Hi,
This is a tough one because you have all of the responsibility and emotional connection but not all of the rights: If the final decision is up to your husband, then all you can do is wait for an opening and the minute you have one, make an appointment that coinicides with when your son will be with you for the week. Your husband may fear that a diagnosis may bring "official" trouble: Absent a formal diagnosis, everyone can pretend the child is just a 'handful' sometimes and will 'grow' out of it. Truly, it sounds like the child needs to be evaluated. Do what you can but otherwise, you may just need to wait for the other adults to come around. I wish you all the best.
Thank you for your advice, his other parent isn't the easiest of people to deal with and we have had many problems with her. She tends to live her life through her son, wanting him to be a certain person, at the moment his hair is getting in his eyes but we are not allowed to get it cut because she wants him to have long hair and so on (Although I trimmed his fringe the other day as he was starting to squint) So this whole situation seems unbearably difficult. I tried to talk to my husband last week and it is as if he only hears what he wants to hear now, because certain things are better at times. I find myself wondering if there is something wrong or if this little man finds his life confusing at times and closes himself down, hiding away from the world?! I am just so afraid of starting something that isn't there!! He is in kindergarten at the moment and supposed to be starting school after the summer...What should I do?
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Hello,
I agree with Momttb, it does sound like it is on the Autism spectrum and your son does need to be professionally evaluated. That said, I know that some folks are wary about having a child evaluated by the 'system.' Whatever mechanism you choose, via the school or independently by a professional of your choice not affiliated with the public school system, it sounds like the child needs help asap, just for his own well-being. He is, perhaps, the most confused of all, at the moment.
Also, your husband gave you the perfect opening by asking you if you thought there was something wrong with the child. Maybe as someone who came into the scenario two years in, you feel wary about your role at times. That's understandble-- so, proceed carefully but do say something, so that you can both DO something. In the end, it's about the child.
You mentioned that he lives with you every other week or so, what does his other parent think about this?
At age 5, he should be in school- either kindergarten or preschool. Your husband should request they evaluate him there. His behaviors sound like something more on the autism spectrum than ADHD. Whether he is in school or not, he is over age 3, so is entitled to services through the public school system.