May 08, 2009
This Mother's Day is going to be an extra special one for me to celebrate with my mom. The last time I really cherished a Mother's Day with her, rather than simply acknowledge a day to honor my mom, was when she had cancer 7 years ago. It was a really tough time then too, because she was not only going through surigcal cancer recovery, but also an extremely bitter divorce with her alcoholic husband and she had gotten laid off from her job as a software engineer, so we had no income and no health insurance. That Mother's Day (2002) meant a lot to me when it came to honoring her; she fought so hard to get herself, my sister, and me to where we all are today.
So here we are today, *exactly* seven years later (she was diagnosed with cancer the first time the last week of January 2002, and this year the first week of February) and facing this battle with cancer again. The most I can say to add a "fortunately" in this case is that at least there isn't the turmoil and insecurity we faced as a family the last time around. The worst thing going on this time is that God-awful chemo, but hey, it's for the best, right? So I can't complain much.
Anyway, so much has changed in my family since February and what happened seven years ago. I am a mother now myself, so Mother's Day has a whole new meaning for me. Also, as bad as it is that my mom is having to go through this again, I can't deny that she's changed into a better person because of it and her faith is stronger than I've ever known it to be in my life of knowing her. For that I am extremely grateful and give all the credit to a loving God who knows precisely what He's doing!
So for this Mother's Day, I really want to make it one of the most memorable we've ever shared together. I had been thinking all week what I could do for her, or get for her, and I just couldn't come up with anything other than spend the day with her. But I wanted to really find something that would put an extra special touch to the memory of this day, and I had been having a hard time thinking of anything.
Yesterday evening, though, I got it all figured out--an the greatest thing about figuring it out? I owe it all to being the mother of my beautiful, wonderful son!
We were shopping at Sam's, raiding the sample counters and having a great time. It so happened that there was a demo counter up for some expensive specialty fudges, and they were handing out samples (omg, that fudge was like chunks of heaven...). I got a box of a few different types of fudge, figuring my mom would especially enjoy these this Mother's Day because not only are they beyond any explanation of delicious, but it's not like she can gain any extra weight with the chemo treatments, and fudge is one of her absolute favorite desserts. :-)
However, I wanted to also get something a little more personal than chocolates. After all, she is the best mom in the world!
This is where I give Trevor all the credit. The boy is a hopeless, imaginative romantic (I'm sure he'll have girls lined up for him in a few years at the rate he's going). I don't know where he came up with this idea, but only a few weeks ago, he has declared that when there's a lady to whom he wants to show his love and affection, whether she be young or old, he wants to get her flowers and berries. Like I said, I have no idea where he came up with that idea, specifically the berry part of it, but it's SO precious to hear him say this!
He told this to my mom a couple of weeks ago when she came to pick up my sister from my house. She walked in the door and he hugged her and said, "Grandma, I love you so much that I'm going to get you some flowers and berries!"
One of the sample counters at Sam's was giving out little cupfulls of frozen mixed berries (blueberries, raspberries, and blackberries), and that's when the PERFECT gift idea dawned on me! Of course it would be from Trevor, but, seeing as he's only 4½ years old it's not like he can buy this stuff himself, so I will take the behind-the-scenes credit. :-) So I got a 3 lb bag of frozen all-natural mixed berries (and hey, they're full of anti-oxidents too! Good thing Mom loves to eat yogurt, granola, and cottage cheese topped with fruits). Trevor was beside himself with excitement; I'm glad he won't be seeing his grandma before Mother's Day because he can't keep a surprise secret to save his life, lol.
Now for the flowers part. It being Thursday night, I didn't want to get a bouquet of cut flowers right then, but I also didn't want to risk not being able to find any at all on Mother's Day morning. So we went to the garden section and I found a starter kit for water lillies, which can simply be placed in a pot of water in the sun and then they grow themselves and all you have to do is keep their water level up. It was perfect! Seeing as she has a really hard time kneeling down or bending over because she gets excruciating pain in her chest around the surgical site after chemo treatments, water lillies should be very easy maintenance. Plus, lillies symbolize new life, do they not? An adequate symbolic way of showing that this Mother's Day has brought and will bring new life.
I have faith that my mom will beat this cancer again and she will live into her old age. And, since Mother's Day seven years ago, our family has been blessed with Trevor's life. I know his life isn't particularly "new" this Mother's Day, but all the same, if it weren't for my precious son, I would still be stumped on finding a way to really express to my mom how much she means to me, how much I admire her and love her, other than a box of fudge. Trevor brings new life to me every day as I watch him grow into a generous, loving young boy with an expanding imagination.
I know this Mother's Day is definitely going to be one of the best I've ever shared with my mom, and to proudly know that I am blessed to be my son's mother.
Happy Mother's Day!!!