I am at a total loss when it comes to my five year old son. Problems started when he was a few months old. Never slept never wanted to be held although breastfeeding went well, he never slept, cried a lot for no apparent reason, said mama at about 8-9 months, nothing else for at least a year after, ate rocks at the park, sand everything that he could get his hands on at home or out. started speaking mostly his own language or always saying ee- then any word ex. ee-mama or ee-boop (elephant) also had wierd high voice, no longer so extreme. at three he was speaking nearly normal. still doesn't understand facial expressions, tone or jokes. first diagnosis three years ADHD, he can sit and wiggle my watch back n forth for five hours. Obsession- snakes or anything long. must touch, even other people, clothes or hair. calls out repeating things he hears on occasion, especially Fu** repeatedly. Has extreme fits, very little eye contact. So questions: Do ALL autistic kids have no or stare through you eye contact? Can he be autistic but still play sometimes? look at people SOMETIMES? Build a train set, but line up other toys? Not be deathly afraid of strangers anymore, but even kiss strangers at the grocery store? Sometimes not hear a word or react, and sometimes have an almost normal conversation? We have had mixed messages. Four pediatricians and one psychologist sure he is autistic, two think aspergers two think high functioning autism pyschologist # 1 says sensory integration defecit, other says autistic, other says not sure, but definately not normal? Among a team at the childrens psych clinic, one says autistic one says different, one says has a lot of autistic symptoms/signs, but made good eye contact so she thinks maybe it's something else......??????????