What to expect from grandson with ADHD?

[Pattigail]

My grandson has ADHD and emotional disturbances.  I need help with behavioral issues, anger management, expectations / behavioral chart.  What should I expect from him?  He is very disrespectful, angry, out of control, but at the same time a very loving, caring, smart little boy.  Where can I get help?  I don't know the best way to discipline him..
thanks
pattigail

[Pattigail]

Thank you SO much..  I will find the book and go to the webside.  My grandson is 11 and he gaining more control everyday.  I know there are better ways to get his attention, just can't seem to find the right way.  We say a child physciatrist for 3 years and it was great just having that positive motivation that I needed.  We've lost that support mechanism.
pattigail

[Pattigail]

Thanks for the advise.  Something I have always thought I could NOT be is a friend.  I'm very stern and don't have too many gray areas because he is a boy and I don't want him to get older and think he can "get away" with things just because I am a female.  He's 11 now and getting into that smart alec stage, which makes me crazy.  But I will try to be more flexible and understanding because I WANT to be his friend I WANT him to talk to me.
thanks again!
Pattigail

[SophieX]

My brother was diagnosed with ADHD from a young age..my parents sent him to numerous councellors anger management anywhere they could think of and nothing worked..no matter what way they even disciplined him he just carried on..ADHD sufferers are very emotional and refuse to talk about their feelings and getting embarrassed thinking it makes them less of a man in his case often resolving in pushing people away..something you could try is to try asking him to keep some sort of a diary..my brother did this and he got alot of his feelings out without the discomfort of talking to someone face to face and seemed happier for it..im very close to my brother and im the only person he feels like he can talk to..maybe you could try acting more as a friend than a grandparent maybe this would make him feel more inclined to open up..as he gets older he will start to grow out of it..my brothers 24 now and getting married next year..never thought id see the day he would settle down..