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My nephew will be four in a month and won't poop in toilet
My nephew will be four in a month and will not poop in the toilet. we have been potty training him for two years now. when he is with me i make him use the potty every hour however when his mom gets home and as soon as i leave he poops in his pants right away. He also does not know how to talk there is only a couple words he can say, when asked a question he will answer by repeating or trying to repeat what was asked. when asked why he did something he will repeat what he did twice. He refuses to wear clothes. He constantly gets into things. He does not understand what is said to him. Whenever he gets into trouble he smiles rather than cry. i just don't understand what the problem is. no matter how much trouble he gets into he continues to do things that he should know is wrong but for some reason he can't seem to compute that. please tell me what to do i am at a loss and so are his parents. i fear that he has autism when i check out the sight for the symptoms he matched all of them. can you help?
after reading your story a seeing your questions for me pretty much yes what hurts is that after checking he does have all signs that point to autism. i finally told is mother and all she said was yeah i know i need to take him in. and i fully plan on pushing her to do that. i am with him everyday and i just don't know what i can do for him. i don't know how to help him or teach him. so in closing i pray that his mother will take him in so that we know what we are dealing with and have a better concept of how to help him i will feel better in how i take care of him Thankyou for your comment
So a long story short, I have a 2 1/2 year old that seems like he is like your nephew. I posted in another forum but I thought I would ask you if your nephew has any of these issues listed below. I have made a list of tha majority or things that my son does hoping to get some insight but I haven't found it yet (sad thing is it has been over 1 1/2 since we started looking). Anyway if you wouldn't mind take a look and see if your nephew fits these:
•Doesn’t always seem to acknowledge when someone is right next to him.
•Only responds to his name when called about 10%-15% of the time.
•He has a speech delay that we noticed early on. He only had a few words by 18 months, started using 2 word sentences after 2 years of age, he is missing the ends of most words (i.e. eyes is eye, juice is jui, nose is go, hat is ha)
•He had surgery for being tongue tied in June 2009.
•He doesn’t understand personal space
•He has very little eye contact.
•Will pull people around but refuse to tell them what he wants.
•Hits (with hands and toys), bites, pulls hair, scratches, chokes, pushes. He doesn’t seem to understand that he is hurting the person or animal.
•He throws toysand uses them to hit people or bangs them on other toys or objects (windows, walls, doors, TV, etc…)
•Has frequent tantrums,They last anywhere from 5 seconds to over an hour.
•He will take food directly off of someone else’s plate or directly out of their hand and eat it.
•Will push people out of where they are sitting so he can sit there.
•He is constantly taking toys away from others.
•Constantly turning on/off light switches, closing doors that are open, pulling the cushions of the couch, etc…
•Climbs excessively on furniture
•Constantly pulls the wood trim off the walls.
•He needs constant supervision.
•He doesn’t seem to understand consequence therefore discipline is ineffective. He doesn’t learn that he cannot do certain things and that we will get punished for them. It is as if he is compelled to do these behaviors. It seems like he just cannot stop himself from doing them.
•He insists on turning things on. Switches for things such as the baby swing, the TV, the Xbox, lights, anything of that nature.
•Climbs over gates making it impossible to childproof areas that are impossible to childproof (i.e. the kitchen).
•Will move TV and climb behind it. Unplugs wires going into the TV and tries to plug them back in.
•TV stand doors are childproofed but he still manages to squeeze his hand in there and pull things out.
•Will take a sip from his Sippy cup then spit the drink on the floor or into toys and proceed to play with it.
•He is very destructive but I do not believe that he is trying to be.
•He is still putting everything in his mouth. He either just chews them or he will eat them (i.e. PlayDoh, board books, wooden puzzles, stickers, anything that is small enough to fit in his mouth)
•He will run in circles for no apparent reason. This is not spinning, it is bigger circles. Although on occasion we gave noticed him spinning around.
•For the most part he will refuse to get in his car seat with his jacket or shoes on. He will start screaming and will not stop. There are also times when he will not have his shoes or jacket on and will scream. These times I cannot figure out what the problem is.
•He seems to have a high tolerance for pain. He usually only cries when he is already mad at something. Otherwise if he hurts himself he usually laughs or just ignores it.
•He seems to have imaginative play that is being mimicked. For instance he will play with a baby doll by feeding it and then burping it. This is what he has seen his sister do many times. He does not however talk to the baby or pretend as if he is the parent. He doesn’t seem to bring his own ideas into the play. He seems to only do things that we know others have shown him.
•He doesn’t usually play with toys the way they are supposed to be played with. For instance, we have a video of him playing with his sister’s vacuum. He spent 20 minutes playing with the different parts of the vacuum, examining them, turning it upside down and playing with the wheels and putting the hose part in his mouth. This whole time he never used it as a vacuum. We have notice that with trucks he mostly pushes them around while running behind them. Rarely will he ever make any sounds that a vehicle will make. If he does it is usually “Vroom, vroom, beep, beep.” This is what we say.
•His hands seem to be awkward. He holds a crayon like he is making a fist. I can’t describe the awkwardness but it is as if he is not comfortable using his hands. I believe that all other areas of motor development are fine.
•Hates to have himself washed and his hair washed. He loves playing in the tub though.
•He is very difficult with teeth brushing. He refuses to let you help him and if he does it himself he just wets the toothbrush and ***** the water off and then repeats.
•He will get mad if Noggin/Nick Jr is turned off or changed even if he is not watching it.
•He will overstuff his mouth with food. Sometimes he will spit it out and the put it back in his mouth and eat it.
•Forces himself onto people. He tries to sit on someone’s lap and is forceful. He gets mad if you don’t let him.
•When we leave the house he needs to be wearing a backpack harness or in a stroller because he takes off with no regard for safety. This is even the case if we are just going outside to play.
•He will want to put his shoes, gloves, jacket, hat, etc on but once you put them on he gets mad and takes them off. Then he wants them back on again and the process is repeated.
•Pushes people to take things from him. If he wants me to take his toy for example he will force it into my hand. If I take it and put it down he will pick it up again and give it back to me.
•He will bring toys or a book over to you and then walk away.There are not many occasions where he brings a book over and wants you to read it. Most of the time he will not sit for a story. It seems as if he thinks it’s a good idea and then when you start reading he gets up, takes the book and walks away. I have noticed that most of the time that he brings me a book it is just after his sister has brought me one to read to her.
•Doesn’t always seem to acknowledge when someone is right next to him.
•Only responds to his name when called about 10%-15% of the time.
•He has a speech delay that we noticed early on. He only had a few words by 18 months, started using 2 word sentences after 2 years of age, he is missing the ends of most words (i.e. eyes is eye, juice is jui, nose is go, hat is ha)
•He had surgery for being tongue tied in June 2009.
•He doesn’t understand personal space
•He has very little eye contact.
•Will pull people around but refuse to tell them what he wants.
•Hits (with hands and toys), bites, pulls hair, scratches, chokes, pushes. He doesn’t seem to understand that he is hurting the person or animal.
•He throws toysand uses them to hit people or bangs them on other toys or objects (windows, walls, doors, TV, etc…)
•Has frequent tantrums,They last anywhere from 5 seconds to over an hour.
•He will take food directly off of someone else’s plate or directly out of their hand and eat it.
•Will push people out of where they are sitting so he can sit there.
•He is constantly taking toys away from others.
•Constantly turning on/off light switches, closing doors that are open, pulling the cushions of the couch, etc…
•Climbs excessively on furniture
•Constantly pulls the wood trim off the walls.
•He needs constant supervision.
•He doesn’t seem to understand consequence therefore discipline is ineffective. He doesn’t learn that he cannot do certain things and that we will get punished for them. It is as if he is compelled to do these behaviors. It seems like he just cannot stop himself from doing them.
•He insists on turning things on. Switches for things such as the baby swing, the TV, the Xbox, lights, anything of that nature.
•Climbs over gates making it impossible to childproof areas that are impossible to childproof (i.e. the kitchen).
•Will move TV and climb behind it. Unplugs wires going into the TV and tries to plug them back in.
•TV stand doors are childproofed but he still manages to squeeze his hand in there and pull things out.
•Will take a sip from his Sippy cup then spit the drink on the floor or into toys and proceed to play with it.
•He is very destructive but I do not believe that he is trying to be.
•He is still putting everything in his mouth. He either just chews them or he will eat them (i.e. PlayDoh, board books, wooden puzzles, stickers, anything that is small enough to fit in his mouth)
•He will run in circles for no apparent reason. This is not spinning, it is bigger circles. Although on occasion we gave noticed him spinning around.
•For the most part he will refuse to get in his car seat with his jacket or shoes on. He will start screaming and will not stop. There are also times when he will not have his shoes or jacket on and will scream. These times I cannot figure out what the problem is.
•He seems to have a high tolerance for pain. He usually only cries when he is already mad at something. Otherwise if he hurts himself he usually laughs or just ignores it.
•He seems to have imaginative play that is being mimicked. For instance he will play with a baby doll by feeding it and then burping it. This is what he has seen his sister do many times. He does not however talk to the baby or pretend as if he is the parent. He doesn’t seem to bring his own ideas into the play. He seems to only do things that we know others have shown him.
•He doesn’t usually play with toys the way they are supposed to be played with. For instance, we have a video of him playing with his sister’s vacuum. He spent 20 minutes playing with the different parts of the vacuum, examining them, turning it upside down and playing with the wheels and putting the hose part in his mouth. This whole time he never used it as a vacuum. We have notice that with trucks he mostly pushes them around while running behind them. Rarely will he ever make any sounds that a vehicle will make. If he does it is usually “Vroom, vroom, beep, beep.” This is what we say.
•His hands seem to be awkward. He holds a crayon like he is making a fist. I can’t describe the awkwardness but it is as if he is not comfortable using his hands. I believe that all other areas of motor development are fine.
•Hates to have himself washed and his hair washed. He loves playing in the tub though.
•He is very difficult with teeth brushing. He refuses to let you help him and if he does it himself he just wets the toothbrush and ***** the water off and then repeats.
•He will get mad if Noggin/Nick Jr is turned off or changed even if he is not watching it.
•He will overstuff his mouth with food. Sometimes he will spit it out and the put it back in his mouth and eat it.
•Forces himself onto people. He tries to sit on someone’s lap and is forceful. He gets mad if you don’t let him.
•When we leave the house he needs to be wearing a backpack harness or in a stroller because he takes off with no regard for safety. This is even the case if we are just going outside to play.
•He will want to put his shoes, gloves, jacket, hat, etc on but once you put them on he gets mad and takes them off. Then he wants them back on again and the process is repeated.
•Pushes people to take things from him. If he wants me to take his toy for example he will force it into my hand. If I take it and put it down he will pick it up again and give it back to me.
•He will bring toys or a book over to you and then walk away.There are not many occasions where he brings a book over and wants you to read it. Most of the time he will not sit for a story. It seems as if he thinks it’s a good idea and then when you start reading he gets up, takes the book and walks away. I have noticed that most of the time that he brings me a book it is just after his sister has brought me one to read to her.
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