As long as your sexual appetite doesn't lead to issues like cheating on your spouse because they don't satisfy you, sleeping around with men just because you lack control in other areas of your life.  If you genuinely enjoy sex and have safe sex than I really don't see anything wrong with that.  If you find yourself waking up to a different man all the time and you like the attention you get from men and feel that sex is how you get men to pay attention to you...then that is a problem.  There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex as long as it doesn't control you.  Maybe you can check out a sex addiction group meeting and see if other people's stories sound like you.  I'm not judging you, I just feel like if you think you need help than why not give it a try.

I appreciate all of your comments and time in putting them up, but can I advise all of you to be wary of judging this is something I am also guilty of. maybe it would help if I clear up some of the facts?! I have an incredibly high sex drive, you would only need to ask my ex husband. I do find it difficult to find a man that satisfies me all the time, in that they generally can't keep up with me. I have toys and they get used lots. I don't feel sad after sex, if I don't have any for 2 weeks I get very very grumpy and frustrated, something i don't seem to have much control over!
"Many men" is not accurate description I have several "friends" that I have a mutual understanding with that it is nothing more than what it is. If you met me you would think I'm very respectable and I don't just jump into bed with the first man that comes along.I just find it difficult when I'm attracted to somebody not to get caught up in the passion of the moment, especially knowing how good sex can be. But i'm worried that i give guys that I genuinely like the wrong idea, that I'm easy?! again it comes back to the age old thing that it's ok for a guy but a girl gets called names?! any thoughts....

earlier you said its ok to have a high sex drive but to be promiscious is dirty. then you called me a prude. then you used the term get your freak on. you sound young , uneducated and not even comprehending her post. she had an unplanned pg due to her high desire and finds it troublesome. she is worried that her sexual appetite is interferring with life decisions. you need to understand that high sex drive and being with many men and worried about settling down for her desire to want others is something that calls for possible therapy. lets try understanding the facts before we start giving advice.

mother2four.... I respect your views. I just happen to disagree, is all. I know that people who put themselves in a bad situation, have a low self-esteem and in order to try to make themselves feel better.. they resort to behavior that they normally wouldn't do if everything in their life was going well.

renwick1... I have a question for you. Do you feel empowered when you are having sex with someone? And then afterwards, do you feel sad and powerless?

btw, have you ever read Seat of the Soul by best selling author, Gary Zukav? He is a former sex addict and has a chapter written on sex addiction in several of his books (including Seat of the Soul).

So critical, You sound like a prude, maybe you need a vibrator too. :)

I don't think you understand that this isn't about sex. Any addict has underlying issues that need to be addressed in order to SOLVE THE PROBLEM.

Forum is a place where people can share views, experiences , comments and opinions.  Renwick says has a high sex drive and has sex every opportunity she gets AND this is what at times got her into trouble.  I am merely suggesting an alternative in satisfying her sexual apetite without being promiscuious or endangering herself or her health. Is it so difficult to accept that she might just be naturally super horny, or is it easier to assume she has a real problem and needs medical help.

I'm sorry.. for some reason I wrote, "addict" although that probably isn't the case here.

some people just see black and white ,, how sad. seek help and see what the underlying issues are. its not about going to get a toy and satisfying yourself it def. seems more than that. wow some people

A strong sexual apetite in my opinion is healthy but being sexually promiscuious is not only NASTY but very DANGEROUS!!!  You need to get to the adult store and buy yourself a BOB Battery Operated Boyfriend and get your "OWN" freak on. A vibrator can really be a single girls best friend  ... its less hassle all around,its clean, safe, reliable, you dont have to feed it, fight it for the remote or wait for it to call you the next day.  Problem solved ... take responsibility for yourself and have safe fun while your doing it, its so less complicated.  Good luck!!!!

Sex is a physical and emotional act and it sooths both our minds and body.Arousal is associated with the production of dopamine and oxytocin- both hormones that make you feel good, bonded and loving. However, in the wrong situation, loving feelings are circumvented. And the proof that you have been in "wrong" situations is that you sound very sad. You have had some terrible losses and I don't think you have recovered from them. Sex can be like drinking or eating- great to a point, then, if abused, a coping mechanism that has not much to do with pleasure.

I think you have a lot of anxiety and tension and sex is a way to escape those feelings. It may be expressed in desire and attraction, but the roots of it are in sadness and emotional rejection.

I think sex is wonderful and I'm glad you enjoy it-but it is not making you happy- and that is a very significant fact. What you need to do is get some counseling so you can find out what is really giving you all this pain. You may need to talk about your divorce or the loss of your babies-or other things that are really difficult to discuss. But if you can understand why this pain doesnt go away , you may be able to use sex more as an act of love and play with someone you care about than with just somone who happens to be available.

If you want to be a mother and a partner, you need to be less impulsive and more selective- and happier. I am not preaching monogamy here- just being selective enough to be with people who care about you and who you care about.  Otherwise, you will only get temporary relief from sex and you will still feel those feelings that sadden you. You also need to be more selective and less needy so you don't scare off the "family man" you are looking for- you need to  get your sexual desires in line with your emotional desires.

All of this is possible. Don't despair. You can channel your sexual needs into an appropriately loving partner- but you need to understand yourself first, forgive yourself your past problems and acts, and feel less compulsive than you have in the past. You can have sex and enjoy it for what it is and who you are with--but not if you feel so impulsive that you really have no control over your choices.

Go see a good therapist . He or she will understand and sympathsize with your sexual dilemna and  will help you become less compulsively appetitive. You want love and a family-and you can get both. But you need to become less driven and more of a driver. Good counseling can help you do that.

have you tried therapy to see why your having sex addiction issues? are you sleeping with strangers and putting yourself at risk of disease or rape? those are things that need immediate attention.