Still on the attack

[sharver2000]

My 6 year old male neutered cat attacks my husband with no provocation.  I do not want to get rid of the cat but my husband can't take it much longer.  He has been declawed so he doesn't hurt my husband much.  We have another cat, a spayed, declawed female, of about the same age.  She was here first.  They seem to get along.  I hoped that he would get used to my husband but that hasn't happened yet.  He doesn't bother me at all but he has hissed and attacked my sons when they have visited.

[KittyCatLover23]

I agree with Lisa, that makes matters worse. Try using lavender oil in your home. It has helped calm my youngin down. I use oil diffusers.

[LisaMarie2323]

You had him declawed for your husband's safety? I am not okay with getting a cat declawed. It is very painful (they remove bones!) and will often make aggression issues worse, not better. Some cats simply do not like one sex. He may not like male humans. My friend's cat is a female and she acts the same way to all women. Very prissy and mean but with men, she is perfectly fine. Yes, even strangers.

[AnnieBrooke]

Guess I should say, I had one like that, too.  Before he went to live with my aunt.  (We have another who wandered in as a stray, have him now, but he's not a hisser.  He has deferred-aggression syndrome, and will bite if you pat him too long, despite being loving and affectionate much of the time.)  Anyway, good luck.  It's hard when you love your kitty and kitty chooses to be obnoxious to everyone but you.  

[AnnieBrooke]

I've got one like that, too.  Got so bad that once when I was sitting on the porch, he peed on my back.   We re-homed him to my aunt's, where they were having a mouse problem, thinking he would live in a little heated house in their shed.  And you know, he was never snotty once with them. He sleeps in their heated waterbed and basically rules the roost.  No other cats are allowed to step foot on their property, of course, but they don't mind.

Don't know what to tell you; you can't change your husband's attitude from barely-tolerant to loving and doting, and that might be what it will take.  If your cat is a beauty, maybe you could keep an eye out for an all-female home for him.  

[sharver2000]

The cat came with an attitude.  My husband would just like to be left alone and the cat's attacks are unprovoked.  I think he was mistreated in his previous home and until the last couple of months my husband was on the road most of the time but now they are together daily.  My sons can tolerate the cat as they only stop by to visit.

[sharver2000]

My husband used to be a trucker and is now off the road so the cat sees him every day.  This hissing could be tolerated but the attacks are getting to him.  The cat is a rescue and came with an anti-male attitude.  My husband tried for a time to feed him treats and connect with him.  I guess he'll just have to try harder.

[CML2014]

Hi,

I am going to assume the cats were yours before you met your husband?
If yes than this may be why your husband is getting dirty "hisses". The male is very protective of you and see your husband as a threat or competition. Your sons--not sure, but he may have been mistreated by a male at some point and just has it out for them.LOL

This does take time and patience. Have your husband be the one to give him treats, play with him, maybe even feed him, and eventually the male will come to him. When that happens you know it is all good. Cats need to make the first move.
Once the male has accepted your husband the Males in your life may not be thought of as threatening.

Just a thought. I am sure many will come up with more ideas.

Good Luck,
CML .....and keep us posted, K?