Condom only, no tears, just worried

[mimisk8]

My friend is asking me about sex, and I don't know anything about it other than what was learned in high school career and life management. She tends to be the worrisome sort, and I think asking someone from the professional community may give her some peace of mind. She has told me that her boyfriend and her had sex for the first time today and used a condom. According to her, the condom did not tear and no penile fluids dripped. She told me she experienced some pain as he penetrated her, and that she bled a little bit. She is not as worried about contracting an STD as she is about being pregnant. I found out about the Plan B One Step emergency contraceptive, but it talks about use within 72 hours of unprotected sex. Should I recommend for her to use the Plan B One Step for the sake of relief even though she did have protected sex with a condom? If not, what would you suggest for me to do in order to calm her down a bit.

[mimisk8]

Thank you all for your comments - I really appreciate the feedback. My friend is currently 19, and from my opinion, she did not seem really ready to have sex, but she was apparently that close with her boyfriend and hopefully the act wasn't forced on her. Even though most statistics say that condoms have a 96-98% success rate, the 2-4% chance of being ineffective is what worries my friend. From the sounds of it, it seems like she will be okay which is relieving for her and myself as well. Thank you again.

[msniki412]

If the condom did not rip, break or tear...then no she is not pregnant nor does she have any std's. If your friend is really concerned about all of this...she should probably just stay away from sex. There is no reason for her to take the Plan B pill....she didn't even have unprotected sex. How old is your friend?

[mnardiroquette]

If the condom did not slip off it shouldbe 98% safe. It is normal to be worried. Teh morning after pill should be taken only when very serious concerns raised, such as broken condom or slipped off. I would not worry at all.

[sarah680]

Plan B is a lot of hormones going into the body.  If she were to take it she'd probably feel pretty sick for the next couple of days.  It sounds like she was very responsible and has no reason to worry.  Unless there's a possibility that they started without the condom I think she just needs to take a deep breath and trust that she is going to be fine.  It is normal to have some bleeding upon insertion if it was her first time, and some pain is normal.  The whole experience can be extremely emotional but it sounds like she was responsible and doesn't need to worry about unplanned pregnancy.  If there is any possibility that she thinks there was any contact of fluid then she can get Plan B but it doesn't sound like it's necessary.