It is possible that your son has Asperger's or ASD. This is NOT ADHD but if undiagnosed can lead to lots of frustration on the part of the child, parents and teachers. One symptom is the inability to pick up on escalation of social interactions, and the child lashing out" out of frustration when he is unable to communicate and/or feels he is being atacked for no reason. Quite often this reaction will be out of scale with the apparent initial causes, since the child is not able to figure out what is going on in that social situation.
Educate yourself about Asperger's and autism spectrum disorders to see if other aspects of his behavior fit the above picture. Then pursue interventions that can help your child become more aware of social situations and better able to ask for help when feeling overwhelmed or frustrated
It is possible that your son has Asperger's or ASD. This is NOT ADHD but if undiagnosed can lead to lots of frustration on the part of the child, parents and teachers. One symptom is the inability to pick up on escalation of social interactions, and the child lashing out" out of frustration when he is unable to communicate and/or feels he is being atacked for no reason. Quite often this reaction will be out of scale with the apparent initial causes, since the child is not able to figure out what is going on in that social situation.
Educate yourself about Asperger's and autism spectrum disorders to see if other aspects of his behavior fit the above picture. Then pursue interventions that can help your child become more aware of social situations and better able to ask for help when feeling overwhelmed or frustrated
This is clearly a very difficult situation with your son and I appreciate the difficulties that you are going through. I’m not clear on whether your son has been diagnosed with an autism-spectrum disorder but, in any case, effective treatment of aggression can be found regardless of diagnosis. I am glad to hear that you have read up on disciplinary techniques and have tried quite a few. The procedures that you list definitely can work but, given your situation, I would recommend getting some help from a professional who has experience in treating behavior problems. I strongly recommend that you seek the assistance of a Board Certified Behavior Analyst. Please visit the website of the Behavior Analysis Certification Board (http://www.bacb.com/) where you will find a directory of service providers. A Board Certified Behavior Analyst would be able to conduct or oversee an assessment to determine why your son is displaying this problematic behavior. An intervention based on this type of assessment is very likely to reduce you son’s problematic behavior and the development of an intervention does not rely on diagnosis.