Broken?

[theotterone]

We took our 9 year old daughter in to see what is going on with her.  The psycologist has been great in helping us.  Then we met with her today.  I have all the symptoms and she believes I am adult ADHD.  I have delt with depression and anxiety since I was a teen (I am 34 year old mom now) but some things did not get better.  Now instead of feeling releaved, I feel broken, like nothing about me is right.   Is this a normal reaction?

[theotterone]

Well, there is light on the horizon.  I had a review with my boss and told him what I found out yesterday.  The good news is he said it is part of what makes me who I am and he has always tried to gear my work to make use of my talents.  He told me he has had much expirence working with people with ADD and is behind me 100%.  I am lucky to have an understanding boss.  So now instead of broken, I feel hopeful.

[theotterone]

Thank you.  As the daughter of an elementary teacher that would take on all children, no matter what disability they had, I recognized some of the signs.  My daughter is good at math, but doesn't like it.  My 6 year old daughter shows some signs too.  I just feel as though every time I turn around there is something else wrong with me.  I don't feel very strong right now.  In fact, I told my husband I would understand if he left me (we nearly divorced 3 1/2 years ago) and he said no one is leaving.  I WAS tested 24 years ago, but they said I was not ADD.  So I thought the signs were my depression and anxiety.  I guess it caught me off guard and I am feeling sorry for myself.  I talk to my psyc next month and hopefully I can get some stratagies to deal...

Thank you for your kind words!

[Sandman2]

    Any one who is smart enough and cares enough to take her 9 year old daughter to a psychologist is far from broken.  Girls sometimes suffer for years with ADHD (ask Hoshi) because they are the quiet ones and its the loud little guys that get the attention.  The fact that you listened to your daughter and then did something instead of blaming her is wonderful.
   I can also understand your personal feelings, but you may be getting "broken" feelings mixed up with tremendous anxiety over your new discovery.  To me the worst thing about any illness was the "not knowing".  Now you know - and there is a ton of stuff you can do about it.  For both you and your daughter, you need to start reading up on ADHD.  A great place to start are the posts by Hoshi on this site.  Read all of them, they contain a ton of information and a lot of it will pertain to you!
  By the way, a lot of the kids I have taught that have ADHD really start having trouble with math at about the fourth grade level.  If your daughter had problems last year in math, try and get her some extra help during the summer and the school year to catch her up.  Of all the subjects, math is probably the most dependent on prior years knowledge.
   Finally, don't get down on yourself (or your parents).  Your daughter needs you.  YOU NEED YOU.  If you have any other questions please write.