things to deal with in my life aswell. Family and school. and this keeps on happening to me. I love this guy so much. I'm gonna think about this. First I need to sleep.

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by bossman33, Jun 20, 2013
i think its more to it. if this persons not any type of help to you rather its financially, physically, mentally, etc.. why keep it/him in your life? Love is a mind thing in this case with you. Maybe you should go out and mingle with other ppl, or just get busy with school work, family or friends. Think like "A BOSS" bosses dont have time for ppl thats bring them BS....  Alot of his ways can also be based off age.. Men seem to develop slower than women, yes that is true. Dont make him feel like he have to lie to you about going out. Hes lying about that because you made him promise not to go out, or drink anymore. Almost like telling a kid not to go outside, but they go anyway and tell u they didnt go only because u already gave them a demand not to. even if he would have told u he was going out to have some drinks you would have still been upset only because he stated to you that he wouldnt do it again. Stop trying to raise a grown man & live your life just as he's living his life..

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by effyoux, Jun 20, 2013
Thanks Bossman33. Yeah there is so much more to it. I never came up with this rule he did btw. And I was for it because I didn't want him going out aswell atleast not without me, I guess its this Trust issue we have between each other. we have been through so much and Its this distance that makes things even worse but he is meant to move back here soon well that depends on his work though. And I have left him once I even dated someone else but I left that guy and went back to him, and "that guy" told me I would regret it. I do I guess he was so good to me and I left him for someone who takes me for granted. I try my best do do things right. everytime I try leaving him he begs and literally begs. But The past hour I've actually thought it through and I don't want to end up in this same situation a year from now so I think I will leave him. But I'm not gonna live my life the way he's living his thats the only reason we have so many issues because of drinking and going out apart from that all he does is work. So yeah I'll keep this journal updated. He is older than me im 23 and hes 27 the fact that hes almost 30 and doesnt have a great job yet gives me hope he'll change because he talks about it and nt having so much money and all that you know. I guess right now isnt his time to realise. Ps. he just called me after getting home from the clubs and its 4am here. His excuse for not answering my calls was the power was out. yet his fone still rang so many times. see waht I mean the lies he comes up with. His a smart guy but so dumb.

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