two weeks and still have not misscarried

[jhopeful]

Hi everyone, so I found out two weeks ago today that we lost our baby.  At 7 weeks 6 days, the baby only measured 5 weeks 5 days (and there was no progression for two weeks or heartbeat).  So I have now been off progesterone for two weeks exactly and have still not misscarried.  I have been having cramping on and off for 5 days and have had "very small" amounts of spotting.  Does anyone know the average on how long it takes?   They have told me they could set up a D & C but I having been trying to avoid it. I don't know how much longer I can take though!  A little bit about me..  My husband and I have been trying for over two years now. Countless cycles of IUI's and 3 IVF's, we finally got pregnant.  Only to find out weeks later that we lost the baby.  We are hoping to move on from this and try again soon.  

[hudsy]

I  had a D&C on Dec. 4th and I was trying to avoid- I had actually never heard of one until I miscarried. I read it can take some women 2-6 weeks!!!! Some cramp the entire time, others it's not so bad. I ended up opting for the D&C after talkign to people who miscarried naturally and told me how horrible it was for them emotionally. I went in friday morning came out an hour and a half later and I was pain free w/ just light spotting for 5 days. It's a gave me a sense of closure and I didn't even need to take any pain meds after. Since your body hasn't yet begun to clean everything out, I would look into the D&C to speed things up a bit and to avoid any infrections. Good luck!

[k10road]

i too had a blighted ovum in April of this year, and I waited almost two weeks to miscarry.  It never happened.  My doctor didn't prescribe the pill to induce miscarriage because he didn't want to appear as though he were any sort of abortion doctor, and he said that by prescribing that pill, even though it has great uses in a case like mine, it made him appear as though he performed abortions - which he didn't.  Anyhow, after 2 very hard weeks of waiting, I gave up and scheduled the D&C.  Good thing I did.  My body was not at all trying to miscarry naturally, and when they did the D&C, the tissue was all grey inside.  I suppose that is not a good thing and I believe that infection would have come on very soon.  So for me, I'm glad I did the D&C.  Good luck to you and my prayers are with you.

[bam1014]

jhopeful - I'm so sorry for you loss.  This group is a great place for comfort and support as we have all been in your shoes.

My story is this . . . . August of 08, we heard the hb at 7 weeks, but due to abnormal measurements they scheduled me for another at 8.  2 days prior to the u/s I  had small amounts of brown spotting and cramping.  At the u/s the hb was gone.  They said due to my spotting I would m/c any day and in fact I did a couple of days later.  So it could be that your cramping and spotting may mean you are on the verge of the miscarriage :(

I pray that it happens soon for you, as I know how awful the wait is.

[jhopeful]

Thanks girls.  My doctor mentioned the meds. but for whatever hasn't brought it up again.  It's seems to be either natural or D&C.  Maybe I will ask them about it tomorrow.

[Princessa745]

I aso miscarried. But not naturally. I found out at my 9wk appointment that i only measured 6wks. I had no sign of miscarriage. I opted for the DNC, I didn't think i could emotionally take having to see my miscarriage.

[TCGirl]

I am so sorry for your loss.  I miscarried on September 26, I should have been around 11 weeks, but only measured at 6, it was a blighted ovum.  I used, I believe it was called Cytotec, to bring on the miscarriage.  My doctor informed me I could just wait for it to occur on its own, which could take up to a month, if infection did not occur first, or I could have a D&C.  I didn't want a D&C, so my doctor prescribed the medication so I could still have it naturally.  The whole experience wasn't that bad physically, but the emotional part is really rough.  If you do not want a D&C I would ask your doctor about prescribing something to you.  I knew for around 2 weeks that this was coming, and that was some of the longest weeks I have experienced.  I am truly sorry for your loss.