How young do you feel is to young to make the decision of getting your tubes tied

[utgal]

I am 21 and now pregnant with our fourth child I have the hardest time getting being pregnant. I really want to have my tubes tied because 2 of our children were conceived while I was on birth control, my husband and I really and truly feel that four children is enough and we love our children so much I want to be able to provided not only emotionally but financially as well. My family feels that it is to early in my life to make such a final decision so my question is How young do you feel is to young to make the decision of getting your tubes tied?

[curious0396]

I think that you may be 21, but you do have 4 children.  

And if you and your husband both feel that you are done then be done girl.  The only other thing to take into consideration is, the big what if... what if you two break up / divorce and another man you find wants a child of his own.   its a just sayin thought.

You could always do the Mirena IUD , the next best thing to tieing the tubes. :)  

I have 3 children and am 26.. i wanted to tie myself off at 19 after baby 2, but doc say she wouldn't i was too young.  I'm super glad i didn't, and I really want to have another so I am using IUD.  maybe some year once my kids are fairly grown up i will have another.

Just be 100 % sure you never want another pregnancy before you do it.  You do have a lot of years left to let the kiddies grow up.. who knows what can change :)

[emmiesmam]

if you are sure you dont want anymore children then do whats best for you and your family its your body and i really agree 4 is enough xx good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

It would be simpler for your husband to get a vasectomy, for a few reasons.  

1.  The operation is simpler, can be done in the doctor's office in under an hour.
2.  It can more easily be reversed, and the operation to reverse it is not as complicated.
3.  A vasectomy that is reversed, even if there is some scar tissue in the tube, will not give the person who has the reversal a potentially life-threatening ectopic pregnancy.
4.  A ligation (on the woman) is a more complicated operation.
5.  Tubal ligation is very difficult to reverse successfully, and costly to try.
6.  If a woman does get her tubes reconstructed, it might create more scar tissue.  That can block the passage of the embryo through the tube, and result in a tubal pregnancy.

I hear you saying that after four children, you two are through making babies, and those are good reasons to be done -- four kids is plenty, quality of life for the whole family, and so on.  However, you have two decades and more ahead of you when you *could* potentially come across a reason to wish to have another child.  

We get letters constantly on this site from women who have had an unexpected divorce and now have remarried a man with no kids, and want to be able to have a child with him.  

Other reasons someone would regret the decision to stop so young  ... sometimes, sadly, there is a death of a spouse, or also tragically, a death of a child.  If a person is in that position, having had a ligation at only 21 might really be a cause for regret.  (At least your husband, should such a thing happen, would be in a better position to get a reversal.)

Talk to your husband.  If he utterly refuses, talk to your doctor about some other form of birth control.  And perhaps your husband would be willing to wear a condom along with the birth-control method you choose, if he won't consider a vasectomy.