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Mary
p.s i'm right here thinkin we'll have to have some good time after all this is over...of course you'll have the better weather!

posted to you up top under baskets145..
Mary
p.s i'm right here thinkin we'll have to have some good time after all this is over...of course you'll have the better weather!

posted to you up top under baskets145..
Mary
p.s i'm right here thinkin we'll have to have some good time after all this is over...of course you'll have the better weather!

Be sure you tell them about the bleeding episode from that surgery, there are ways to prevent that from happening again. Any follow ups they order will help pin down exactally what they will look for. It sounded to me like that Doc there in Honolulu was a top notch surgeon. Be sure you write down all your questions for them, and get them to explain to you in a way that you completly understand.  I know how some doctors like to impress people with their learning the BIG words, I always had a problem reading their darn orders so I never let them leave the floor till they read them back to me. One Doc started printing them when I was on duty.

My prayers and all of that for your daughter.....we have to stay in the moment ....thank you so very much for your encouraging words, we sure all need each other and YEP, Star told my son last night and this a.m.   He is very supportive....now time to call my very pregnant daughter (25 yrs old) and doesnt understand this stuff, to tell her - and my 78 yr old mom back in Canada.    I will know more after Wed after seeing the gyn.onc I have somany questions.....like the meds I amon for life right now, also I had a cone biopsy 20 yrs ago on the cervix bled like a stuck pig from the vascular cervix, so do you bleed like nothing after this kind of surgery??   Just dont know what to expect...........
Love and best wishes
The Hawaiian Cyster Canuk!!  My brain of course is in high gear.....but maybe this specialist an put more of my mind at rest., I am told (here I go again) they can tell ALOT from the ultrasounds whether it is a serious thing right Star??
Please write back
WIth love Kathy  - Mary where aaaaaaaaaaaaaareeeeeeee you!!!!

My prayers and all of that for your daughter.....we have to stay in the moment ....thank you so very much for your encouraging words, we sure all need each other and YEP, Star told my son last night and this a.m.   He is very supportive....now time to call my very pregnant daughter (25 yrs old) and doesnt understand this stuff, to tell her - and my 78 yr old mom back in Canada.    I will know more after Wed after seeing the gyn.onc I have somany questions.....like the meds I amon for life right now, also I had a cone biopsy 20 yrs ago on the cervix bled like a stuck pig from the vascular cervix, so do you bleed like nothing after this kind of surgery??   Just dont know what to expect...........
Love and best wishes
The Hawaiian Cyster Canuk!!  My brain of course is in high gear.....but maybe this specialist an put more of my mind at rest., I am told (here I go again) they can tell ALOT from the ultrasounds whether it is a serious thing right Star??
Please write back
WIth love Kathy  - Mary where aaaaaaaaaaaaaareeeeeeee you!!!!

Well I was going to start a poll today to see who thought you should stay in Hawaii.  Not needed now.  You have made the right choice.  Get out the sexy nighties and the makeup kit  for the day after.  My daughter goes Thursday for first CA125 after the chemo.  I am very impressed at you ladies and the trials you have going on and the choices you must make. You are all first class in my book.  God Bless you all.

Hi buddy - my thoughts are with you today.....and tomorrow all good!   Wonderful support here.  
Next week I will be getting mine done too!   Called my Dr. this am in Kelowna he said a good 2-3 month wait (thats being generous) - I called the Honolulu doc gyn/onc I see him this Wed at nine!!!!!   He has open surgery for next week already!!!
CAN YOU BELIEVE IT!!!!!!!!!!! compared to our system back home in Canada.  My Dr., in Kelowna said GET IT DONE THERE - the wait is not worth all the stress and anxiety and immediately told him about "you" he said, yes, that is how it is, very frustrating for the surgeons and doctors".  So kid, we are doing it together within a week of each other!!!
Please post when you get home and are up to it...  You arent supposed to get the flu, thats why you have not...see, I believe everything has a timeline for us....all falling into place.   I will be around here if you can write back...

Love and Prayers,
Kathy

My thanks to all of you! You do not know how much your words have helped me. It has been a very hard week. My elderly mother is very sick with the flu,my daughter (3yrs) is very sick and now my hubby has it too!On a funny note(and not so much)every time my daughter comes to me she starts into this awful cough so I've said "Ava don't cough on mommy she can't get sick".Well you guessed it now she thinks it's a game so every time she calls me now she coughs on purpose! If I don't get this it will truely be a miracle.. I have faith In God to get me through this.
Mary

I guess I am a control freak...I need to know what is going on and if there is something not right I want it fixed right now...no reason to wait and let it get more "not right"...just get it over with so I can deal with whatever is next...
Peace.
dian

The fear and wait is worse then the procedure and the recovery. Trust me on this!

L.

My prayer is for you to experience your day of surgery with an overwhelming sense of peace.  I have not been "alone" or afraid during any procedure I have had this year.  Whatever your faith or belief, simply give up control of the ship to God, that higher power to guide you through the storm.  There is great triumph and victory in defeating our fears.  I now personally view any fear as faith in the negative (I won't put my "powers" in that direction) and I have made the choice to seek the "good" in all. Today we are blessed with science but know that we must have faith in that science as well.  We must all hold on to our childhood beliefs in making our own "good" magic and expecting miracles. I'd like to share my favorite scripture with all as I think it is so appropriate for this season of hope.  "Be not forgetful to entertain strangers; for thereby some have entertained angels unawares."   HEBREWS 13:2  I hope you meet an angel or two the day of surgery.  Peace and Healing.

Ladies please settle down, it doesn't do any good to fret and stew.  Just because this is an OVCA web site sure doesn't mean that all of you have that demon in you. Sometimes we just have to do something we wish we didn't have too, but to get the answers you both need, surgery is the only option. I feel that God is in every operating room, I know he has been there when all 5 of my children and my hubby were laying on those tables with life threating needs to be fixed. I surprised the surgeon at Mayo when I asked him to ask God to help him cleanse my daughter. He told me after the surgery that he was thinking about that throughout the time he was operating. God Bless you both and trust that all will turn our fine.

I will be on the phone tomorrow am with the spec. in Honolulu
and my useless dr in Kelowna, along with a call to a gn in Kel just to "see" (ha ha) what the wait time will be.  Im scheduled to flyhoe Dec 3rd but if its a WAIT FORGET IT!   You had to wait, and Kelowna from what Im hearing is Wait as well, its all staged like if your literally dying in the e.r. then they will look after you.  How long Mary did you have to wait to see a gyn after your ultrasound when you knew it was a complex cyst?
Then what did your gyn say???ANyhoo honey Im here as I said !!

Wouldnt it be fun if we could met oneday!
Toadster - Kath

Laughing away here - masking your daughter dinner - I justfinished a late Breaky and heading down to the water to and read to just try to get my mind off things too.....nothing we can do till its done. I have had surgery - 20 yrs ago on my cervix -, plus huge surgery for a smashed leg skiing in early 80's.   I have to tell you the surgery time is a snap - you simply drift off, and wake like a second later (no sensation of timethank God) and they will be there telling you - your fine, and probably sending you home the next day at the latest.  Do you know how long your surgery will be did the doc estimate to take that rude stranger out of there?  I will be anxious to know all of the "guidelines" after your surgery - so I can learn too.    No kidding, just last July really wasnt that long ago when we think of time perception, just earlu Aug. my daughter was home visiting me in Kelowna (shes having a baby in March) and I was "on top of the world" obviously the alien was even there then.......NO CLUE! It seems just like weeks ago,and here we are - you will be so good to go for Xmas too, think of that .....I will check back with you later on, I hope I am helping you a tiny bit, youwill be SO RELIEVED!!!!!!!!!!
Surgery is nothing to be afraid of, that doesnt scare me at all, Ive had 4 of them, including a lap. for my tubal ligation as well........its a cinch I promise.......
Hugs kiddo,
Canada Kathy

Thanks Kathy! You are so sweet.Wish I was there(doesn't everyone?)! Funny I remember being out with the hubby in July and crying and saying "Take me to the Er now,I can't stand another minute of this". Fast forward six mths later --still here with the alien! IT's funny you kind of get used to living in a hightened state of anxiety.I hope all goes well for you too.Call that doc in HNL tommorrow.I have to go make my daughter some dinner but I'm sure I'll be on again before too long../
Mary

Hi buddy - just lile ole me in Maui.just read your post and took a bigh sigh and went awwwwwwwwwwwwww...........just relating SO MUCH to how you are feeling and wanting youto know (easy to say because I will be in your boots very soon too!) that lets remember how high our chances are its benign!   We somehow have to keep feeding that to ourselves.  I know, I woke up this a.m. thinking of you and last night, you just are not alone emtionally - yep, they are going in there to get that stupid alien that has NO RIGHT OR NO BUSINESS in our bodies - "it has to go" and thats how I would be thinking.  You have waited for an eternity, I know, now its time to kick butt - I like to think of "do I wantthis thing inside of me in all liklihood maybe growing, causing me more over the top anxiety or GONE!  Just knowing it will be OUT 48 hrs from now - I truly wish it was me (not being selfigh at all) just getting it's done, in other words LETS ROLL!    Please write back, Im here for you - and you know something honey, I just KNOW it will all be fine.....I keep looking at the stats of our idiots in there and the good news is its really high it will be benign.......we have to focus on that...they put you to sleep, you wake up an instant later, and she's all over sweetie.......yep the toadster is trying to keep calm too.....and we all have those mood swings, why me, well why NOT me???   THere is ALOT OF US out there who dont even know they have them yet....Tomoorow I will know more about how long I have to wait if I go home -
I DONT WANT TO WAIT!!!!!!!!!! I want it done like yesterday!!!
Hugs, hugs, hugs, Kathy

I am right there with you!  I've NEVER had surgery, a broken bone or stitches, NOTHING!  Just 4 kids and those were a piece of cake each time!  Now I am faced with surgery hopefully after the holidays.  I have a small cyst on right ovary, uterus that needs "cleaning out".  My family doesn't know yet, not going to tell them till the last minute.  My 52 year old brother just died of Brain Cancer and I'm not ready to worry anyone yet.  I'll have a consultation with my Dr. this week to find out if I'm having a Laparoscopic surgery or a laparotomy.  NOT looking forward to either option...Kathy in OKC

Hey ladies,
Please do not worry about the laproscopic surgery.  I just had laporoscopic surgery Wednesday for a dermoid that was in my left ovary and the size of a plum according to my mom.  The procedure wasn't bad at all and now I am walking up stairs, eating and unfortunately am probably going back to college tomorrow.  The first couple of days were rough walking wise and I had some gas pains, but it hasn't been so bad.  This was also my first surgery and was very anxious about it.  Good luck and keep us posted!

Hi Mary, I am always afraid of the aspects of surgery, too. What's funny is my husband is an anesthesiologist and I should know better. Still, it requires complete trust b/c someone else holds you life in their hands. I am a Christian so I know that God holds my life first and foremost so that gives me comfort. I hope that you are comfortable with you doctors and trust that they will do the best job according to their ability.

Not knowing what exactly is growing in our bodies is also scary. This surgery is important b/c it will allow you to move in a direction, any direction, other than limbo land, which is what I call the waiting game.

I really hope that your surgery goes very smoothly! I'll say a little prayer for you.
Lori

Tell that big guy about your feelings  and let him know that everything will turn out ok.  You can have the surgery there and let him help with the recovery. We spend many years raising our kids to be adults, don't hide this from him. It will help you in the long run to be open about this to your family. As a nurse/mother I have always been open with my kids about all the "damn" mishaps we have had to handle through the years and it has made them all better able to handle their mishaps. You can handle this "Mauai Mom"  Big Smile Now.

Hi - ok ok I'm trying....to calm down in fact I am really trying...but alas these last few days I just don't know and you are so right this waiting is doing a huge number on me, thank you for understanding.  THey found the wrethced thing inidentally on Nov. 14th - they were not looking for it specifically I  just had a bad attack of gas!! Boom there it was.so yes, you are right 7.2 complex, this baby aint going anywhere -I just dont know how they prioritize us - do you....
I suppose if it looked suspicious we would be already in surgery at least that is what I was told....I just dont like the word complex, it just scared me all over again, plus no place like home, but its all so up in the air an dyes I want to get to this gyn/onc in HNL I imagine he will take another u/s right?
THanks again just having one hell of a bad depressing day and fighting it..........going over to see my wonderful son and future daughter in law in a few hours - gosh he is worried sick and i hate to see him like that...so Im trying to act like its no big deal......any advice on that one??
Kathy

Consider yourself Headslapped! Both of you!  Now take a beig breath and emt a szable Cyber Shriek,  I'll jon you...
AEAOOOOOOOOIIIIIIEEEEAARRRRGGGGGGG!!!!
     Mary, I had surgery the first time when I was eleven and found out that it was the unknown I was afraid of.  I have had two more surgeries since and don't fret anymore because I know what to expect.  Please let the nurse who checks you in for surgery know of your anxiety, they see that all the time and can give you something to take the edge off.  We will wat for you here on the Recovery Side Mary.
     Kathy,  the watch & wait is the worse!  II had a month between the two US, how long ago was your first?  I thought 6 weeks sounded a bit long too especially with the Htchhker already 7cm+.  My cyst was classified as complex as most are, it is a rather generic description of the shape of the cyst, means it is not perfectly round.  If you can get into the othe GYN in Honolulu go for it, your on the wretched watchful wait already.  When it gets to be too much, just drop by, chances are you wll find someone who s going through the same thing.  Take care you two!  MV