What to to do im kind of in a bind.

[hawver1013]

I am the step father of a Oppositional Defiant Disorder child who may have conduct disorder also. My child has been acting out sexualy twards me and the clencher is  that she has been molested by 2 people and right now we are in the middle of an investagation into the sexual abuse and the one pardy is blameing me for the abuse.
The only time when she acts out is when my 14 year old is here with her friends and they snuggle and my 7 year old sees this and acts it out on me while i was in bed. I now sleep on the couch and she still tries to do things to me. in that case i tell her that it is inaproprate and i ask her to go to her moms room to sleep. I am not a child molestor but im sure in court they are (the other party who sexualy abused her) are going to blame me when my daughter said it was not me who abused her it was this other guy. My daughter is seeing a mentle health person and Ive told her these things and so what should my next step be.
Part of conduct disorder is acting out sexualy and i am afraid im an innocent person gonna go up the river for my daughters actions what do i do.

[ticked]

So I dont understand what you mean about not being a molester by choice.  Please explain.

Do you mean that it is possible that you could have touched her when she was asleep?  

I want to say the choice of leaving a child was on a sex offenders list is very irresponsible no matter what they told you.  If someone is sex offender they are a sex offender and that means no contact whatsoever with children. I have to say that was a very poor decision that you cant take back.

This girl that is with him has mental issues and to stand by a child molester is more than disturbing.

Is it possible that your autistic son molester her?  

When she said you were sleeping and the molester touched her, does that mean you were sleeping and you touched her or that you were sleeping and someone else touched her?

Was that the second time that you are talking about?  

[hawver1013]

She has been like this the all of her life and before i came into the picture.
She has been caught trying to molest our 17 year old son who is autistic. I caught him comming out of the room saying Kaydee tried to have naughty with me.
But as far as if the person was close to the family yes he was we did not know he was on the sex offenders list untill his girlfriend pointed it out, but his girlfriend said it was ok for him to be around kids and he did too looked my wife in the face and told her it was ok for him to have or be around kids.
My wife is not happy with the molester and his girlfriend who she knew since she was young. The molestors girlfiend said if i had to choose over jeff or Kaydee (7 year old) I would choose Jeff. So they are trying to blame this whole molestation thing on me. Ive been trying to avoid my stepchild I am not a molester by choice. But the events took place here at home. Kaydee said i was sleeping and that the molester and her were on the couch and he touched her in her privates said his hands were rough.

[ticked]

I am so sorry you are in this situation and I can see why you would be totally afraid of the consequences that it might bring.

Was she like that before you came in the picture?  

Was it someone close to the family that did this?

Is that person being questioned in all of this?

Where did these events take place?

I am sure during her therapy they will figure most of this stuff out.

How is your wife with all of this?

When was your child molested? was this a while ago or recently?

The one thing I would do is keep talking to her and tell her that her actions are inappropriate and that she needs to stop. Does your older daughter talk to her or spend time with her?  

Did the defiance come when you came into the picture or after?  

What was she like as a child when you werent around?